Loss of value on engagement ring

thorsoak

Kay_Gee wrote: »

Thank you and everyone!

I like my cameras and been cheering myself up looking at cameras I might buy!

That's great - just don't take selfies and post them on Faceache ....in fact I'd be inclined to come off f/b if I were you.....

Kay_Gee

thorsoak wrote: »

That's great - just don't take selfies and post them on Faceache ....in fact I'd be inclined to come off f/b if I were you.....

I have about 6 selfies. All with my friends or one where I'm on my colleagues R1

I'm also planning on doing my direct access bike test. Wanted to do it for years.

Kay_Gee

I took thorsoak's advice and deactivated facebook for a bit.

Less ways to be bothered the better.

ChrisK....._3

I agree, and I would not respond in anyway which is only keeping his lifeline open

You owe him nothing so theres no need

Auntie-Dolly wrote: »

Block his emails.

Kay_Gee

ChrisK..... wrote: »

I agree, and I would not respond in anyway which is only keeping his lifeline open

You owe him nothing so theres no need

I'm not going to respond to him.

I'll respond by treating myself to a starbucks!

Faith177

Kay_Gee wrote: »

Thank you and everyone!

I like my cameras and been cheering myself up looking at cameras I might buy!

That would be my way to deal with it too lol I love photography



So pleased you manged to get way and amazing news about your dad too!



I wish you all the best for you future xx

SuperPikachu

Stoke wrote: »

He's a fairly odious creature, isn't he? A poor excuse for a man.

You were right to give the ring back though. I was told by my solicitor that while a ring is a gift, it is technically a gift on the assumption of future marriage and therefore you can legally request it back.

As for the difference in price, he's got absolutely no hope. You owe him nothing. I wouldn't even reply, I would ignore him.

How can you say this based off of 1 side of a story? About a person whom you do not even know. I think people need to stay unbiased when giving their advice/opinion on these forums!

Stoke

SuperPikachu wrote: »

How can you say this based off of 1 side of a story? About a person whom you do not even know. I think people need to stay unbiased when giving their advice/opinion on these forums!

I think if you had been in the 'controlling husband' thread, you probably wouldn't have said this to me. When people started to suggest he might be violent, I pointed out that Kay hasn't mentioned anything to do with violence and it's not fair to classify him as violent when no such thing has actually been suggested yet. That's throwing the baby out with the bathwater. So I'm fairly comfortable with my levels of objectivity.

However, yes, asking for money over the depreciation of a ring is fairly odious if you ask me. Yes we only have one side of the story, but are you seriously suggesting people reply "OK, Well what's his version of events regarding the ring". The OP wouldn't get any support at all? In fact, no thread would.

Thread 1 "i had a car crash, someone pulled out on me, i need to claim on their insurance"
Every reply "Well what's their side of the story"

Thread 2 "the bank are saying i owe them money, but i don't they've made a mistake"
Every reply "Well what's their side of the story"

..... see what I mean....

So yeah, I think I'm alright, but thanks for the advice 'Pikachu', I'll probably bear it in mind. :wave:

TBagpuss

Stoke wrote: »

He's a fairly odious creature, isn't he? A poor excuse for a man.

You were right to give the ring back though. I was told by my solicitor that while a ring is a gift, it is technically a gift on the assumption of future marriage and therefore you can legally request it back.

As for the difference in price, he's got absolutely no hope. You owe him nothing. I wouldn't even reply, I would ignore him.

The bolded isn't right. It is up to the person who gave the ring to prove that it was intended to that it be returned if the marriage doesn't go ahead. This can sometimes be the case - for instance if the ring is a family heirloom, but it is not the default.

OP, your ex is wrong. You've given him the ring back, which is nice of you. The depreciation in value isn't your problem. Most things depreciate over time, and he has the option of keeping the ring and saving money by giving it to the next person he manages to convince to marry him!

Block him (or have e-mails automatically sorted to a separate folder, if you are worried that you may need to be able to provide evidence that he has harassed you)

if you think that harassment is likely to be an issue, then consider sending a single letter or e-mail, in which you explicitly state that he is not to contact you further in any way and that if he does so, you will consider it to be harassment and will report it to the police as such and produce a copy of your letter / e-mail as evidence that he has been warned not to contact you.

That way, if he does continue, provide the police wit a copy of the letter you sent, which will make it easier for them to take action as it prevents him from arguing that he was just trying to discuss things, or that he didn't have any intention of harassing you.

middlesis

Well done Kay-Gee. I,m so glad to hear that things are moving in the right direction for you now. (I also wondered where the original thread went) Just echoing what other posters have said, you dont,t owe him a bean. You returned the ring which shows him that you are getting on without him (would you have wanted to keep it? probably not).

Made my day to hear that life is on the up for you. Just ignore him now and get on with the life you deserve.
Take care.