How would you feel

toejumper

How would you feel and what would your reaction be if you saw these text messages on your husdand/partners phone

Her. Hi can I ring you
Him, you sure can sexy

Her, sorry I haven't rung you for a while I've still been poorly
Him, I told you I'd come round and nurse you better

Her, can I ring you
Him, you sure can I'm looking forward to it and three wolf whistle emoji

74jax

Reaction - 'hubby can you come and explain these messages'.

thorsoak

I would be angry and my reaction would be a bit stronger than the poster above:- "Your belongings are in the binliners outside - and they are not coming back inside until I hear your excuses for these messages! They had better be good as otherwise you will be out too."

onomatopoeia99

I'd question why I was committing an offence under the computer misuse act 1990 and accessing a computer system without authorization.

thorsoak wrote: »

I would be angry and my reaction would be a bit stronger than the poster above:- "Your belongings are in the binliners outside - and they are not coming back inside until I hear your excuses for these messages! They had better be good as otherwise you will be out too."

To which the response would of course be "It's my house as well, the people on MSE told me so, which means you can't prevent me from entering."

hollydays

I'd probably feel like I'd been hit by a train, depending on whether this behaviour was totally out of the blue..

toejumper

Thank you thorsoak i questioned this friendship with her at the begging of the year she's a ex colleague of his and he snapped at me saying he needed someone to talk to, instant told me to look on his phone on Monday night something I never do and saw these messages i went back on his phone on Tuesday night and he'd delited them

HampshireH

I wouldnt be online posting I'd be seeking explanations. I doubt I'd be too polite about it either and I probably would already be planning a different future whilst listening to the excuses (but I would want to hear them).

[Deleted User]

You should've confronted their and then, I would have gone mad! He's deleted them and if inclined could say you imagined it or are making them up.

Nick_C

I would never dream of looking at my partner's phone. We respect each others privacy.

People flirt. It is often meaningless. If you distrust your partner this much then your relationship has serious problems. You should tell him what you did and seek counselling.

Marvel1

Nick_C wrote: »

You should tell him what you did and seek counselling.

Ignore this, don't be a mug to him cheating.

It's a classic line by a cheater.

Nick_C

Nick_C wrote: »

I would never dream of looking at my partner's phone. We respect each others privacy.

People flirt. It is often meaningless. If you distrust your partner this much then your relationship has serious problems. You should tell him what you did and seek counselling.

cjdavies wrote: »

Ignore this, don't be a mug to him cheating.

It's a classic line by a cheater.

OP - OK. Don't seek counselling. Let things fester. Don't try to save your relationship.

Cjdavies - you seem to be calling me a cheater. Please retract.