Want husband to leave.... but he won't.

74jax

redmel1621 wrote: »

This made me cry.... I dream to be happy and have a happy relationship.

I've documented on here a horrid relationship I had, so I won't go into it again. You can look it up if you want or if you have ever seen Sleeping With The Enemy I felt similar to that. It took me a while, but what gave me the strength to end it was I had a daughter. If she was in the relationship I was, I could never forgive myself for letting her grow up thinking that was normal. It was hard. Women's Aid was a great help to me. I was assigned a police officer who really was a credit. This was 13 years ago and wasn't in the news as much as now so I can only expect (hope) you would get similar services. For around 3 months my house was on high alert with alarms linked to the police and eventually I was issued with a restraining order against him.

Very shortly I met my now husband. I wasn't t even sure I wanted a relationship so took it slow, treated him horrid (but he stuck by me) and now we are married.

You can do this if you want to. You have to want to though as it is a hard slog ahead. You need to focus on what you want the out come to be.

Out,_Vile_Jelly

OP, perhaps it would help to channel your thoughts into two areas:

Practical
-finding somewhere new to live
-ensuring your current tenancy is ended correctly, ie you are no longer liable for rent after an agreed date
-closing any joint bank accounts/credit cards

Emotional
-dealing with his obsessive controlling behaviour
-explaining to your children why you're all moving out

It's a lot to take in, which is why a specialist charity like Womens Aid are best placed to help you.

TBagpuss

If you divorce him then as part of the financial settlement on divorce, you can ask the court to order that the tenancy is transferred to your name, from joint names. You would have to serve notice on the landlord so they can make representations to the court if they wish.

You would need to consider whether that is worth the cost.

Shorter term, you might find it worth while seeing a solicitor and getting them to write to him requesting that he leave.
Depending on how serious his behaviour to you is (and if it escalates when you tell him you feel the marriage is over and ask him to leave) it might be possible for you to get an occupation order to exclude him from the house, short term. Injunctions are intended to protect from harm so is dependent on his behaviour - how does he react if you tell him not to come with you, or if you were to decline to say where you were going?