Charging Rent from children?

Deewelch

They are already adults and you should split the bills with your children. If not, kick them out of the house.

cyantist

mattpaint wrote: »

Yes, those good old days when people didn't bathe and died by 50.

There is no excuse not to shower or bathe at least once a day - preferably twice frankly!

I don't think Tabbytabitha means bathing once every 6 months! Just that once every 2/3 days is fine for a lot of people. I also am pretty certain people dying at 50 had very little to do with the frequency of baths.

And bathing twice a day?! Ain't nobody got time for that!

I took the emphasis on bathing daily to mean just that - having a bath every night rather than showering. Having a 5 minute shower every night uses a lot less water and energy than taking a full bath.

steph2901

When I left school and got a job, I paid my mum board. I only had to buy my own toiletries.

I will be expecting the same from my kids when they get full time jobs.

Why should I pay for everything? I can't afford to pay grown up kids way.

TBagpuss

mattpaint wrote: »

Does anyone think it strange the emphasis being placed on the fact her children bathe each day? What sort of dirty individual doesn't bathe daily?

It's relevant as it affects bills (especially if OP is on a water meter)
And while it is appropriate for people to wash regularly, a full bath or shower every day is not necessary for most people, unless they are carrying out manual labour, or in very hot /muggy weather. A lot of assumptions about 'needing' to bath every day are simply down to advertisers.

I'd take the view that the 'bare minimum required' is to ensure that you are clean and don't smell. Some people perspire heavily and may need to wash more than once a day, other may not need to but may chose to, others may not need to and may chose not to.
And bear in mind, you can only tell if someone doesn't wash enough for their body and activities, you have no way of knowing if the non-smelly person you work with showers every day or not!

TBagpuss

smsfad wrote: »

Please advise.

I have a son (26) who earns about 28,000 and pays £100 per month rent he buys his own food and does his own laundry but I supply the detergents etc, he bathes most nights and my water bill is high!

I have a daughter (23) who earns 18,000 and she pays no rent and has just moved her girlfriend in well see has been staying for 6 weeks!

What is a realistic amount for each of them and how can I justify this as they are rather argumentative?

Kind regards
Annie

Back to the original question - there is no single right answer, but some options to consider:

1. Work out what the household bills are, divide them by 3 and ask them to pay 1/3

2. Look at what renting a single room in a shared house in your general area costs, bear in mind that most such arrangements include council tax but exclude other bills, including food, and ask for a similar amount + 1/3 bills and grocery costs.

3. Start from 1 or 2 and then discount by a bit to reflect the fact that they are your kids and you are willing to do them a favour.

4. Make a new arrangement where the 3 of you take it in turns to do the big household shop, so one week you do it, and pay for it, the next week your son does it, and pays for it, and the week after, your daughter does it ad pays for it. Have a shopping list each week. You can request something towards the cost of their room as well.

5. work out how much it would cost you to live alone - including reduced bills, dingle person discount on council tax, groceries for one. Subtract that from the actual household outgoings and charge them each 50% of the difference to break even, or use that figure as a starting point to work out an amount you feel is fair.

Think about your needs as well as theirs. Are you in a strong financial position, able to make regular savings and with a reasonable pension building up? Or are you just about managing, and unable to afford holidays or other fun things for yourself? that may affect how much it is reasonable for you to continue to financially support 2 more adults.

Rather than asking you to justify why they should pay, ask them to justify why they think they shouldn't, and see what they say. After all, they are adults. You may decide to treat it differently if they are both saving madly to be able to move out than if they are spending all of their income.

Do they have more, or less, disposable income than you do?