My journey to a debt free life

Drawingaline

Just catching up, so sorry to bring the subject of your parents back up!

My mum had a lot of issues due to her upbringing. I adored my grandparents, and learning more about how they treated my mum upset me. I can now put it into the context of the times it happened (1950's) and my mum had counselling after my grandma died. However I strongly feel she should have had this much much earlier, looking back it impacted her hugely all her life. 

Now her and my dad's relationship is strained. They are so so different and it worked while dad worked and she was raising kids, but I feel they barely tolerate each other now and are very naggy and snipy in company which I hate. On their own they are fine. But my mum broke my trust four years ago and I am still not over it. It put a large distance between us, and I have kept the relationship at a distance since, to protect myself. And also come to the conclusion that what I expected from her was too much.

So anyway, feel free to rant away on here if it helps, but I wouldn't rule out some sort of counselling, it may take a couple of goes to find the right person, but going through the trauma your mum put you through when you were 11/12 may help your relationship with her.

And I hope you start to feel better soon. We had the double whammy of stinking cold, and the people in the house who didn't get the cold got covid! PCR test galore for two weeks 🤦

Onebrokelady

Sunshine_girl2 said:

I went to Hobbycraft before my card making week and was very disappointed with the stock in store . I should have ordered online , they did have loads of Christmas things though as you would expect at this time of the year. 

Hoping that you feel better soon, so you can enjoy your time off . Hope B stays ok as well . 

I'm hoping they have lots of Christmas things but really shouldn't buy anymore 😬luckily I do like just browsing so hopefully won't be tempted. I also need wool for the Pom Pom garlands so I'm hoping they have some in the right colours. B is almost back to normal but I'm still getting her checked out 

Onebrokelady

milann said:

I think either paint would be ok. Depends on the finish on you embellishments I suppose. I popped in my Hobbycraft last week and looked for the advent houses. I didn’t see any.

I'm going with the chalk paint, the embellishment are a very pale wood but I'm thinking of white washing them. I think the advent houses are selling fast, that's why I ordered it when I saw it online 

Onebrokelady

Cherryfudge said:

Hope the cold soon goes, OBL. It might account for some of the wretched feelings over your parents' visit, I suppose but my heart goes out to you over that. So difficult.

Hope B continues to be better too.

Thanks Cherry ,I don't think the cold helped at all,I'm feeling much better today which was a relief. B is doing ok too now 😊

Onebrokelady

Drawingaline said:

Just catching up, so sorry to bring the subject of your parents back up!

My mum had a lot of issues due to her upbringing. I adored my grandparents, and learning more about how they treated my mum upset me. I can now put it into the context of the times it happened (1950's) and my mum had counselling after my grandma died. However I strongly feel she should have had this much much earlier, looking back it impacted her hugely all her life. 

Now her and my dad's relationship is strained. They are so so different and it worked while dad worked and she was raising kids, but I feel they barely tolerate each other now and are very naggy and snipy in company which I hate. On their own they are fine. But my mum broke my trust four years ago and I am still not over it. It put a large distance between us, and I have kept the relationship at a distance since, to protect myself. And also come to the conclusion that what I expected from her was too much.

So anyway, feel free to rant away on here if it helps, but I wouldn't rule out some sort of counselling, it may take a couple of goes to find the right person, but going through the trauma your mum put you through when you were 11/12 may help your relationship with her.

And I hope you start to feel better soon. We had the double whammy of stinking cold, and the people in the house who didn't get the cold got covid! PCR test galore for two weeks 🤦

Hi yep that's pretty much the same with my parents,my mum and a terrible upbringing and it has affected her whole life, she has never talked to anyone about it though which is sad but she just wouldn't do that. My dad also didn't have the best upbringing and was always compared to his older brother which has resulted in a person who is always trying to be something he isn't and trying to impress people.
They both snipe and dig at each other a lot of the time which is difficult to witness. I think like you say while they were busy working and raising kids it took the focus off and Dad always had a very active social life so they didn't spend that much time together on their own, now they are just in together all the time and they just don't really like each other that much. My Dad tells me he loves my Mum and I think he actually does but his temper gets the better of him whereas my Mum despises him and it shows 

I woke up feeling a bit more human this morning so I'm hoping I've turned a corner now 😊

Willowtree222

Hope you’re feeling bette soon and have a lovely day at hobby craft. I love that store! X

milann

Pleased to hear you’re feeling better.

Seasidegal58

Echoing the others. Have a fab day at Hobbystore. 👍

Sunshine_girl2

Glad to hear you are feeling better . Have you Hobbycraft up ? Enjoy the rest of your break. 

Onebrokelady

Feeling more human cold wise today I think it's actually gone 🎉🎉 
I took B to the vets today and they have given her anti inflammatories for a week plus a week of short walks so no trips to the beach for a while unless I go without her 😟they think it's just age related arthritis and have said that if she still appears to be struggling after the meds have finished they will start her on some treatment for that.
I also met my friend for coffee