Spousal maintenance

Red-Squirrel_2

LilElvis wrote: »

I'm surprised no one has noticed yet that this thread appears to be written by the husband of another poster who started her thread a month ago:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5772292

Note the similarities:
Wife works 2 days a week and refuses to do more
Children age 1 and 6
New partner wants to be a childminder
50/50 custody
Adulterous husband now with woman he had affair with
Both spouses now have new partners
Husband refuses to allow wife's new partner into marital home because he's paying for it

As the frequent mantra on this board is "we're only getting one side of the story" it's quite clever trolling to give us the other side's view.

Ooh, very good!

Pollycat

Judi wrote: »

Of course its a troll. Noone who is in the right mind would post what he has.

The user name possibly gave the game away...;)

margaretclare

I haven't read through the whole thread but...

On reading the OP's first post, I was reminded very much of what happened in my DH's second divorce, around the turn of the millennium. That, too, was very adversarial on the part of his ex, who wanted to 'take him for every penny' even though he arrived on my doorstep with his worldly goods packed into and on top of a rusty old car, redundant, not well, and with debts. The correspondence that passed between solicitors had to be seen to be believed.

Having read some of the responses, I'm amazed that we are in 2018. The OP talks of himself as 'the breadwinner'. Does that term really still exist? And he admits to having been unfaithful to his wife, not as DH did, by moving out, but while they still live together.

It's my understanding that, in most failed marriages of reasonable length, the starting point is 50/50 of all their joint assets, with the proviso that children of the marriage must be taken care of until they're old enough to take care of themselves. The term 'spousal maintenance' is an archaic one, as is the assumption of a male breadwinner.

Things have moved on in the last 20 years, thankfully.

sulphate

*opens popcorn*

margaretclare

Sorry about this. As I said, I hadn't read it all.

sammyjammy

Ames wrote: »

I've just spotted the OPs username. I think we've been had.

I !!!!!!! hope so :eek: