Opinions about working kids paying Housekeeping needed!

doodledo_2

Someone I know has also done this. She bought a house for her son who is at uni (yes they are very well off) and he pays rent to them every month to live there.

She is saving this all up in an account for him for when he leaves Uni but he does not know this.

Its a lovely idea if you are in the position to do this and I hope by the time my little girl is that age I may be able to do similar.

peb

Yes - but as most people say keep it proportionate to their income. We all have to learn that food, a roof over your head and heating do not come free. It is best to learn the lesson with parental assistance whereever possible before going out into the big bad world.

misspoppy

I posted on the other thread too but I had to pay £45p/w to my Dad and stepmonster this was 1992 and had to go out to work 5 nights a week to have spending money.

My younger siblings didnt have to pay as much as I did something that I'm very resentful about as I was trying to better myself.

I think if you are working full time you should pay your share of the bills, I don't understand why you wouldn't charge your kids unless you didn't want them to grow up and leave home. You aren't doing them any favours wrapping them up in cotton wool.

balmaiden

Long,long ago ( 1972 ) when I had my first job I gave my Mum a third of my wages saved a third and spent a third.

Not bad when you consider I took home the princely sum of £3.50 lol.

GreyPilgrim

misspoppy wrote: »

You aren't doing them any favours wrapping them up in cotton wool.

Damned right. How much of a shock are they going to get when they leave home and realise how much rent / mortgage / bills etc etc etc come to?

toffeepennys

i always paid a third of my wages as housekeep, even since i had my first saturday job and only earnt 9.00 a day (1990). i moaned about it continously although im greatful now, i left home and moved into my own home with a mortgage for 50,000 in 1995 and was actually able to live cheaper on my own than i was at home!

i am now mortgage free (its was all paid off in 10 years) and im very lucky at the age of 32 to say that

themaccas

Fortheloveofmoney wrote: »

Can I ask why you wouldn't charge? Just interested in hearing a different opinion to mine.

Thanks

Going back a few years just after we got married and I was working in a bank, a young lad had also started working there, first job after leaving school and he said he didn't pay his parents anything as they refused to take it. His mum told him they had had him for love not money.

This kind of stuck with me and although I am now agreeing with OH that our children should pay, I also want to be able to help them out when they get their own place either renting or buying so we have decided that we would take the money and save it for them. However it's very unlikely it will happen, DS1 goes to uni next year and it's very doubtful he'll come and live back at home when he graduates, the type of work he'll be looking for won't be around here unfortunately.

carrliadiere

When I came back from Uni my parents made me pay 150 pounds a month for my room. It was very reasonable, and they were supportive when I quit my job to focus on searching for a better job. When I got the better job, I went back to the 150 pounds a month, and then when I moved out I realised how truly reasonable it was!

I would completely agree in making my children pay once they get past 16/18, but I would be reasonable about it. I think paying for things like rent early on in life in invaluable. I would also motivate them to find work as soon as possible. I started work at 16 and have only been unemployed for around five months in the last six years, most of which were during university. It's a really good way to be prepared for adult life.

Bobbino

apart from the last two years i've paid housekeeping since i was 16... my brother paid it from when he left full time ed until recently..and my sister never has (she's spoilt though and has been unemployed for god knows how long and never gets moaned at about it)...

i only stopped paying recently due to moving to my grandads to be his carer for 18 months, and not having a decent job, so when my Gdad died, i wasn't asked to start paying housekeeping again when i moved back to my parents as they knew i was in alot of debt and stuff... that was a year ago, and i'm still in debt and unable to pay. if i was able i would pay, and i think all those over 16, who are not in full time ed should pay... or move out...don't cripple them though, just ask for enough towards their share of food/elec that sort of thing... i paid £200 a month when i was 16..which i think is very reasonable.

LouBlue

Me and my 2 sisters always gave my mum 25% of our take home pay when we lived at home. She was on her own and we didn't begrudge it in the slightest. A lot of my friends hardly paid anything and their parents were stuck with them well into their 20's cos they realise that they can't afford to leave, or they have moved out but are constantly getting into trouble money wise and moving back in again. I know that this isn't always the case, but it was a great lesson for me to learn that bills do not pay themselves.