Opinions about working kids paying Housekeeping needed!

Penny2myName

I have already told mine when they are older and have own income, they are going thirds on everything, like it or lump it.

Lemon_Tree

I always paid keep at my parents, they even insisted that we paid when we were on holiday, as it just reflected the real world where the bills don't stop because you're not at home. We didn't pay exhorbitant amounts but a fair amount, which in truth did in no way cover how much it cost my parents to still have us at home.
I know my aunt saved all the money that her son paid but my parents couldn't do that, but they did help us out when we left home and still do really

bored_of_debt

I've paid it since I was 16, not as much as some but something every month without fail, I think it takes the #### otherwise, especially if your parents buy all the food, cook, clean etc.

In_Search_Of_Me

wot_a_life wrote: »

He's come home this weekend, he won't speak to any of us, he hasn't paid any rent, he's been out all weekend in the pub and gone to work this morning!
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Hard for you but i think he needs a siwft reminder that he needs to pay his way & if he wont then oersonally I would kick him out. His behaviour is unacceptable & he needs to understand that plus needs to start behaving like an adult while being clear that you love him.

Back to the original question if they're earning, the should be paying and if they're not I'd want to know why! Its not so much about the money but teaching them to be responsible. In view of your own debt situation Jaks you need the money plus there will be leanty of opportunity to help them when you're debt free!! Teaching the to be resoponsible is the best thing to do!

Homework

I think it shows them the value of money. 2 kids in education and they pay 10% of their income which is not much. Oldest asks what it is being spent on and takes great pride in it, younger quite happy to pay as has seen older one doing it.

We have agreed to renegotiate when their incomes increase and there is no problem with that. They go shopping, see bills coming in and have friends who stay in their own places and have no money. It is responsibility.

It may be when they are handing over more money we will save some for them. At the moment they are learning to budget.

Ches

I paid my mum when I lived at home. It didn't occur to me to do otherwise, isn't it part of being grown up and independant. I took housekeeping money off my kids too for the same reason. I think the people who say they didn't bring children into the world for them to pay are missing the point.Surely as mothers we have done a good job if our children can go out into the world fully independant and able to cope with life. Taking no money just keeps them tied to the maternal apron strings.

Jacks_xxx

:T Thank you SO-O-O-O-O-O much everybody for responding. :T

:A You're all FAB! :A

If truth be told, I don't really know what I think about this issue but I tend towards the

"They should pay something significant - but proportional to their income - for their own good as much as anything."

camp.

I would like to treat my kids like adults once they are wage earners, and adults don't live for free.

Hubby sort of agrees that it's a valuable financial lesson to learn, and would love it if we were able to save it up for the future for our kids, but is kind of uncomfortable with the idea of charging our children "Rent" to "live in their own home."

I point out that it costs US rather a lot of money to "live in our own home." :eek:

But I know where he's coming from...

and so we go back and forth about it.

Hubby says: We have supported our son for the previous 19 years so why would we stop doing it now???

Because he earns £1000 a month now and he can afford to contribute something now - that's why! :eek:

He's a good kid, and he's been fab about us "being poor now" - but he's very excited about having all this money to burn, and wants to spend it all on boys toys and beer.

Which I totally understand!

But I'm not going to let him.

Huh.

It turns out I DO know how I feel about this after all. :rotfl:

Thank you all so so much for helping us (me! ) to work this out.

I'm going to show Hubby and our son all your posts and we'll have another discussion I expect - but at least now I know firmly what I think about it.

Big HUGS guys, :kisses3:

Love Jacks xxx

moz86

When I was living with my parents, when I was 20 and earning £700 - £1000 a month after tax, I was paying £40 per week, so £160 per month.

I found this to be reasonable. I felt I needed to pay something and I was happy to contribute.

Im now aged 21, and earning over double this, but boy do I feel my rent hitting me in the pocket every month! Bring back £40 per week.

superpup

My 19 yr old has just got a full time job recently. She got a few weeks to herself then I asked for £30 per week which is a sixth of her take home pay. She moaned saying her friends only paid £100 a month and this was too much. She said because I'm earning better money now (have struggled for years on my own with 2 children) she didn't think she'd have to pay so much.

My answer to that was 'So because I have worked hard to increase my income, you should benefit from that, rather than me?'

Shut her right up! :rotfl:

Got no more whinges. Also explained to her that all her friends have 2 adults contributing already so not losing 25% council tax reduction. Illustrated the fact that three quarters of my income goes on running the house whilst I'm only asking for one sixth of hers.

I thought about saving it secretly to give her back later but she's actually giving me £100 a week to save for her (which is a miracle as she's always been rubbish with money). The £30 a week is going to overpayments on my interest only mortgage. :T

I will put her money up in a year's time and will consider saving a proportion of that for her. She will also pay her own car insurance next year.

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kiwigirl

I have rent and broadband costs, which are £120 per month - so cheap compared with others here, on the condition that I save 50% of my wages into regular savers or HIA which I can't touch - which is roughly how much a 2 bed semi would cost to rent locally.

I watch after their house when they're on holiday - was even told if I got a job and relocated before they went on their holiday that I had to come home 2 weekends (they've gone for 6 weeks) to make sure that the insurance was valid! I've paid for 1/8 of their trip and I've paid their car tax £300pa for years!

I do most of the housework but we're not the tidiest of houses! :rotfl:

A colleague of mine spends £300 per month (min) on clothes and currently has 5 double wardrobes! :eek: most of which the labels are still on...