Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning

crazy_cat_lady

Morning all :coffee:
I'm not sure how this happened but I slept until 8.40 this morning :j No noise from ds as he's at his dad's and even the cats gave up trying to get me out of bed :rotfl: However, I do still have this headache. It's an unusual thing for me, because I had this daith piercing done which pretty much cured my migraines and I don't normally get headaches any more - never mind 3 day headaches. I'm well hydrated so can only blame stress. I've had 2 pints of water and something to eat, and a couple of paracetamol and I've got my fingers crossed.
No plans for today other than I'll need to pick ds up later from his dad's place. Have asked dd if she wants to do anything just the 2 of us before then. We'll see if she says anything.
I didn't say much to ex last night when I saw him other than that the letter was on its way and he needed to make sure he got some legal advice. We'll see what happens next. I need to move on from stressing about that now because its been a couple of days and it's all just a waiting game - it's going to be weeks rather than days isn't it?

foxgloves

It probably is, CCL. Time to concentrate on yourself & projects which will support you in your new single life & help you to feel a little bit more positive about yourself.
Wishing you a peaceful weekend that's as unstressy as possible in the circumstances.
F x

beanielou

Glad that you had a good wee sleep
Sorry about the migraines.
Agree with you that they will be stress sadly.

enthusiasticsaver

If your DH is owed a share from the house presumably you will be deducting the amounts you have lent him since you split? Hope it gets sorted soon.

crazy_cat_lady

So... dd is almost 14, and if you ask a 14 year old girl what she wants to do, there is an almost certain answer - shopping. Thankfully she's a savvy shopper - we looked round lots of shops and she chose carefully, getting a pair of pink jeans that she loved that were reduced from £39.99 to £11.99 in G@P, with a further 20% off. I bought myself a new pair of trainers in preparation for endless days of walking around Alton Towers over the next couple of weeks. They were reduced from £107 to £32, and it was all paid from the clothing budget. She also used her own pocket money to buy some fancy frappucino at St@rbucks.
We picked ds up on our way home (I think Sunderland won) - he's shattered because his dad has had him doing lots of walking about.
While I had the three of us together, I discussed with them about going away next week. I don't feel well prepared for it yet - it's paid for in terms of the park and the accommodation, but we've not made a decision on what time we're leaving Tuesday, where we'll stop on the way down, what we'll do foodwise while we're away etc. At the moment it's just putting ideas in their heads but I would like to feel more prepared than I do.
I haven't thought much about the money thing today, which is strange. I'm still budgeting religiously on YNAB but the pension stuff is gone for now. Good. I am writing down every penny I give him ES, don't worry about that. He did make a bit of a comment about playing awkward if he felt like it, but I have plenty of awkward to play in return if it goes that way. I doubt that it will...

beanielou

Hate to say but be prepared for awkward

Chrystal

And make sure he signs to say he has received the money you've given him.... just in case.

Honeysucklelou2

Or can you make any payments by bank transfer with a reference so that there is traceability, should it ever be needed.

beanielou

Honeysucklelou2 wrote: »

Or can you make any payments by bank transfer with a reference so that there is traceability, should it ever be needed.

Good idea

crazy_cat_lady

Already ahead of you on that one. Every penny he's had has gone electronically from my account to his so there is most definitely a paper trail (or an electronic one at least). I am prepared for awkward, but I did remind him that the longer it takes and the more we fight, the less there will be at the end and the happier the solicitors will be. He seemed to agree, but there's nothing much else I can do other than to wait.
Had another pretty good night of sleep last night - although I have noticed that I keep waking up with my shoulders all hunched up and uncomfortable. That is probably stress related as well - I feel like I've been on a quest to find a decent pillow for years without any joy... so it probably is me. However, I am going to bite the bullet and try another pillow. This will be the last one though.
Off to tutoring this morning and then off to my mams for a free feed and a catch up with her. After a couple of weeks of not doing very much I have busy times ahead, which will be nice but I need to keep manageable and not wipe myself out. I have written my list of things to do and updated the annoying jobs list as well. Need to make sure I stay on top of everything there.
Right, I'm off to get dressed and make a start on the day. I'll report in later. Have a good one everyone :wave: