Cooking for one (Mark Three)

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I`m sad to read about those `threats` PN. I get brilliant tips from your postings on other threads but there are always people who get jealous of the ones with sense and good genuine advice, so they send a moaning report. I have had the warnings too, after I started the widows thread, always moans from people who had no idea what grieving was like, who had no experience. However it is important to delete and move on, tbh it is their loss

I ate my cooked second breakfast and enjoyed it much more than if I had tried to eat it at 5. I don`t have a pud craving either, just enjoying a cup of hibiscus tea, make my own, just put the dried flowers into a paper t bag and use it twice, then chuck

I am quite happy staying in, there is much brightness from the laying snow. This is nothing compared to 1963 but we still walked to school, sat with soaked socks and shoes, no boots, walked home, had cold food because power was often out. Candles on saucers, bed with army blankets and a coat on top, getting changed under the covers. Paraffin heater in the outside toilet. We never missed a day of school but then of course everyone, including teachers, lived locally

Elona, lino and a rag rug and one small fire

PasturesNew

Elona wrote: »

... worry you more?

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It's not in my skillset to question 'authority', even if I feel it's misplaced/misjudged. I simply melt into the background and remain sad and confused for weeks/months

PasturesNew

I see in the news a bunch of "single mums" moaning about some pub's meal offer "excluding them". I think they offered a free meal for accompanying dads.

Heck, wind your neck in ladies ..... what about all those "kids eat free" us singles/without kids are forced to walk past all the time?? And/or the "two for one" meal deals?

halogen

pineapple wrote: »

My goodness where are you? I'm moving house!

West coast of Scotland. bit north of glasgow

halogen

Elona wrote: »

I still feel lucky that I can have the central heating on .....

I too grew up without central heating. Still don't have any in my own house. I occasionally flirt with the idea of getting it installed but I'm worried about the chaos it would cause. Also there's no gas supply to my area so it would have to be electric. Mind you it might mean the boiler would work....I've never managed to make that work since I bought the house 4 years ago.

Wednesday2000

I've had a banana, a strawberry yoghurt and a cup of tea so far.

moneyistooshorttomention

PasturesNew wrote: »

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It's not in my skillset to question 'authority', even if I feel it's misplaced/misjudged. I simply melt into the background and remain sad and confused for weeks/months

Being a questioner is a useful skill to have too imo.

It helps ITRW I find as the message "clicks home" after a while not to try and act like "Authority" or you will be "questioned" as to why you feel entitled to do so. Sometimes one has to be a "questioner" several times before the message gets home and the person/organisation/etc stops trying to "order you around/make your decisions for you" - but the message does usually sink in - eventually:cool:

I've come to the conclusion that I was lucky spending decades (outside the context of the workplace) where it was very rare for anyone to try "ordering around/acting like they were in charge" in any context (social or otherwise) and it just was not the prevailing ethos. So it's not my norm - and, accordingly, I have the confidence to say "This isn't normal - now stop it". Hence my first reaction to anyone trying to act "in charge" tends to be astonishment:rotfl:and I think that discomforts them more than anything else actually....

I've realised I can't get people to work in a modern co-operative open democratic etc etc way if they're not used to it - but I can refuse to go along with any "I'm in charge/keeping things to myself/etc" ways that they have probably spent decades having as the ethos they know.

But I do find it upsetting - as well as laughable and a very odd way to act.

Need2bthrifty

Morning All, :hello: long time. I hope everyone is keeping safe and warm in this [STRIKE]winter[/STRIKE] spring wonderland we’re dealing with.

Been having a bit of a communications nightmare over the past few months, it’s a long and convoluted story but in summary I’m on my third laptop in 5months, met some nice shop assistants, a very unhelpful, defensive and uninformed whippersnapper of a “manager” so in conclusion @rg0s will never have my custom again.

Food-wise like the rest of you I stocked up in advance of the weather arriving and after a rather scary drive home on Tuesday evening I haven’t needed to go out since – although I feel quite virtuous at finally dealing with the shredding mountain and re-organising cupboards, I am getting a bit stir-crazy now.

I’ve had toast and a banana for breakfast, not sure about lunch yet but have some chicken curry defrosting for tea.

There’s a break in the showers at the moment so I will get my boots on and go clear the route to the bins and the drive for the third time, it’s also a means of letting the neighbours know that I’m still alive

bouicca21

Even here in London you need proper walking boots if you venture out. I'm still tossing up whether to go to the SM for the one ingredient that I lack for today's planned meal or just to change the plan.

As another who remembers ice on the windows, a house with just one overheated room, and having to rake the grate and go out to fill the coal scuttle, I am so grateful for being deliciously warm indoors.

PasturesNew

Need2bthrifty wrote: »

...means of letting the neighbours know that I’m still alive

I did something earlier to announce my presence... just in case anybody had looked/wondered. My car can go days without moving ... and I'm tiny and not often outside, so can't be seen "going about doing what I do" unless you're prepared to sit it out and stalk me... so I did walk to the end of the garden, open the gate and generally kick snow about and around and make some big "tramping about" marks in the snow in the garden.

They can't tell if I've fallen over and died outside though .... just that I was alive at X o'clock when some snow was visibly moved/kicked about.... and my blinds are open if you go all the way round the far side of the house to look. I don't always open them; I opened them this morning, just for that message, "in case" anybody was vaguely inquisitive.