Self help thread. I am a widow coping getting on with it

Elona_2

kittie

It is amazing how many people do not get the fact that "they have sold the house" means just that!!! They tend to either not have cleared stuff or still be hanging around while you have arrived with the removal van and removal people. The last vendor kept trying to sell me stuff while I was trying to tell the removal man where things went etc. Thank heavens I had a friend with me to distract him. Greenbees advice sounds spot on.

I feel much better for having a few cold diet drinks and sitting in a cool room with my feet up. I have been looking online and found a very fancy and safe baby bath and changing mat to be kept at my house so that dd does not have to load up her car with these things and can concentrate on the essentials. I am just about to wrap up the presents for cousin's new baby girl and I can post it tomorrow.

Hugs to all.

humptydumptybits

Horrible day, journey was horrendous and was nearly 4 hrs there (with a quick loo stop) and 3.5 hrs back. Should be 2 hrs each way! She is so frail and I don't think she will be with us for long. She is in her 90s but such a fighter even as frail as she is. I feel so sad and low, can't eat and think I have a UTI starting. I just want to cry.

Elona_2

humpty

A good cry might make you feel a bit better and get it out of your system. It is really sad but please try to drink something as not having fluids will make UTI worse. Do you have any over the counter medication you can take to nip it in the bud?

Hugs

humptydumptybits

Thanks Elona. I can't keep anything down at the moment. I don't have anything to take, only ever had one UTI before so not geared up for it. I think I'm going to go and have a cool shower as I feel so hot and sticky, I can have a good cry in the shower and then an early night. I've got a sleeping tablet, had some months ago and just have one left, do you think it is OK to take one if it is a UTI? I think a good sleep is probably what I need after the last couple of days. We've had a power cut as well so not sure when we will get that back on.

lessonlearned

humptydumptybits wrote: »

Thanks Elona. I can't keep anything down at the moment. I don't have anything to take, only ever had one UTI before so not geared up for it. I think I'm going to go and have a cool shower as I feel so hot and sticky, I can have a good cry in the shower and then an early night. I've got a sleeping tablet, had some months ago and just have one left, do you think it is OK to take one if it is a UTI? I think a good sleep is probably what I need after the last couple of days. We've had a power cut as well so not sure when we will get that back on.

A diy emergency treatment for uti - a teaspoonful of bicarb in water. It won't cure it, you will have to see your GP ASAP because you will probably need antiobiotics if it's really taken a hold but it might ease the stinging and make you feel a bit more comfortable. You can drink it every couple of hours or so.

You are probably dehydrated too so lots of water, it will dilute the urine and again help ease the stinging. Maybe a couple of paracetamol if you feel feverish. You might run a temperature whilst your body tries to fight the infection.

Just realised it is Saturday tomorrow, so you'll need to go to an emergency drop in centre. Don't wait till Monday.

My sister swears by lemon barley water, worth a try if there's anywhere you can buy a bottle tonight.

I tend to keep a box of cystitis relief sachets in at all times. Sainsbury's Own label. At the first sign of any niggles I take those and they nip it in the bud but the bicarb trick works just as well in an emergency, just doesn't taste as pleasant.

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LL is spot on about that diy treatment, the bicarb will work but you need to get water into you. I think everyone is pretty dehydrated at the moment because of the relentless heat. It definitely should help but drink as much as you can. I think many of us are aware of not going to the loo as often as usual just now and it is the heat, we are constantly losing moisture through our skin. I am constantly drinking but I still feel those starter prickles from time to time

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when I sell my house, then I will need to drawdown part from my sipp, which is my inherited tax free sipp as hubbie died before 75. I cannot put it back in the sipp but I can do something similar, which anyone can do. I can buy long dated gilts and put them in an isa and I can withdraw from the isa when I want, again tax free.

Anyone with the money, can save £20,000 tax free yearly in a stocks and shares isa. Say I buy a gilt (government stock) at 4.5% coupon which matures in 2042, this costs 146.65 today, per unit. 20k would give me 13,650 units and that would give me a yearly income of 13650 x 4.5% = £614. When the time is up then the isa would get £13650 back. I really don`t care about what I would get back at age 94 but I would have that regular income to call upon, tax free

Gilts are easy to buy, I use aj bell and it costs £9.95 when I buy with a maximum custody charge of £7.5 a quarter, no matter how much is in there. There is no charge for withdrawals. This is my plan going forward, drip feeding back when I have sold my house and getting a regular and very safe income. I intend to start the ball rolling by april 2019. I have an empty isa already set up

I was much calmer re the house yesterday afternoon, I have e mailed EA because the property is still on RM and on their website. My offer was conditional on withdrawing from sale. Later I e mailed again wrt the stairlift, the vendor has a huge emotional attachment to it and I told the EA that if he could not persuade her to sell it then I would take it and as far as I am concerned, the buying process on my part is still intact. I cannot do any more now but there is a bit of psychology involved because as long as I see it on RM then I feel unsafe and will keep looking, if it is removed then I stop looking, surely an EA must see that

lessonlearned

Thanks for that detailed explanation about gilts. I'm going to,save this and then when I've moved and the dust has settled I will look into it.

I need to learn more....I need to make every 1p work extra hard.

lessonlearned

BTW. I am delighted with the acupuncture results in my knee. How lovely to be almost pain free. My neck and shoulders are a bit easier too, although he did say this would take longer. He applied needles to my knee so the effects have to work through my system to get to my shoulders. But I can already a see a slight improvement. It was rather uncomfortable but not unbearable.

I will need an 8 week course of treatment, twice a week, so 16 treatments in all. (Maybe less, he thinks I responded well so might not need the full 16). After that maintenance treatments, he reckons about 4 a year should do it.

I have paid prjvately. He does treat on the NHS but my GP wasn't very forthcoming......she never is. I will definitely be switching surgeries when I Move.

Let's hope we've cracked it. I really have found this endless pain very debilitating and it was beginning to seriously impact my life. I shall be 67 next week but there have been times when I felt like 97. I have been worried about how I would cope in years to come......increased pain, less mobility etc.

I have had to raid my savings to pay for the treatment but if it gives me my life back then it will be worth every penny.

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Isn`t it amazing, the way small needles being tweaked stimules energy flow along very important meridians ie one part is linked to another. It is generally blockages in this energy flow that make us ill and being ill can be self-perpetuating. You are on the way up LL :T