Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning

1LuckyLady · 21 May 2019 at 12:25PM

triple_choc_chip wrote: »

Good luck tomorrow. When you feel nervous, imagine how many of us are rooting for you, sending positive vibes and wishing for the best outcome for you. That’s all the regular posters, intermittent ones like me - but we’re always reading - and then there must be at least a 1000 more or even 10,000 or even....:shocked: all supporting you. Have a dodgy hug from me on behalf of everyone :grouphug:

well said!! Good luck with today CCL.

GlendaSugarbean · 21 May 2019 at 1:03PM

Good luck for today

Chrystal · 21 May 2019 at 5:32PM

Hope everything went as you wanted it to today. ((((hugs))))X

dawnybabes · 21 May 2019 at 5:59PM

Hope everything went ok x

wishingthemortgaheaway · 21 May 2019 at 5:59PM

Hoping no news is good news.

crazy_cat_lady · 21 May 2019 at 7:09PM

Evening all :hello:
I'm really overwhelmed by all of the kind words and messages you've all left me. Thank you so much - it really means a lot...
Unfortunately, there's not a lot of progress to report - except another massive spend and another delay. Obviously the ex didn't turn up to the hearing, nor did any legal representation - so it was just me, my solicitor and the judge. Scary, but all over in less than 10 minutes. As ex is currently undergoing psychiatric care the judge decided that we couldn't do anything short term. He has deferred the decision on the costs order, but will issue an order that ex has 28 days to submit his financial documents to the court or face a penalty of some sort. We have to have another hearing in about 6 weeks time to discuss the outcome (if there is one), so I'm another £1600 lighter and still waiting. I could actually cry. It felt like a massive waste of time and money to be absolutely no further forward.
Deep breaths... this too shall pass.
But I got an afternoon out of work on a beautiful day, in a beautiful city - and it turns out my solicitor is quite funny (as we had half an hour to chat and fill the time in). So some good stuff.
Unsurprisingly I didn't sleep well last night and I am now quite exhausted so another early night on the cards.
Small spend on car parking at court but other than that - nothing else.

wishingthemortgaheaway · 21 May 2019 at 7:15PM

Sorry to hear you've not made any progress and it's cost you even more money. Are any of these costs recoverable from oh either in cash or a reduced settlement that you have to give him eventually?

crazy_cat_lady · 21 May 2019 at 7:29PM

Ex currently owes me almost £2.5k and I am applying for him to cover these costs as well as it wouldn't be happening if he would engage with what's going on. The reality is that I'm unlikely to ever see that money from him so my solicitor is using it to negotiate with the settlement etc.

Chrystal · 21 May 2019 at 8:11PM

Well with any luck you'll get it back by not having to give him as much.
Seems so unfair that all the burden of this is on you. As for OH it must be nice to totally bury his head in the sand and plead that he can't cope..... I think most people would be able to say, with honest truth, that they can't cope (including you) but you're not given the choice! (((hugs))) X