Spousal maintenance

thorsoak

You do realise that if your new partner were to become a childminder, that your ex-wife would not be able to use childcare vouchers, nor would your partner be able to charge for looking after the child - and that would mean that your daughter would be taking up a place which would be profitable.

Mr.Grey

Please don't make fun of me, I am in genuine need of advice. I am not in the habit of wasting either mine or other peoples time.

Mr.Grey

thorsoak wrote: »

You do realise that if your new partner were to become a childminder, that your ex-wife would not be able to use childcare vouchers, nor would your partner be able to charge for looking after the child - and that would mean that your daughter would be taking up a place which would be profitable.[/QUOTE

It would save me paying for the childcare then, my ex still won't get any more money as she can work full time. I don't see why not though.

Ames

Mr.Grey wrote: »

Please don't make fun of me, I am in genuine need of advice. I am not in the habit of wasting either mine or other peoples time.

You've been given advice. You just haven't been told what you want to hear.

thorsoak

seashore22 wrote: »

Actually I wish I hadn't posted now because I'm not so sure about this thread. At least I hope no one is this lacking in self awareness and empathy in real life.

You talk about empathy? You are coming over as a controlling serial adulterer - who is so angry that your soon to be ex-wife has had enough of you - that you are trying to control her by keeping her short of money. Your current partner should be aware that when a mistress becomes a partner, she leaves a vacancy for another mistress!

Such a nice man - NOT!

You are now finding out that you have to pay for your pleasures.

stokesley

thorsoak wrote: »

You talk about empathy? You are coming over as a controlling serial adulterer - who is so angry that your soon to be ex-wife has had enough of you - that you are trying to control her by keeping her short of money. Your current partner should be aware that when a mistress becomes a partner, she leaves a vacancy for another mistress!

Such a nice man - NOT!

You are now finding out that you have to pay for your pleasures.

It has to be a wind-up; no one can possibly be that ghastly.

Can they?:eek:

thorsoak

Oh yes they can ....I've known a couple of "very nice chaps" who have tried to starve their ex-wives out just because they've had enough of the adultery/controlling behaviour!

seashore22

thorsoak wrote: »

You talk about empathy? You are coming over as a controlling serial adulterer - who is so angry that your soon to be ex-wife has had enough of you - that you are trying to control her by keeping her short of money. Your current partner should be aware that when a mistress becomes a partner, she leaves a vacancy for another mistress!

Such a nice man - NOT!

You are now finding out that you have to pay for your pleasures.

Did you mean to post that and quote my post? I'm not the op.

Seanymph

seashore I think you were quoted because thorsoak was agreeing with your sentiment.

That's how I read it anyway

Mr.Grey

thorsoak wrote: »

I would suggest that you read through the (very long) thread started by JackRS entitled "Separated, how much should I provide?" It might prove enlightening!

Reading this is exactly the reason I don't want to pay. This guys ex is ripping him off. That's not happening to me.