How do you do it?

judderman62

dorry wrote: »

hi judderman,

i did try to comment, but it just kept saying no enough letters or something bizzare, I was just gonna say, yeah you made me laugh

:D glad I brightened your day :beer:

liamsmum05

i have 2 children 4 and 2 and currently nearly 7m pregnant with my 3rd.during my 1st 4 months of being preg i had no sickness and stil havent but had no motivation what so ever, i was failing to get out of bed never mind do the washing up1 god that sounds sooo bad!
no im up 7am every morning if im not mopping floors b4 kids get up im hoovering or puttin washing on or washing pots then when kids are up ive done a little bvit of tidying,get kids ready take eldest to school for morning while its just me and DD i spend another hour or so getting more bits done then the rest playing with her, then the trouble starts lol..son comes home from pre school messy house again lol!! its an ongoing circle with them i tidy they mess i know you have to expect mess with kids its part and parcel of it all..my problem is im too house proud slightest lil speck of dirt its gone straight away.i swear i have ocd at the minute lol!!!
my other half has commentd on how cluttered the house is and has warned me to sort it or hes off as theres hardly any space lol!!
really do need to get sorted b4 baby no.3 is born end of jan!!

Essex-girl_2

Hi Dorry

Why dont you, on a normal week, keep a time sheet of things you do. Both at work and at home. I did this once just to see where my time is going then perhaps you could show it to your other half??

I was ill just after my 2nd child was born and DH had to do everything for a few weeks, certainly opened his eyes and ever since he has been very helpful and never says anything if the house is a mess.

dorry_2

Essex-girl wrote: »

Hi Dorry

Why dont you, on a normal week, keep a time sheet of things you do. Both at work and at home. I did this once just to see where my time is going then perhaps you could show it to your other half??

I was ill just after my 2nd child was born and DH had to do everything for a few weeks, certainly opened his eyes and ever since he has been very helpful and never says anything if the house is a mess.

hi essexgirl

thank you for your advice, I will do that, then present him with it. He has just phoned me a minute ago from work and he seems back to his easy going self, :rolleyes: He has quit smoking and now given up the patches, as well. He was on the smoking patches for 4 years:eek: and it has not been an easy withdrawl, talk about a bear with a sore head:mad: I am sure that this must have something to do with his irrationality :rotfl: I feel better just sounding off about him! its nice to know what others think and that it does take more than 7 hours a week to complete all the household management!!

Ellidee

Hi dorry that's a really strange coincidence you saying about your dh being like a bear with a sore head. I was just about to post, but read your's first, to suggest that maybe he is stressed. I thought maybe because of the hours he works -but ciggy withdrawal too !!! My dh gets stressed with his long hours and he has a bad back which has been playing up lately and boy can it make him grumpy sometimes . I suppose at work they have to be civil so they take it out on their nearest and dearest when they get home. Better out than in they say . Hey ho that's life. Glad to hear you are not a 'yes' woman (ie doormat) . Good on yer girl.:T

jess444_2

Hi,
Just noticed this thread and have only skimmed it. :rolleyes:
4 adults in this house, all work full time. I hate to 'waste' my valuable weekends cleaning and tidying so we have developed a weekly routine that takes about 2hrs.
OH gives kitchen a good clean, hoovers and mops. At the same time I do bathroom, living room and our bedroom. If DD's are at home they do their bedrooms, if not I shut the door and leave them.:D
I do one lot of washing each night to try to keep up with it and we have a dishwasher which is great.
Other than this I have to admit I don't do any cleaniing or tidying at all throughout the week. If the place is a mess, so be it.
I agree that it is soooo much easier now that children are grown up and feel it is important to learn to live with a bit of mess and not be so hard on ourselves.

judderman62

Essex-girl wrote: »

Hi Dorry

Why dont you, on a normal week, keep a time sheet of things you do. Both at work and at home. I did this once just to see where my time is going then perhaps you could show it to your other half??

I was ill just after my 2nd child was born and DH had to do everything for a few weeks, certainly opened his eyes and ever since he has been very helpful and never says anything if the house is a mess.

Hey Essex :hello:

ceridwen

I can definitely relate to all the above.! In my case - I have to spend 37 hours a week doing a job that is totally a waste of time - add in the other time connected with it - total 42 hours a week totally down the drain and nothing to show for it.

So - with that - I come home and think "Right - my time now - I am only going to do what I actually WANT to do" - and that means I find precious little time and motivation for doing housework - as that also comes under the heading of "Dont want to do - waste of time" - roll on when the job is out the window and I will be prepared to spend an hour or two per day on housework - as there will still be plenty of time for me!

MadDogWoman_2

Hi,

I'm another one with a missing cleaning gene.

I am trying though, I hoover, brush the kitchen floor, do the laundry and occasionally dust.

My mum comes round and does the ironing and DH looks after the kitchen - I cook make a complete mess and he clears up!!

I've noticed this change kicked in with the birth of my DD (6.5 months ago) but I do prefer playing with her rather than housework. I also follow the advice to rest when she sleeps religiously.

My problem is that if someone comments that what I've done isn't good enough I won't do it again.

MDW

judderman62

MadDogWoman wrote: »

Hi,

I'm another one with a missing cleaning gene.

I am trying though, I hoover, brush the kitchen floor, do the laundry and occasionally dust.

My mum comes round and does the ironing and DH looks after the kitchen - I cook make a complete mess and he clears up!!

I've noticed this change kicked in with the birth of my DD (6.5 months ago) but I do prefer playing with her rather than housework. I also follow the advice to rest when she sleeps religiously.

My problem is that if someone comments that what I've done isn't good enough I won't do it again.

MDW

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Judders