Trans Female moving to Yorkshire, where should I move to ? Nervous/Worried!

Bethenny555

wantonnoodle wrote: »

I would suggest looking at Horsforth. On the edge of Leeds, but has its own community feel. Its quite a "trendy" area now, so may be a bit pricey, but on the plus side, it has a direct train link to the city centre and to Harrogate and York the other way.

An old school friend of mine (who is gay and proud) lives there. We went to uni together in Leeds (graduated 15 years ago or so now) and he stayed around Leeds, and has been settled with his husband in Horsforth for a number of years now. He's never had any trouble there.

Thank you will check that out :j

scaredofdebt

Wetherby is worth a look, right next to the A1, and train to Leeds and York, less than an hour to either. It's a small town but big enough to have most ameneties you'd want and I think house prices are very reasonable.

bigisi

scaredofdebt wrote: »

Wetherby is worth a look, right next to the A1, and train to Leeds and York, less than an hour to either. It's a small town but big enough to have most ameneties you'd want and I think house prices are very reasonable.

Train in Wetherby? Think you're about 54 years too late

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Bethenny555 wrote: »

Thank you!

So far I have found some amazing properties in the following..

Ilkley
Harewood
Norwood Green
Cawood
Harrogate
Burley in Wharfdale

If anyone has any particular negative or positives about the above let me know!

Hi,


Cawood floods so not a place I would recommend.

Bethenny555

Spider_In_The_Bath wrote: »

Hi,


Cawood floods so not a place I would recommend.

Thank you Have removed from my list !

YorkshireTraveller

Bethenny555 wrote: »

Thank you!

So far I have found some amazing properties in the following..

Ilkley
Harewood
Norwood Green
Cawood
Harrogate
Burley in Wharfdale

If anyone has any particular negative or positives about the above let me know!

Norwood Green is just up the road from us and have friends that live there. It's a lovely spot with a 'village' feel with a couple of great (gastro) pubs.

Not so good for transport though as the nearest train stations would be Halifax, Low Moor or Bradford.

Lilymunster

Hi Bethenny,

I don’t normally comment on sites, it annoys me when people kick off over the smallest comments.. I saw your post and felt I needed to say hello..

I moved a few months ago from a city to Otley .. as beautiful as it is I have found the move to be incredibly difficult.. finding myself more lonely and cut off then I have ever been ..

I longed to live in the country away from city life .. I guess I was more of a city girl then I realised ..

Just think things through before you make the move .. I did it on a wim .. I had 4 weeks and before I knew it I was moving .. I wish I had done more research and taken more time

It’s so much harder to go back if you don’t like it .. I now find myself stuck

I hope you find what your looking for .. I wish you every happiness
Xx

moneyistooshorttomention

Lilymunster - Things do get better. You are still in the same part of our country (ie England to England). That will help - a lot...

Hopefully the place you're in isn't that small that there aren't things going on there socially?

I've got a very rough rule of thumb that goes along the lines of one makes an average of one friend per two social type activities gone to. You don't necessarily need to persevere with a particular social activity in the long run - but keep at any that take your interest for some months at any rate. Identify who looks like a Possible Friend out of people that go reasonably often to those activities and also pick up some general "friendly faces".

I've made one friend (and her husband - as "added friend") from an evening class (though none of us go to it any longer), another friend from a dance class (I don't go to any longer), another friend from another dance class, have identified someone at another dance class as "Possible Friend" and so on.

It depends to a large extent whereabouts you are in the country - as you may be in an area where some people feel wary about expressing a perfectly normal viewpoint/taken as read as standard in another part of the country - but you'll learn to figure out who thinks the same way as you and you can be more "open" with them and that helps (even at a "friendly faces" - rather than friends - level).

WeAreGhosts

Hi Lilymunster.

I'm over Skipton/Ilkely way, but know Otley and visit often.
Are you a member of the Otley Facebook group? There's events listed on there (amongst a lot of rubbish like berating people for setting off fireworks, and dog mess etc ... like all groups!). I moved to the area last year and found that by joining my local group on Facebook I got to know who the key people are who organise things and keeping up-to-date on events etc.

There's a fair few charity shops in Otley who probably need volunteers, if you fancy getting to know people that way?

moneyistooshorttomention

I'd second the join the local Facebook group idea.

Amended to = join several nearby ones. They are very variable - so join ones within, say, a 6 mile radius I'd say.

Of the ones near me:
- the most obvious one for me rarely has any posts on it at all (in theory - it should be the biggest one:cool:). It might improve if it ever gets some person/people trying to put posts up there/run it rather better

- another one has a founder that thinks they are "in charge"/has very rigid mindset and their personality mucks that one up rather and one has to check it out to find out re a noticeable number of events there, but discount that autocratic "founder" (and belong to a couple of other mini ones in that vicinity as a fallback position)

- two others that function pretty well in a "help each other out"/requests for favours/offer of favours type way and they are the ones I tend to use in that respect.