Hazelnutty's New Start

Hazelnutty

@Karmacat I'm not much of a drinker as I'm quite sensitive to alcohol (and caffeine and sugar - anything that stresses the liver). But these particular friends are excellent drinking partners and it's always an evening of amazing food and too much wine and cocktails! I don't think my body knew quite what to do with it all! I'm feeling a tad better now and will whip up my signature spag bol to get the world back on track...

Karmacat

Nice one!  Enjoy it

Sistergold

Good morning @Hazelnutty
Oh what a lovely time you had! Could almost feel what fun you had! Yes I am also a casual drinker here and there I do enjoy good wine! And yes after 40 I have discovered even a sip is like I have drunk the whole bottle! I remember first year of uni we went clubbing and due to student promotions we over did it! I got so drunk and for sure next morning I had the mother of all hangovers! The hangover was so bad I decided that day that the joys of drinking were not worth the hangover the next day so I kind of quit! Well in the sense that I vowed never to get drunk ever again and it just worked like that! So I could go months not touch anything and when I do I never drink that much. So I guess I became a responsible drinker? Well still now just a glass of wine and I do feel different next day as if a slight sluggishness! 

Well should we conclude we are too old? 👵🏽

Noooo life begins at 40 so they say! 

Hazelnutty

@Sistergold I do feel I have a new lease of life (where the title of my diary comes from ) but it's been a bit of a rude awakening to feel the effects of ageing  

Bit of a downer of a day I'm afraid. One of the mogs off to the vets as he was skulking around looking miserable, was licking his butt too much and had pooped around the place 5 mins at the vets and £100 later he has the cone of shame on, some digestion paste and instructions to sudocrem his behind at night oh joy!

This is coupled with feeling a bit down about work. The prospect of doubling fees for arts and humanities courses will just kill off those opportunities for all but the richest and most privileged students and see loads of highly qualified, dedicated lecturers out of work. I even looked at my budgets and calculated the minimum salary I'd need to earn to cover my costs and retraining options - then of course couldn't get to sleep for ages. It's all so sad. So many people facing redundancy in so many sectors.

Anyway, I'm off this PM and taking DD into town for swimming (who has suddenly decided she's too tired - what is this?! 10 years old!) It's all pre-paid so will just be spending for some post-swim treats. I need to keep a careful eye on the budgets this month to keep saving for the renovation on track and have definitely indulged in some retail therapy so far

Catch up with you all later

themadvix

Enjoy your swim!

Urgh, feel your pain about the vet visit... how lovely, sudocreming him!  

I'd missed the news about doubling fees for arts and humanities courses - that's awful and truly shows how little culture and non-scientific knowledge is valued. I know there are lots of pointless courses out there (or were), but humanitarians and artists enrich society and help us to learn about ourselves. Let's hope it doesn't come to that. And good for you for looking at options for the future too.

Hazelnutty

Thanks @themadvix It's particularly sad as so many of us turned to culture during lockdown to keep us sane, and we all use the humanities to understand the world (maybe that's why the govt don't like them - we learn to think critically, question and analyse everything!) Also, the majority of graduates don't go into a discipline-specific career and so a hums training is often more useful than a stem one It should be arts/hums AND stem not either/or (I do loads of applied work it's not just head in the clouds stuff that some people think it is) The world needs all forms of human knowledge & understanding.

We haven't yet braved the sudocrem but mog is feeling very sorry for himself, a real hang-cat look about him poor love.

Had a nice afternoon with DD although she rinsed me expertly again for some joggers (under cover of looking for shorts for school - I then succumbed to more retail therapy ) and a trip to the evil Bucks of Star. She also had a proper download about her dad It's so hard - we agreed to always be positive about the other house but it's getting really hard when she tells me the things he says to her that upset her. Last classic: that she (at the age of 9) had been 'asking for it' by wearing a crop top Luckily she now realises this attitude is really off, but it's clearly got to her that she's brought it up after over a year. 

Not much else to report. 3 Pr0lific studies arrived in short order this PM so knocked them off. I also got sent another German one but it'd already expired when I got to it after 4 hours  

OH has taken pity on me and ordered us in an Indian takeout  

Karmacat

As you say, it's a rough day I hope the evening goes smoothly.

themadvix

Could you have a word with XH? Point out that the fact that she’s remembering this a year later suggests that his comments are hurting her? If he continues she won’t want a relationship with him for much longer (and at the age she’s getting to will make that perfectly clear!). Surely he wants to have a good relationship with her? Poor thing.

 Hope the takeaway was good, it was deserved!

Hazelnutty

Thanks @themadvix I do try - although everything's broadly amicable every conversation feels a bit like a diplomatic event! His partner said to her yesterday her stick-on nails looked like a prostitute !!!!!!. She did then apologise, which DD was excited about but the fact is those things about her appearance are being said to her on a pretty routine basis. I will have another crack though. We've agreed to monthly catch-ups so that'd be a good space to raise the issue. He did say to me once that he felt distant from her but made out that was her changing rather than anything to do with how he behaved... It's so obvious now why we didn't work as a couple but I didn't put 2 and 2 together for many years!

Hazelnutty

You have to be really on it with Pr0lific it seems. Three appeared in my 'inbox' this morning so I started the one that had fewest spots left (it crashed ) and by the time I came back the others had gone!