How would you feel

baza52

rather than ask total strangers on a forum for advice i would suggest you speak with close friends that know both of you.

Perhaps asking your husband would also be a good idea and see what he has to say.

Hope you manage to work it out one way or another

toejumper

baza52 wrote: »

rather than ask total strangers on a forum for advice i would suggest you speak with close friends that know both of you.

Perhaps asking your husband would also be a good idea and see what he has to say.

Hope you manage to work it out one way or another

Thank you I know what he'd say I'm being stupid paranoid there only friends

OldMusicGuy

Knew people in a similar situation. She didn't look at his phone but he was constantly texting another woman who was no more than a "friend", he said. He then left this very long term relationship and it turns out that the "no more than a friend" is his new partner.

Sounds very similar to your situation sadly.

Bogof_Babe

Read a book called Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass.

He is displaying classic gaslighting behaviour. He's cheating on you, and you need to take control of your life.

toejumper

OldMusicGuy wrote: »

Knew people in a similar situation. She didn't look at his phone but he was constantly texting another woman who was no more than a "friend", he said. He then left this very long term relationship and it turns out that the "no more than a friend" is his new partner.

Sounds very similar to your situation sadly.

Thank You the same happened to his sister her ex husband befriended a work colleague and he left her with two children under 3 yrs of age

toejumper

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Read a book called Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass.

He is displaying classic gaslighting behaviour. He's cheating on you, and you need to take control of your life.

Thank you I'm getting everything in place in just in case I have to move on with my life

baza52

i get the feeling that a lot of negative posts are from people that have been hurt in the past. The same kind that say all men are cheaters etc on social media.

Dont rush it and give him a chance to explain hes side and take it from there.

Thats all im going to say but i hope you work it out in one way or another

Comms69

I mean after 30 years and problems in the marriage; this seems the icing on the cake.

There’s something going on; but what?... can’t be sure

toejumper

Comms69 wrote: »

I mean after 30 years and problems in the marriage; this seems the icing on the cake.

There’s something going on; but what?... can’t be sure

Thank You of course a 30 years of marriage there's going to be some cracks but I'm so confused does he want to be with me but pines for her

splishsplash

toejumper wrote: »

Thank you I've checked the mobile account and they ring each other and talk for anything up to 20 to 30 minutes at a time I've already got a bolt hole to go to he's a very aggressive person and that's the problem with our marriage his aggression

You have a bolthole to hide from his aggression and you're worried about him being unfaithful?