Self help thread. I am a widow coping getting on with it

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Oh LL I do feel your struggles, you will find your path but just now we all have to go with the flow, not force stuff to happen and I mean me too. Re me being busy but I know myself, that I feel satisfied when I am productive. So I might as well be productive in a positive way. This forward move and the actual removing was niggling me to bits, so I thought I would do something about that. I don`t just have girlie hobbies but I have a workshop full and many of the items in there are both expensive and sentimental. I am safeguarding them


It is just a second breakfast now and am finishing coffee before going back out. Lol I look like the old waman from the woods but I care not. I bulk bought some packing materials online and am using them and am using many of my storage boxes. I did the first pass a few months ago and today am going through each box, many are see through and so I am hiding good stuff in paper. Each box is numbered and I am doing a quick inventory and then securing each box.



My son gave me a gorgeous hardback notebook when hubbie died, he said that it was good to write things down and I did. A few months ago I tore out and shredded those pages. I was ready to get to the next stage. I am using this lovely book to help me move forward. I have already summarised feng shui principles in there and will soon put the inventory in there too, as well as what I will take in my car, personal and small expensive items, collections and so on


I am buzzy right now but will rest completely after my lunch, which will be a little later today. LL you and Elona, the next few years will be very busy, you will be called upon at a moments notice. Its a wonderful and gorgeous time for bond-building, never to be forgotten

wort

I was unable to sleep last night, today is my wedding anniversary, my first without him , I'm sorry I can't say anymore.X

seven-day-weekend

How awful for you Wort.I wish I could do something to take your pain away.

Elona_2

wort

I am so sorry things are so hard just now. Hugs and empathy.

Have just spent most of the afternoon with older dd . I missed the bus I wanted as a package was being delivered and the next bus was nearly 25 minutes late. I finally got home at nearly seven p. m. and was shattered so am putting my feet up and watching "Last of the Summer Wine".

Other older dd and sil have friends staying this weekend so unless middle dd has any plans it looks like a quiet weekend, just clearing and sorting my bedroom.I might even get round to pinning up my living room curtains ready to shorten but don't hold your breath.

Hugs to all

lessonlearned

wort wrote: »

I was unable to sleep last night, today is my wedding anniversary, my first without him , I'm sorry I can't say anymore.X

So sorry to hear this, Wort.

Sending you healing vibes and hugs.

Xx

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hugs from me wort, I share your pain



I came across some hubbies hand written notes this afternoon, while I was sorting, in a pad. It just makes some things seem pointless, decisions over this and that but in the end, what did it matter.

Elona_2

kittie

It seems to be the little things that sneak up on us that are so difficult. Hugs and positive vibes.

Youngest dd has just driven over to spend tonight and middle dd is driving over so we can all go shopping and maybe have a nice lunch. I did a quick tidy round and tried out my new vacuum on my bedroom carpet. It is shocking how much dust and fluff etc it has picked up. You would think I had not hoovered for months (I have regularly hoovered, honest.)

I tried out the new posh shampoo this morning as my platinum hair has been yellowing at the ends and it looks awful. My hair is now much more even coloured.

Hugs

poppy811

Sorry I have been out of touch for a while. I have been reading but not posting. The house has been on the market and has attracted quite a bit of interest but no firm offers. However I am uncertain what to do now. I was treated for breast cancer 13 years ago but it looks like it is back so I am being fast tracked to the breast clinic. I do not think I can cope with this and a house move. Worrying myself sick so I am going out in a little while to buy a birthday present for a friend and hopefully some summer trousers for me, that should bring on the rain!

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poppy, you are vulnerable at the moment and stress will not help. My advice is to take the house off the market and see how you are in spring. It has to be all about your health right now, nothing else. Eat as well as you can, sleep as much as you can and let your body cope with trying to heal, which is exactly what it was designed to do.

Thinking about you and sending you good energy so that your physical strength gets the upper hand. Music will help, calm music like classic fm and maybe you get somerset radio, like me, fantastic uplifting station and you need that uplift, which will help your mind, which will help your body

lessonlearned

Oh Lordy, Poppy. I am so very sorry to hear your news.

I'm inclined to agree with Kitty. Put yourself first, take your house off the market. It's another layer of stress you don't need right now,

Take good care of yourself. Time for some serious TLC. Time to Focus On You.