Hiring the children's other parent as nanny

marliepanda

bobmccluckie wrote: »

Please note DLA has not existed for some time for new applications. It was replaced by PIP, with different qualifying criteria.

Not for children. This is misleading.

Rambosmum

marliepanda wrote: »

He sees his children for a 'couple of hours every other weekend'

You really think taking them more often 'for free' is a bad thing?

Would you say any non resident parent should be paid to look after their children? If a NRP looks after them on a weekend, why are they not compensated?

But if he had a job he'd be unlikely to be able to care for them when the OP needed them cared for. Which would not solve the OPs problem.

Red-Squirrel_2

Rambosmum wrote: »

But if he had a job he'd be unlikely to be able to care for them when the OP needed them cared for. Which would not solve the OPs problem.

He’d be paying maintenance if he had a job, which would certainly help!

DrivingMissDaisy

Good choice OP and like you mention is a temporary setup. There is no harm in trying it out. If it works for everyone then great. All the best

kingfisherblue

bobmccluckie wrote: »

Please note DLA has not existed for some time for new applications. It was replaced by PIP, with different qualifying criteria.

Please note that DLA still exists for children, and that new applications are possible for those under 16 years old. PIP, which does indeed have different qualifying criteria, is for those age 16 and over.


OP, even though you have no recourse to public funds, if your child has British nationality, then a claim for DLA is possible. You would only be managing the money on your child's behalf. To claim DLA, you need to show that your child has more care needs than another child of the same age. This is definitely true for a young child with diabetes. I know of some parents who use the DLA to pay for a sensor/pump thing that is attached to their child's arm. I think it negates the need for needles, but might be wrong. Diabetes UK are a good source of accurate information and support.

diggle

Made a point of logging in to post on here .
Cannot believe you are contemplating hiring the Father of your children as Nanny for all sorts of reasons .
What if this irresponsible x husband suddenly decides what a good idea it would be to move back in as a live in Nanny ? Oh and bring his new girlfriend with him ....saves sofa surfing .
As mentioned above ..if he works for you how will he get a full time job whilst claiming job seekers .. and if and when he does your right back where you started .
Totally understand you have your child’s health issues front and foremost , what will happen when they reach school age same principles wil, still apply regarding sugar intake ?
So you get home from a hard day at work , Daddy ( which is what they will call him ) has had a lovely time with HIS children whilst being paid , mummy is just someone they see at weekends oh and in the evening before bed ( if they are lucky ) come on you must see the implications of this .. TIME is what all children need .., not material things .,oh and look whose going to be with them most .�� for someone that didn’t want 50/50 care he’s going to do quite well out of this arrangement

Rambosmum

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

He’d be paying maintenance if he had a job, which would certainly help!

If OP pays him for child care, he'll have a job and pay maintenance!

Red-Squirrel_2

Rambosmum wrote: »

If OP pays him for child care, he'll have a job and pay maintenance!

She'll be bribing him to get him to take some responsibility for them, but its really pushing it to claim that caring for your own children is a job.

Although there was just another long thread on that whole subject wasn't there? :rotfl:

sheramber

I hope to need the arrangement only until Christmas, when I (hopefully) will be able to quit my current job.

I am intrigued. What then?


If you are paying him then yes, he needs to advise the DWP/UC whichever he is claiming and it will affect what benefit he gets.

If he does not and the benefit office find out he will be in trouble.

If HMRC consider you are employing him and have not registered as an employer and fulfilled your requirements as an employer then you will be in trouble as you have not deducted tax. NIC for him.

But, you can do what you want with your money. You can pay Tom, !!!! or Dora to look after your children and put the money into the black economy.

peachyprice

Rambosmum wrote: »

If OP pays him for child care, he'll have a job and pay maintenance!

That she's paying him to do!

He is a parent to these children, not a nanny, parents do not get paid to look after their own children, unless they're real lowlife type that is, who see a monetary value in taking responsibility for the children the bred.