Homophobic gossip ruining my life at work

badmemory

Most people don't give a monkeys if someone they work with is "gay" or not. Or cheating on their other half or pretty much anything else apart from the fact that it gives them something to talk about when all else gets boring. They just would rather not work with someone who is breaking the law & !!!!!philes come pretty much top of this list, with wife/husband beaters not far below. Goodnight darling response - see you tomorrow sweetie would seem appropriate.

Samsung_Note2

silverwhistle wrote: »

That is an incredibly prattish statement.

Oh really...well please explain in detail why that is then.



Or are you simply making assumptions....:j

Samsung_Note2

gilett wrote: »

And I don't make a point at work of being openly gay. I keep my private life private, hence why I don't have the problems the op has. Personally I think he should have just kept it to himself in this instance.


Re the rest of your post, I think we're on the same page lol

As we all should...i dont tend to talk about my wife and kids and why should at work,my family life is no one else business,probably very dull as well to the out side world.

I've actually had to tell a chap i work with that i dont wish to hear about his problems with his wife and the girl he is knocking off or her little girl and the fact she resents him...polite for the first few hours and bored after several hours and told him to change the bloody record after a day lol.

I know people love gossip...but to be its just an annoyance...its like being forced to watch Eastenders,just endless drivel.:D

xapprenticex

The one that got me were guys of a religion i wont state, I used to work with a few back in the day, they wouldn't touch pork or meats not slaughtered a certain way if you put a gun to their head but openly and brazenly bragged about cheating on their wives with English women.


Priorities i guess

gomer

xapprenticex wrote: »

The one that got me were guys of a religion i wont state, I used to work with a few back in the day, they wouldn't touch pork or meats not slaughtered a certain way if you put a gun to their head but openly and brazenly bragged about cheating on their wives with English women.


Priorities i guess

Probably not only the women they cheat with either

RichardD1970

xapprenticex wrote: »

The one that got me were guys of a religion i wont state, I used to work with a few back in the day, they wouldn't touch pork or meats not slaughtered a certain way if you put a gun to their head but openly and brazenly bragged about cheating on their wives with English women.


Priorities i guess

Actually that's not true. Islam has provision for eating what would be normally considered haram in extreme life threatening circumstances.

Samsung_Note2

xapprenticex wrote: »

The one that got me were guys of a religion i wont state, I used to work with a few back in the day, they wouldn't touch pork or meats not slaughtered a certain way if you put a gun to their head but openly and brazenly bragged about cheating on their wives with English women.


Priorities i guess

I work with two Muslim guys...neither agree with each other regards their religion as they both interperupit so very differently.

20aday

HendrikSavoo wrote: »

Thanks all, for the replies, I keep checking back here every couple of days to read new posts.

I think it has been about 8 weeks now since I was "outed", and the silliness from the homophobic quarter hasn't died down yet - I don't think it is worth wasting my time with them anymore.

The way I deal with the situation though is to pretend I don't know what's going on - because although snidey remarks have been made there has been no direct reference to my face. Therefore if I was as confident as I pretend I am, then I wouldn't be worried one slightest little bit.

The reality though is that I find it hard to hold back the tears when I am at work, even if only because I have made myself look like a closet case living a double life (not true, and the guy who "outed" me knows that, too).

To all who suggest reporting to HR, most supermarkets in the UK no longer have HR departments in each store, so I am unaware of the process required. I don't rate senior management enough to think they will deal with the problem, so it's HR or nothing I'm afraid.

Trust me, they aren't worth bothering with, it's easy to say but just turn up to work, do your job as best you can, and then go home again.

I know it's not always easy but irrespective of gender, orientation etc they'll soon get bored and move onto someone else. Acceptable? No. Part and parcel of working with a lot of people? Unfortunately so.

And I know it's incredibly unpleasant, to say the least, when people make unwelcome remarks about something that isn't any of their damned business. Last week some young 'men' (stupid little boys without a brain cell between them more like!!) made use of the 'f' word when I was outside having my cigarette break.

Usually I'd laugh it off as the 'f' word to me is a meat ball dish you'd find in the butchers or freezer but some days it does get to you, I know.

Comms69

gilett wrote: »

No. the legal benchmark is if the complaint 'percieves' it as such. Perception is the key here.

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/elderly-woman-questioned-police-hate-13535704.amp

Even if that is what you actually believe (and no it's not the legal position) the investigation still focuses on IF it's true. That's what an investigation is...

Malthusian

RichardD1970 wrote: »

Actually that's not true. Islam has provision for eating what would be normally considered haram in extreme life threatening circumstances.

Doesn't necessarily invalidate Apprentice's belief about his friends. There's nothing to stop you from gold-plating the Quran's rules and refusing to eat meat even with a gun to your head. Indeed it's the sort of thing that would get you respected as a martyr down the centuries.

It's the kind of rule that religious people love because you can act like a complete Richard to actual human beings including your wife, and still consider yourself a good person because you follow some silly rule about bacon.