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Happy December :xmastree:
The tree is up, the rest will have to be done as and when. Over faced myself with things to do today. Went to Insanity first thing, had to really motivate myself but enjoyed it so glad I went. Painted the bathroom walls, took the dog on the park, made a batch of roast carrot, garlic and chickpea soup (from a Bootstrap Cook recipe) and resisted the temptation to throttle Mr SA who has been challenging today to say the least - aargh!!!!!!
Got a carer's assessment on Tuesday and I'm tempted to tell them I'm struggling quite a bit with him at the moment.
Only spend today has been on a paper.
At work tomorrow but working from home Tuesday. Thank goodness it's a pretty low key week this week.I get knocked down but I get up again (Chumbawamba, Tubthumping)0 -
Tell them.
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Well done on getting so much done SA. I bet the tree looks nice
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I would definitely tell them at the carers assessment that you're struggling with Mr SA at the moment, I don't know how you cope.Finally Debt Free After 34 Years, But Still Need to Live Frugally
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Or as my Mum would say, brush yourself down, tomorrow is another day or
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I’m another one who thinks you should tell it as it is at the carers meeting.
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I really feel for you SA and you should be honest at the carers assessment if you are finding Mr SA tough. My mum is carer for my stepdad who has dementia and she says it is like a bereavement in all but name. I should imagine caring for someone with a brain injury whose personality has altered drastically must be a similar dilemma. Mind you I seem to recall you saying he was difficult even before his brain injury.I’m a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on the Debt free Wannabe, Budgeting and Banking and Savings and Investment boards. If you need any help on these boards, do let me know. Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any posts you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button, or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.
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Just remember this, ' who cares for the carer?0
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Be honest and tell them how it really is. Unless they know they won't be able to help(that's if they can).:j Debtfree and and staying that way.:j3-6 month emergency fund, No.61 £140.000
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In my job I see some people's needs assessments (different client group but still...) - those carers' needs are very important.
I wonder whether MR SA might be eligible for some sort of Personal Assistant hours? I don't know how widely these are available but I know some people have assistants who come in to help - anything from personal care to going out and about (shops, pub - one individual goes on protest marches among other things) - and this takes a huge burden off the principle carer. And I know a few of the PAs: they are fantastic people who understand where their employer is coming from.
I hope the assessment goes well. You really have to look after your own interests in order to look after Mr SA's.I think a bit of sunshine is good for frugal living. (Cranky40)
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I agree tell them.
Hope you're okay x“Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the way.”0
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