Trans Female moving to Yorkshire, where should I move to ? Nervous/Worried!

Bethenny555

DottieDam wrote: »

Another shout for Hebden Bridge, it really does has strong LGBTX links.

Otley is pretty studenty/young professional and so you could generalise Liberal.

I don't think any of the towns you have mentioned are as small as you might be thinking (in terms of size and outlook).

If you go east of York you will find some smaller villages but then I know a lot of open-minded from them (and some close-minded people).

On the whole, people tend to be nicer up North (again sweeping statements) but I like to think you would feel safe and accepted anywhere, although I can see why you would want to ask.

Thank you Dottie for your reply, I totally agree that (although it is sweeping), that people are generally nicer and bit more fun up North!

Thanks for the HB recommendation, I have had a good look on rightmove etc (as I plan to rent before buying) and there doesn't seem to be much on the market at the moment, Harrogate seems to have some lovely property too.

Bethenny555

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I don't think I'd regard anywhere as either more or less prone to the sort of incidents you are concerned about.

Places do have their own issues and those issues will include ones that no-one would even think of in other parts of the country.

So - in this smaller, more rural area there are several issues I've noticed where there are "Differences of opinion - sometimes expressed rather forcibly":

- The Welsh language (it's West Wales here....). Noticeable number of people with very different opinion to 99.9% of people from my home city including myself:cool:

- Hunting/shooting/fishing - the opposite one to what I regard as normal. It's accepted here....

- !!!!!philes - I've seen a lynch mob form against one here and have a friend that was wrongly identified as one and they moved from the area after a beating-up because of that wrong identification.

- Support for "the military" is much stronger here than I'm used to.

- Support for Tradition is much stronger here - and I'm used to it being largely non-existent.

- Drink/driving - whew! There is a high amount of it/high acceptance of it:eek:

- Black Economy - loads of it....

Those are the differences I notice. I've not ever noticed anyone giving a hoot about whether someone is a CIS man/woman or otherwise here - but I have noticed incidents in my modern/liberal/etc home city that I am from.

So there are certainly issues in some places that literally no-one ever thinks about in other places. But I've not noticed this surfacing as an issue in this smaller/rural place I'm currently living in.

Thank you for your reply, I think you're right... a place is a place and it's hard to sum up that place as .... crime/violence/hate speech can happen anywhere really!

Living in a more small knit community is something I will just have to get used to, and I'm sure if I put out positivity and kindness, then it will be given back in abundance :A

moneyistooshorttomention

LOL re people "nicer" up North. My experience was "more open to just starting up conversations with strangers". But us Southerners can be nice too:). We are more "reserved" - but the plus side to that imo is less likely to turn round (as someone here did recently) and say "I'm a Northerner - so I'm blunt/speak as I find - and *****" and proceeded to come straight out with a negative personal opinion (that wasn't even their own - but a regurgitated one they had been fed by someone else).

We will think things - but won't stand there and come straight out with them at a total stranger. One social evening out at a "party" at someone's house there I recall - and the end comment from someone of "That was a nice evening" (which I agreed with) and we were all very polite to each other and the food was good:) (not unhealthy/not cheapest possible/etc). I'm comfortable with that....

Rosieandjim

Have you seen this


https://yorklgbtforum.org.uk/2015/02/02/meet-lisa/

Bethenny555

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

LOL re people "nicer" up North. My experience was "more open to just starting up conversations with strangers". But us Southerners can be nice too:). We are more "reserved" - but the plus side to that imo is less likely to turn round (as someone here did recently) and say "I'm a Northerner - so I'm blunt/speak as I find - and *****" and proceeded to come straight out with a negative personal opinion (that wasn't even their own - but a regurgitated one they had been fed by someone else).

We will think things - but won't stand there and come straight out with them at a total stranger. One social evening out at a "party" at someone's house there I recall - and the end comment from someone of "That was a nice evening" (which I agreed with) and we were all very polite to each other and the food was good:) (not unhealthy/not cheapest possible/etc). I'm comfortable with that....

Don't get me wrong! I have met some lovely Southerners and call many my friends ! :beer:

I am quite reserved and agree that I'm happy with the pleasant setup...

I do find that people who say 'I CALL A SPADE A SPADE'.... end up just being bloody rude! :rotfl::rotfl:

sammyjammy

Bethenny555 wrote: »

Thank you Dottie for your reply, I totally agree that (although it is sweeping), that people are generally nicer and bit more fun up North!

Thanks for the HB recommendation, I have had a good look on rightmove etc (as I plan to rent before buying) and there doesn't seem to be much on the market at the moment, Harrogate seems to have some lovely property too.

Look a bit wider, there is a really good train line (think its Leeds to Manchester).

Just do your research before you buy, area very well known for flooding problems.

Rosieandjim

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

LOL re people "nicer" up North. My experience was "more open to just starting up conversations with strangers". But us Southerners can be nice too:). We are more "reserved" - but the plus side to that imo is less likely to turn round (as someone here did recently) and say "I'm a Northerner - so I'm blunt/speak as I find - and *****" and proceeded to come straight out with a negative personal opinion (that wasn't even their own - but a regurgitated one they had been fed by someone else).

We will think things - but won't stand there and come straight out with them at a total stranger. One social evening out at a "party" at someone's house there I recall - and the end comment from someone of "That was a nice evening" (which I agreed with) and we were all very polite to each other and the food was good:) (not unhealthy/not cheapest possible/etc). I'm comfortable with that....

Reading all your threads about your move to Pembrokeshire and you obviously not fitting in makes me realise the importance of renting somewhere first to get a feel of the place and whether it is right for you. The saying ' Marry in haste repent at leisure' comes to mind but replace marry with Move!!!

xylophone

The saying ' Marry in haste repent at leisure' comes to mind but replace marry with Move!!!

This can be the case.

I knew somebody who moved from a house in Herts to a flat in a London suburb after he was widowed on the basis that he would be closer to a relation of his late wife who would visit frequently etc.

He missed his garden, the local church community (even though parishioners in his new area were supportive) and the relative by marriage was not often to be seen....

However, you are young and seem to have a circle of friends in the north - and as you say, you can rent to get a feel of the area.

My relative lived in rented accommodation in Ripon for a couple of years before buying.

The friends who have recently moved to Harrogate had visited the area many times and did a lot of research before making the move.

coffeehound

DottieDam wrote: »

Otley is pretty studenty/young professional and so you could generalise Liberal.

Really? Studenty, i don’t really see that. It has got a huge number of pubs per head of population so perhaps attracts more pub crawls than average but with pretty poor public transport links i cant see many students living there. Very nice town though!

Bethenny555

Rosieandjim wrote: »

Have you seen this


Thanks interesting read from Lisa, I'll reach out to the forum there and see what I can find

Hopefully things have progressed more over the last few years since the article