Sainsburys disability discrimination

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NeilCr wrote: »

Totally agree.

So what would you do in my families situation?
What would you do if it were your daughter?

baza52

You need to be supporting your daughter to overcome this OCD, all you are doing is making it worse.
You have had some good advice in this thread but wont take any of it on board.

You blame the posters her, the health service and anyone else that does not see it the same way you do.
With that attitude you are only reenforcing your daughters problem.
You need to look for way to help her not expect everyone else to bend over backwards to acomodate her and her special needs.

If you dont seek specialist help now she will only get worse.

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AndyPix wrote: »

Im sorry you are having a hard time OP .
I must admit though, Im really struggling to imagine any scenario where this would actually happen


I dont have OCD - and if any staff member started spraying stuff anywhere near me I would be making the biggest fuss ever - again, i just cant imagine this actually happening ..


How would they justify it ?


What did they say when you said firmly "Erm excuse me - that has just gone all over my stuff !!" :huh:

If she or I would have made the biggest fuss then we would have been seen as troublesome, something quite a few posters on here seem to think that, my daughter would just say to me Dad I can't believe it. To the member of staff she would say why did you do that, you know I have ocd. The member of staff blanked her and just walked off.

I would just be putting my face in my hands and fight back the tears because I knew it would cause problems when she got back home because she didn't want to get angry in store.

NeilCr

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So what would you do in my families situation?
What would you do if it were your daughter?

I do not know because I am not an expert in OCD. I was agreeing with PollyCat that I do not think this thread is helping you.

However, I would not take such an antagonistic tone as you have with those here who have tried to help you (and by the sound of it others). And before you say anything I have 25 years experience of living with someone with mental health problems so I do have some idea of what you are going through.

I think baza52 has made some good points-especially around seeing specialist help

Pollycat

UN17ED wrote: »

So what would you do in my families situation?
What would you do if it were your daughter?

You didn't actually ask this question of me directly but as you quoted a post that agreed with my advice to you, I'll respond.
What I wouldn't be doing is arguing the toss with random strangers on a public forum.

I hope that venting has made you feel better (although I suspect it hasn't).
Maybe you'll get the advice you say you're looking for (although I doubt it).

baza52 wrote: »

You need to be supporting your daughter to overcome this OCD, all you are doing is making it worse.
You have had some good advice in this thread but wont take any of it on board.

You blame the posters her, the health service and anyone else that does not see it the same way you do.
With that attitude you are only reenforcing your daughters problem.
You need to look for way to help her not expect everyone else to bend over backwards to acomodate her and her special needs.

If you dont seek specialist help now she will only get worse.

I agree with the above.
And you've missed Sainsbury's from the list of people the OP is blaming.:)

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baza52 wrote: »

You need to be supporting your daughter to overcome this OCD, all you are doing is making it worse.
You have had some good advice in this thread but wont take any of it on board.

You blame the posters her, the health service and anyone else that does not see it the same way you do.
With that attitude you are only reenforcing your daughters problem.
You need to look for way to help her not expect everyone else to bend over backwards to acomodate her and her special needs.

If you dont seek specialist help now she will only get worse.

My family and I have contacted every relevant medical avenue open and as I have said have had to resort to contacting our local mp to help her get the treatment she needs.

We didn't ask Sainsburys to bend over backwards nor have we asked Asda to bend over backwards, I just simply asvised both managers of each store that she had severe ocd and the difference between the two is like night and day.

The general advice has been to stop enabling her illness and no one has advised any sensible advice that will help with our daughter.

hollydays

There are helplines like Mind that you could call to talk through your approach to your daughter, to give you support.

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NeilCr wrote: »

I do not know because I am not an expert in OCD. I was agreeing with PollyCat that I do not think this thread is helping you.

However, I would not take such an antagonistic tone as you have with those here who have tried to help you (and by the sound of it others). And before you say anything I have 25 years experience of living with someone with mental health problems so I do have some idea of what you are going through.

I think baza52 has made some good points-especially around seeing specialist help

So you can't answer the questions of how you would handle this situation if it were your daughter just like Pollycat and other who have questioned my behaviour and attitude and that of my daughter saying I am enabling her.

I would like to see how you or anyone else who has said the above would deal with it.
So because I don't agree with the way we have been treated by Sainsburys or disagree with what someone on here says makes me antagonistic? Well so be it.

hollydays

This is stuff you are presumably familiar with
https://www.ocduk.org/ffc-advice

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Pollycat wrote: »

You didn't actually ask this question of me directly but as you quoted a post that agreed with my advice to you, I'll respond.
What I wouldn't be doing is arguing the toss with random strangers on a public forum.

I hope that venting has made you feel better (although I suspect it hasn't).
Maybe you'll get the advice you say you're looking for (although I doubt it).



I agree with the above.
And you've missed Sainsbury's from the list of people the OP is blaming.:)

So I'll ask you directly what would you do if it were your daughter?
I apply blame where blame is due and stand by everything I've done, it's always different until something like this happens to you then you will be seeing things a different way.