The Prepping Thread - A Newer Beginning ;)

mothernerd

Sorry but DS3 is still at home and he's 30 (so is his Beloved who has been with us for the past 4 years - they've been seeing each other for about 12 years). Mummy of twins (daughters aged 11, 8 and 3 yo twins) has taken a look at the family next door (all offspring still at home, aged from late 20s to mid-30s) and has started pricing up extensions (cheaper than moving)as they're already bursting at the seams and have a large garden.

Getting on the property ladder is more difficult and absolutely out of reach for many young people and social housing (council housing) is in short supply. Private rental often costs more than a mortgage, moving from one to the other is problematical and high (and increasing) unemployment, low wages, zero hours contracts and job insecurity compound the problem. 

cuddlymarm

Both of mine have long since left the nest but I think the days of kids moving out is ending. The cost of living is just too high for a lot of people to buy a home of their own and older members of the family needing care may mean it’s easier and cheaper to get a bigger, multi generation house. Only one set of bills,  no childcare or grandparent costs by sharing the care etc might mean a better standard of life for whole families. An end to the loneliness of widowed parents too. As long as everyone knows what is expected and give and take this could be the way to go.

villagelife

DS1, who is 28, moved out a couple of weeks ago and DS2,who is 27, is moving out over Christmas period. Lockdown did help them save the extra for the deposit as both on furlough but had no travel costs and DS1 did manage to get a temp job packing fruit too. It is very hard for them to get a large enough deposit to buy somewhere and rent is very expensive around here.

euronorris

I'm afraid I first moved out at 25, and then I returned at 30 for 2 years (after living abroad), whilst we got back on our feet and coud afford to move out again. We moved to the other side of the country to find affordable housing though. And still renting. We are working towards a deposit but it's tough saving when our rent for our 2 bedroom place is more than the mortgage for my neighbours 3 bedroom house. Still, it is HALF that of the market rent of the town I grew up!! Hence the move. All we can do is keep trying to progress my career and therefore salary, but even that is uncertain now.

monnagran

Butting in to say that mine moved out in their twenties but returned for varying amounts of time due to the occurrence of divorce, break ups financial disaster.............
Now in their very late forties and fifties I've been free of them for years.
My eldest has told me that I am not to worry, he will never let me go into a care home.  He will move in and look after me himself.
I have doubled my vitamin pill intake.

Whitefiver

You're all doing it wrong - should have changed the locks..... <grin>

(With apologies for continuing this sidetrack!)

mothernerd

Not necessarily a sidetrack. We need to look at what is happening now and how things pan out. When I bought my mum an adjustable bed from the hospice charity shop (£2000 worth of bed for less than £200 delivered) the man who came to complete the installation (lots of wires) said he advised every friend over 45 who was looking for a house to buy a bungalow. I'm 62 (63 in under 7 weeks) and I moved in a couple of times last winter when I was ill (I stayed in my room). Getting down the stairs  at home really took it out of me and I was tired of asking DS3 and his Beloved to fill a 2 l bottle of water from the tap or bring me something easy to eat (fruit, yoghurt etc). Filling from the bathroom taps only gets a little water.

Similarly I told some fellow churchgoers who were thinking about a new kitchen to consider things like taps which can be worked by moving a bar (arthritic hands find traditional taps hard to turn). I told them I appreciated that they were both in excellent condition at the time but that most people put off thinking about these things until they need them and are then too old to be bothered putting up with the mess and upheaval. So now that arthritis in my shoulder means I have to put away one plate at a time and am moving away from using my top cupboards where I can, I am saving for and planning for a new/ refit kitchen (I mainly want lots of pan drawers that will take heavy stuff and glide in and out). My kitchens last between 16 and 20 years so the 'new' kitchen should see me out (less wear and tear and no boys kicking drawers/ doors shut, spilling things etc). So if I wanted to I could stay in my own home as long as possible.

DigForVictory

One young monster has said flatly that if he stays here for another 2 years, he'll have his deposit sorted. And opined that his brother ("who'll never have a real job" being an artist) can stay here & look after us. I think he underestimates both his little brother & how much it costs to run a house, but we'll not be throwing them out unless they start stupid hobbies like gambling & drugs.
The house is on three stories which keeps us all more limber than we might be otherwise, but I'm eyeing beams thoughtfully for where to fit a lift. 

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I miss my girls every single day of my life, the youngest moved off to Uni 18 years ago and never came home again except for the holidays, I miss them so much but not their ironing!

3secondmemory

boazu said:

I miss my girls every single day of my life, the youngest moved off to Uni 18 years ago and never came home again except for the holidays, I miss them so much but not their ironing!

I secretly hoped at the beginning of lockdown that one of mine might need to come home 😂😂

i’ve nearly finished my grand kitchen organisation – my ADHD means everything has to be washed cleaned and sorted – the only thing remaining is my Tupperware collection. I’ve increased my storage space with a new sideboard from the BHF. Unfortunately my feline dependents were used to eating up on the old table I had in that space. It was easier than me bending down to feed them and I only used the table for my seedlings. They are now desperately confused because they cannot see their bowls and water on the kitchen floor.