Slipping Through My Fingers

teafor2

Wannabe I'm sad already thinking I'll be leaving all those beautiful flowers behind. I'll pick a few from each bunch though for mementos. Went to the post office today. xx

Choccygirl123

I'm sure the flowers you make will be beautiful and it's definitely more personal.

When my hubbies stepFIL died I said to family I didn't want to order flowers with rest of family each paying £30/40 for a small arrangement. The brothers were put out and said we should all do the same so it matches. I made a beautiful round circle oasis display with the children that cost me £8. It was made with love and I think more meaningful than just handing over cash to a florist.

His mum didn't want to leave all the displays, so she had they taken home and left on her patio. She had the time to read and save the cards and I thought it was a lovely idea.

teafor2

The way you chose to do your flowers sounds lovely Choccygirl and I agree, doing them yourself makes it much more personal.

I've made the DC's roses up and also a small bouquet of 3 roses and I'm really pleased with how they look. They're sat in water and there's no chance of them wilting because it's like a fridge in this house!

Bringing them home is a nice idea. I think we'll leave most of them there but I want some to come back with me. A lot of family have had funerals at the crem we're going to and there's somewhere you can put all the flowers so we'll do that as a nod to relatives who've passed over. We've got all the cards from when hubby's Dad passed away several years ago. He still hasn't read any - it's just something he can't bring himself to do. x

WannabeFree

We brought some of my dads home, the bigger ones just me, my mum and sister had got. The single roses we left on his coffin and the flowers from others we put on the graves of other relatives at the same place. It's such a lot of money sometimes. Obviously not saying it's a waste. I have one of his favourite plants in a pot in my garden now where the smalls leave small things they collect (shells/stones etc). Now they want to do one for the dog.

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teafor2

Wannabe, a plant is something I'd prefer my family to do when my time comes. Love the thought of your children sending treasures they find to Grandad. Will you do one for the dog?

I love flowers and get a lot of joy from seeing them in the house, but I do think they're a waste at funerals. Especially at mine, when I won't be around to appreciate them Sorry, don't mean to offend anybody here, it's just a personal feeling.

I'd be quite happy to be taken from A to B when my time comes with no fuss whatsoever. But sometimes a funeral is for those who are left behind isn't it. Just a shame they're so flipping expensive and raw emotions are a big part of wanting the best for their loved ones. I feel a change in the air though and think people are waking up to fact things don't actually need to cost the earth. x

WannabeFree

My dad always said "put me in a cardboard box and leave them to it"

We had a really basic funeral for him and it was still over £4000 and that was nearly 10 years ago! I remember the cost to my Mum at the time being a real struggle (I had already left home but she had my younger sister still at home as she was only 12)

I think it's such a personal thing. I am of the same views as my Dad had. Do whatever makes those at the time choose is right for 'them' Where as my Mum has hers all planned and paid for and really traditional.

I think we will do something in the garden for the dog once the weather is a bit nicer
x

teafor2

Hubby's Dad said the same thing about the cardboard box so we asked about it. Nearly fell off my chair when they said they were more expensive than a traditional coffin :eek: Wonder if it's because it's a bit trendy at the moment so they've seen yet another way to get a bit more money out of people.

My mum is even worse. She says "wrap me in a bin bag and take me to the tip". She actually means its as well :rotfl:

beanielou

My mum also says a cardboard box.
Hopefully not for a very very long time.

teafor2

Cardboard seems quite a common theme Beanielou :rotfl: I really do understand wanting the full works as it were for younger people, but I think as you get older you start to think, don't waste your money, stick me in a box and have done with it. x

teafor2

Quick end of day update.

Posted a parcel today and apart from that haven't spent anything else even though I bought armfuls of flowers and a new top. The flowers came from the joint account and the top from Christmas money. Cash left now is £31.41. I'm really hoping at least £15 of this will be carried forward next week. We've nothing planned over the weekend so unless something crops up it could even be a bit more. x