Hiring the children's other parent as nanny

marcarm

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

I notice D ick is also censored, but what if your actually called D ick. :rotfl::rotfl:

Or you come from S!!!!horpe?

System

Wait a minute...are they seriously saying "I'll look after the kids, but only for a price?"

Kenyatta

Marisco wrote: »

Why not just employ a live in nanny/au pair? I'm sure it would be cheaper than 2.5k pm.

Unfortunately not, a nanny just starts from £2.5K. There were some dodgy candidates who wanted less, but I would not hire them even to look after the cat, to be honest.

Kenyatta

diggle wrote: »

What if this irresponsible x husband suddenly decides what a good idea it would be to move back in as a live in Nanny ? Oh and bring his new girlfriend with him ....saves sofa surfing .

It won't be a live in position definitely. I am pretty sure he does not have a legal right to move in just because he would be working in my house (I have not checked that, however).

Kenyatta

sheramber wrote: »

If you are paying him then yes, he needs to advise the DWP/UC whichever he is claiming and it will affect what benefit he gets.

But there should be no obligation on me as an employer to do anything about this, correct? My obligations as an employer stop at the moment when I paid all taxes, pension contributions and NI due, and what else my employee is claiming is none of my business. Or not?

Kenyatta

andydownes123 wrote: »

Wait a minute...are they seriously saying "I'll look after the kids, but only for a price?"

Not like that. In a "I need an income and you need childcare, why don't we help each other" kind of way.

It does make me feel uncomfortable, and I admit does feel weird - certainly not an arrangement that I will be boasting about.

suejb2

You sound, in my opinion, that you will go ahead with this arrangement because it suits both parties. My two penn'orth is one of it being a crazy idea, but, you need childcare he needs employment.

Slightly off topic will you be deducting, at source, the child maintenance he needs to pay?

TTKK

Talking from experience in caring for a disabled lady. Yes it's an easy option. But really consider how the children will be cared for. In my case, the dad would do all the hours for the money but the quality of care was very poor and because of being the dad was not fired for reasons anyone else would be fired for on the spot. Will your ex do as good a job as a nanny, endeavour to learn how to bring on your children's development and actually put in the time or will he just be at your house doing his own thing around the children and let them play on their own. And if it isn't working out will you have the courage to let him go or will you make excuses for him.

sheramber

Kenyatta wrote: »

But there should be no obligation on me as an employer to do anything about this, correct? My obligations as an employer stop at the moment when I paid all taxes, pension contributions and NI due, and what else my employee is claiming is none of my business. Or not?

Not as an employer but in reply to

but don't want it to look like I am facilitating some sort of a dodgy scheme.