Homophobic gossip ruining my life at work

pmduk

HendrikSavoo wrote: »

OK, so some time soon, we have our department secret santa and I am fairly sure I am going to be given a dildo or some other sex toy.

You're really beginning to see problems before they exist. So what if it happens? You put any unwanted joke gift in the bin!

gomer

HendrikSavoo wrote: »

OK, so some time soon, we have our department secret santa and I am fairly sure I am going to be given a dildo or some other sex toy.

Seeing as this is extremely awkward, borderline bullying, what would be the best way to deal with it?

What if people take a photo of me holding it and put it on Facebook or something/?

You know it's posts like this that make me wonder if this is a windup lol

Comms69

HendrikSavoo wrote: »

OK, so some time soon, we have our department secret santa and I am fairly sure I am going to be given a dildo or some other sex toy. - 1: if you're that anxious just don't take part. 2: no you wont be.

Seeing as this is extremely awkward, borderline bullying, what would be the best way to deal with it? - IT HASNT HAPPENED

What if people take a photo of me holding it and put it on Facebook or something/?

It wont happen. Go to your GP and get help for your anxiety

gomer

Comms69 wrote: »

It wont happen. Go to your GP and get help for your anxiety

Dildophobia? lol

Samsung_Note2

HendrikSavoo wrote: »

OK, so some time soon, we have our department secret santa and I am fairly sure I am going to be given a dildo or some other sex toy.

Seeing as this is extremely awkward, borderline bullying, what would be the best way to deal with it?

What if people take a photo of me holding it and put it on Facebook or something/?

No thats wishful thinking.

And you wonder why people are talking about you..is it due to being Homosexual or an attention seeker.

Id lay a penny to a pound its due to you craving attention and talking complete clap trap.:mad:

lincroft1710

HendrikSavoo wrote: »

OK, so some time soon, we have our department secret santa and I am fairly sure I am going to be given a dildo or some other sex toy.

Seeing as this is extremely awkward, borderline bullying, what would be the best way to deal with it?

What if people take a photo of me holding it and put it on Facebook or something/?

1. You haven't been given anything yet and it may not be a dildo or any other sex toy

2. It is hardly "bullying". Decades ago I was given a slightly embarrassing secret Santa present, which we all laughed about, and part of which had a practical use, so of some benefit. So if you get a dildo, laugh it off.

3. Don't hold it in a way that it is easy for someone to photograph and if you do get a dildo and if someone does photograph it, I am pretty sure you could find photos on the internet of heterosexual men holding dildos.

You are completely overthinking things and I am also beginning to wonder if you are attention seeking or indeed if this thread is genuine.

ReadingTim

HendrikSavoo wrote: »

OK, so some time soon, we have our department secret santa and I am fairly sure I am going to be given a dildo or some other sex toy.

Seeing as this is extremely awkward, borderline bullying, what would be the best way to deal with it?

What if people take a photo of me holding it and put it on Facebook or something/?

Then simply re-enact the actions of Hatchet Harry, from Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels - which should stop most workplace issues you're facing...

Samsung_Note2

lincroft1710 wrote: »

1. You haven't been given anything yet and it may not be a dildo or any other sex toy

2. It is hardly "bullying". Decades ago I was given a slightly embarrassing secret Santa present, which we all laughed about, and part of which had a practical use, so of some benefit. So if you get a dildo, laugh it off.

3. Don't hold it in a way that it is easy for someone to photograph and if you do get a dildo and if someone does photograph it, I am pretty sure you could find photos on the internet of heterosexual men holding dildos.

You are completely overthinking things and I am also beginning to wonder if you are attention seeking or indeed if this thread is genuine.

:eek: Beginning to wonder :eek:

Sorry but a 30ft inflatable Trump nappy wearing balloon is less attention seeking than this person.

I think a 3" Troll doll is more likely present than a dildo.;)

gomer

Samsung_Note2 wrote: »

:eek: Beginning to wonder :eek:

Sorry but a 30ft inflatable Trump nappy wearing balloon is less attention seeking than this person.

I think a 3" Troll doll is more likely present than a dildo.;)

Thankfully not all gay men a this sensitive. I think where it becomes a problem is when you are so defined by your sexuality that your 'gayness' ends up being all there is to you.

In my case being gay is only a part of who I am, so I wouldn't bat an eyelid at the scenarios in this topic. I'd love a dildo from santa and it wouldnt be me getting bashed round the head with it lol

Samsung_Note2

gomer wrote: »

Thankfully not all gay men a this sensitive. I think where it becomes a problem is when you are so defined by your sexuality that your 'gayness' ends up being all there is to you.

In my case being gay is only a part of who I am, so I wouldn't bat an eyelid at the scenarios in this topic. I'd love a dildo from santa and it wouldnt be me getting bashed round the head with it lol

I dont think its being sensitive...i feel its 100% attention seeking..which id suggest doesn't help other Gay men,probably just the opposite as people get fed up with the Camp guy screaming for attention and then getting upset when he gets the attention..which he wanted the whole time.