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Loss of value on engagement ring

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  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,574 Forumite
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    Kay_Gee wrote: »
    Tonight is a low night.

    I feel low and down. I really don't know how to snap out of it.

    There will be times like this - you were planning a wedding and a future with a man you thought loved you - you will need to let yourself grieve for that loss.
  • Kay_Gee
    Kay_Gee Posts: 76 Forumite
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    I don't want to grieve for someone who didn't love me. I sound shallow I know.

    I really just don't know what to do with myself.
  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,574 Forumite
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    Kay_Gee wrote: »
    I don't want to grieve for someone who didn't love me. I sound shallow I know.

    I really just don't know what to do with myself.

    You're not grieving for him - you're grieving for the life you thought was your future which now won't happen.

    You will have a better life but it takes time to let go of all the feelings.
  • Kay_Gee
    Kay_Gee Posts: 76 Forumite
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    Oh I get you now :)
  • Stoke
    Stoke Posts: 3,182 Forumite
    Kay, remember what I mentioned before? This is normal. You're not grieving him. You're grieving the loss of your future, as hypothesised in your mind before. Your life has ultimately changed massively and everything you thought was about to happen, has just changed.

    Short term - you'll feel horrific.
    Long term - best decision you ever made.
  • Kay_Gee
    Kay_Gee Posts: 76 Forumite
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    I know.

    I just want all the pain to go away, and it all let me sleep :(
  • heartbreak_star
    heartbreak_star Posts: 8,288 Forumite
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    *hugs*

    *more hugs*

    HBS x
    "I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another."

    "It's easy to know what you're against, quite another to know what you're for."

    #Bremainer
  • bugslet
    bugslet Posts: 6,874 Forumite
    Kay_Gee wrote: »
    I know.

    I just want all the pain to go away, and it all let me sleep :(

    I've red this thread and the other one and just want to say that you have so done the right thing, this pain now is better than the years of pain you would have had.

    There isn't one of us on here that hasn't had heartbreak of some sort, the loss of a future imagined life. That doesn't help much, but you aren't on your own.

    Try and find some nice things to plan and give yourself something to look forward to and remember every day takes you closer to happier times.
  • eschaton
    eschaton Posts: 2,254 Forumite
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    I’ve read the last thread and just found this one.

    Your last thread disappeared just as the inconsistencies in your story were adding up.

    I’ll await this one being deleted as well.
  • Ms_Chocaholic
    Ms_Chocaholic Posts: 13,457 Forumite
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    I'm glad someone (Eschaton) thinks along the same lines as me
    Thrifty Till 50 Then Spend Till the End
    You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time but you can never please all of the people all of the time
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