How do you do it?

Angelraesunshine

Ok i am sitting at the pc when really i should be downstairs doing the washing up, the rest of the ironing, cleaning the dinning room and the bathroom needs cleaning too.

I can just never get the energy or want to go do it all. Dont get me wrong my house is clean, not that tidy and we have a lot of building work going on so with my DH building me a new kitchen and 2 other rooms downstairs. I have never been the tidiest i have organised mess which is ok DH dont like it but but kinda gets it after 10 years i am not gonna change drastically from this. And i dont want my home clinical i want it a home i have 3 kids there is always gonna be stuff about, but this also dont help me as i know if i tidy they get home from school and its a mess before DH gets home.

But what with the house extention its really starting to get to me i want a tidier and cleaner house and i knew it would be hard with the work going on been over a year now but the internal work should be ready to start after 1/2 term.

I need inspiration and just cant seem to find it i have read the flylady threads and just cant get from them to go do it. I know its really starting to bother DH. He works very hard full time as a teacher and them comes home and does house. Me i only work 1/2 hours a day as a MSA at the kids school, i am the chairperson of the PTA which takes up most mornings to. But i hate doing things in the evening when kids gone to be as i am too tired by 7 30pm and want to veg out with a cuppa in front of tv or with a book.

I really need your help as i feel myself going in a downward spiral and i got to get out of this. Sorry to go on a bit but HELP ME PLEASE

Skint_Catt

I'm struggling too. I'm new to this domestic lark and I'm constantly tired. No kids, but I work full time as does OH, and there just always seems to be loads to do - washing, ironing, cooking, packed lunches, washing up, tidying. I've looked at the flylady thread too but my house always seems to be out of sync with it!

C xx

MrsB_2

I thought it was just me

I have a one year old and am 4 1/2 months pregnant, and i have ZERO energy or enthusiasm for housework.

I know what needs to be done, I even know how to do it, but getting off my butt and getting something done about it is another matter.

I'm pretty sure I still have some degree of depression after the birth of my daughter and the death of my mum just 5 months later. But what can i do about that given the fact I'm expecting again??

Today is my 30th birthday. I wasnt expecting to take it so hard!!

Penelope_Penguin

I struggle with this, too The clean and tidy gene certainly passed me by :rolleyes:

When I need to get myself motivated, I get my kitchen timer set for 15 mins. I then tackle 3 tasks (eg, tidy kitchen, sort paperwork, hoover), and rather than aiming to finish the task, just do what I can for 15 mins for each one. I then have 15 mins of R&R :j

That works for me.

Penny. x

Edit - Happy Birthday Mrs B :bdaycake: No housework on your birthday - isn't that the law

redruby

Hi,

I find it best to not put the computer on untill I have my jobs done for the day, otherwise I would just sit on here all day.

I get back from the school run just after 8, then have an hour or two tidying the house, it does help that I am a naturally tidy person, and if my house is not clean it stresses me out.

So this morning I got back from school,

changed DD bedding, and shoved in on a wash.
Tidied her room :rolleyes:
Hoovered up stairs and down
Mopped floors.
Put DW on.

This took me no longer than an hour, I find if you do a little bit a day, you really keep on top of it. My treat for doing this is then an hour on the computer. I will then go and prepare dinner and DD lunch for tomorrow.

Try just doing one room, say the kitchen, then give yourself 1/2 hour doing something you like, then another little job.

I love the fact that once we have had dinner and washed up I can then sit and relax, it sounds like this is stressing you out a bit, try and do one thing today, and see how much better you feel about it all.

Good luck let me know how you are getting on.

Sue

calleyw

I too have major problems with having a tidy house too.

My husband is home all day but is disabled so has no movement in his left hand and very little in the arm.

So there are a lot of jobs he can't do. My house needs gutting and starting again. I work full time and then seem to get home and have to start all over again I refuse to do it.

So I have no idea what I am going to do. But need to get on to it.

I try the 15 timer thing but it just does not seem to work.

I was hoping that husband was out tonight but it got cancelled. But then I don't see why I should spend my very little free time I get cleaning up.

It is amazing the mess that two adults one home all day can make :eek:


Yours


Calley

Angelraesunshine

I give up i go to do the washing up all nice and set have an hour before i have to get my DS from nursery and take to lunch club while i go to work but no the sink is blocked and i cant not find the plunger to unblock it was the wrong time of month to get all this go on am too emotional and want to cry now. better phone DH and find out where to plunger is to unblock it.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY mrs B

Its good to know i'm not the only one its not that i dont know how to do it all cos i do and can do it i just hate doing it lol. Am glad i am not the only one that cant work with the flylady thread.

Thanks penny i need a new kitchen timer might give that a go if i know i just have to get as much as i can done for 15 mins and not havw to complete it for a few things then reward myself with a cuppa for 15 mins that might help.


MY DH did suggest making me up a schedule to put on wall for me to do housework by but i went mad and felt degraded or something and would not let him do it.

I just got to find something that works.


Off to find a sink plunger will let you know how i am getting on wheni get back from work this afternoon.

tanith

One tip I found useful for keeping things under control is everytime I come across something that should be upstairs I put it on the bottom step and the same upstairs (landing) and then next time I go up I take a pile up and then bring the pile upstairs down... its only a little thing but I found it works for me...

Only trouble is OH is forever saying "whats this pile of !!!!!! on the stairs?":rotfl:

tranquil_2

I'm also sat at the computer when I should be tidying!

I have 3 hours whilst DD is at playgroup. So far I've watched the Wright Stuff, pottered about MSE and dyed my hair (I've been putting this off for ages and it's a sign how much I don't want to do housework that it's now been done). I'm just too good at procastination!

In my defence I am still suffering morning sickness so am finding going into the kitchen hard (kitchen smells set me off). However I do have to do the sink full of washing up. And need to vacuum. I aim to join the fly lady thread but just lurk and give up at first glance.

Now I've admitted to this I will go and wash up!

r.mac_2

don't worry - i think we are all the same. I am on a weeks holiday this week - but have lots of paperwork to get through regardless. The house is also in need of decluttering and then there is the general housework to do as well.

I can't find the enthusiasm for anything and have spent all morning on here instead!!! I don't even have children to blame !!!!

I am trying to give myself goals, but often they go out the window - I do find though that if the MIL or friends are coming to visit that is the one thing that puts a rocket up me!!!!!!

culpepper

My worst problem was always the washing up.
Then about 10 years ago, we bought a dishwasher and the house was so much more bearable..the dirty dishes were out of site and it was easy to pick up the odd cup or sandwich plate and just stick them in too.
When my OH told his dad about the new aquisition,FIL said 'has the house become miraculously tidy?'..apparently theirs had been just the same before the DW.
I know not everyone can afford or wants one but it really helps..I wish I had,had mine when the kids were little.

I dont iron anything...I used to do the kids school uniforms when they were in the infants. OH irons his shirts himself and his karate suit and my DS used to iron his own scouts or cadets uni's and karate suit.

We used to use matey for the kids baths because the bath was clean afterwards and I would clean the loo etc while they had a bath.

As for toys clutter ,well a couple of big baskets to swoop everything into at bedtime helps as at least the floor is clear.