Charging Rent from children?

Pollycat

JReacher1 wrote: »

In the grand scheme of things how much extra does this cost? One or two it doesn’t really make a major difference financially.

I've no idea how much extra one or two people living in a house costs.
Maybe it depends on how much they want the heating on.
Or how many baths they take.
Or what food they expect to be on the table.
Maybe it's not a major difference financially, or maybe it is, depending on the parents' financial situation.

Maybe in the OPs case, it's as much the extra work as the extra cost.
Perhaps both offspring and the girlfriend expect food to be cooked for them, washing done and ironed.
Or maybe she just feels taken for granted by her children.

badmemory

Also when does that child cease being a child. Could it be when you retire & that child is earning more than your pension. Do we still allow them to (& yes I am going to say it) sponge off us. When they are 60 we are 90 (well in my case 95) do we still keep them. They are still our children but do we still keep them because we have never taught them the benefits of being self-sufficient/self-supporting

Poor_Single_lady

why would you be doing the washing or clearing up after your adult children. It shouldn't be more work for anyone if people move in - but it's more about respect.
I read this and I'm not really sure how you can raise 2 children to adulthood but not know how to go about charging them rent.
It's less about the rent and more about the kids being disrespectful.

A lot of people seem to think if you pay rent to your parents it teaches you about money. But I don't think it necessarily follows through that neatly.
A lot of my friends never paid rent and they manage their money like tight accountants. My other friends and I paid rent and all we want to do is spend.

andygb

Back in 1976 when I was on around £6K a year, I paid my folks £100 per month, and that increased as time went on and I earned more.
However, my sister who to this day has never left home, never had to pay anything.
As far as I am concerned, both the OP's son and daughter should be paying the same rent irrespective of their jobs. How would it work in the real world where they had to rent a room?

System

Back in 1976 when I was on around £6K a year, I paid my folks £100 per month, and that increased as time went on and I earned more.
However, my sister who to this day has never left home, never had to pay anything.

So very wrong...

Pollycat

Judi wrote: »

So very wrong...

I'm not sure it is.

I'm the eldest of 3.
When I brought my first pay packet home, my Mother physically wrested it from me and gave me bus fare and spending money.
I understood that I needed to contribute to the family home but it was a continual bone of contention between us - especially as my best friend (an only child) worked at the same place and paid no board.


After rumblings of moving out (do-able on my pay at the time), my mother relented and I paid board.
I left home aged 19.
I was paying my first mortgage when I was 23.

I've no idea if my middle sibling paid board or not as I'd left by the time they started work.

My (much) younger sibling paid no board.
But by then my parents' financial situation had improved significantly.
And it was really none of my business.
Of all 3 siblings, I'm the most financially savvy and the most financially well-off.
I don't know if that's nature or nurture.

Tabbytabitha

JReacher1 wrote: »

In the grand scheme of things how much extra does this cost? One or two it doesn’t really make a major difference financially.

Couple of extra showers a day, couple of extra loads of washing/drying, possibly extra heating costs, definitely more food - not insignificant financially.

Pollycat

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Couple of extra showers a day, couple of extra loads of washing/drying, possibly extra heating costs, definitely more food - not insignificant financially.

And I think there's a big difference between not charging your adult children rent/board and one of those children moving a friend in - and still not being happy about paying any rent/board at all for the both of you.

The daughter refused to pay board/rent (£100 per month) when her Mum asked her to do so 6 months ago (out of £15k salary)

The Mum is (or was) providing all food, doing all the laundry - including for the girlfriend - and the daughter was apparently using a lot of water and a lot of heating.

svain

scd3scd4 wrote: »

Why? You are the one accusing people of milking their own children for a £100 a month. How about you stick to the OPs question.

Lol ... Keep digging :rotfl:

LilElvis

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Couple of extra showers a day, couple of extra loads of washing/drying, possibly extra heating costs, definitely more food - not insignificant financially.

That depends on your disposable income, obviously.