Charging Rent from children?

svain

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

I don't see how that's relevant - why should your adult offspring have a free ride just because their parents are well off?

Because money isn't the primary motivation??

LilElvis

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

I don't see how that's relevant - why should your adult offspring have a free ride just because their parents are well off?

I was replying to your post:

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Couple of extra showers a day, couple of extra loads of washing/drying, possibly extra heating costs, definitely more food - not insignificant financially.

I have no idea what your circumstances are but for me, and those with a reasonable income, these additional costs would be insignificant, so yes my comment was relevant.

It's fairly obvious why my adult godchildren get a free ride - because we can afford it and because we are quite happy with the arrangement. My daughter is nearly 8 and she's going to get an "easy ride" too - her higher education / house deposit is already guaranteed - though control of the majority of the funds rests with me, so she won't be blowing it on a stupid car or exotic holidays.

I've already explained on this thread that my sister and I lived rent free at home and that we are grateful for our parents assistance and for teaching us prudence. We hope to instil those same values in our daughter. We clearly aren't going to agree on this subject, perhaps because our circumstances are different in terms of finances and family dynamic.

LilElvis

Pollycat wrote: »

See - I may be wrong but I get the impression from the OP's posts that it was a 'done deal'
i.e."has just moved her girlfriend in well see has been staying for 6 weeks!".
I think that's pretty rude behaviour.


It would be really helpful if the OP could come back and let us know if she actually needs her daughter to pay rent/board from a financial perspective or just thinks she should.

Personally, I think if you have 2 adult children living at home, both should pay rent/board or none should pay.
Maybe not the same amount if their wages are significantly different but I feel the OP is treating her son unfairly by charging him board but not her daughter.

I don't think anyone would disagree with your point, regardless of whether you fall into the charging / non-charging camp. It's clearly just going to add to the friction in the household.

Pollycat

scd3scd4 wrote: »

What I find strange is all the "asking"??....................my dad never in hes own home and neither did or do I?

If I was living in my parents' house and wanted to move someone in, I'd think it only courteous to discuss it with them first.
Likewise if my (non-existant) adult offspring wanted to move someone in, I'd expect them to check with me first.

Do you ever sense-check your posts, btw?

scd3scd4

Pollycat wrote: »

Do you ever sense-check your posts, btw?

Only if I am in the mood.

Pollycat

scd3scd4 wrote: »

Only if I am in the mood.

OK.
So I guess that's why it's not only me who has trouble understanding your posts. :whistle:

scd3scd4

Pollycat wrote: »

OK.
So I guess that's why it's not only me who has trouble understanding your posts. :whistle:

We get by..........it's not like its anything important.

Pollycat

scd3scd4 wrote: »

We get by..........it's not like its anything important.

Yes, 'getting by' is fine if it works for you.


Personally, I prefer people to understand the point I'm making on a public forum...important or nor.

scd3scd4

Pollycat wrote: »

Yes, 'getting by' is fine if it works for you.


Personally, I prefer people to understand the point I'm making on a public forum...important or nor.

That's nice for you...............I am not that fussy.

Lily_Rose

When I got my first job I gave a quarter of my salary. My brother earns about £23k and gives £400 a month. He does his own washing. He knows it will cost a lot more if he moved out, he is also saving up for a deposit.

My parents never asked for money but I would never have lived there free of charge.

When I do eventually have children I would hope that there would be no need for me to ask for money but that they would know to do the right thing