How do you do it?

Angelraesunshine · 16 October 2007 at 2:16PM

vivw wrote: »

How about joining some of us on this thread:
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?p=6573242#post6573242
We, all on that thread, find it difficult to achieve all we want to do and offer each other support

Thanks i will take a look at the thread with my next rewarded cuppa break

calleyw · 16 October 2007 at 3:42PM

Went home at lunch time something I don't normally do because I lose money and it is a 16 mile round trip so costs me fuel. And went and tidied my bedroom up.

When I came to leave my husband came home and he was tired and tearful. So told him to have lunch and then a lie down and not to do the housework.

I think sometimes I would rather do housework than have to deal with husbands emotions post stroke. Makes him hard work.

Yours

Calley

mags50_2 · 16 October 2007 at 4:38PM

Big hugs to you all... and stop beating yourselves up for not having any get-up-and-go!

DD3 flew the nest last week, DD1 flew a few years ago and now has 4 sons of her own and DD2 left a few years ago as well and has 3 darling kids and another on the way.... and they are happy well balanced girlies we're proud to say.

The point of it is... they are well balanced and happy cos I had time to spend with them, their friends were always allowed to come round and play and stay for sleepovers... and believe it or not, those are the things our girlies remember... not whether the house was tidy.

I had times when I couldnt get the energy up to do anything... I made star charts for them and if they helped, they got a star and then a treat after so many stars. Sometimes I would get up and hardly have the energy to get them to school in a morning... and then other times I had so much energy that they thought I'd gone bonkers!:rotfl:

Those were the times when I used to give everything a good 'bottoming' as my nan used to say.

Don't despair... enjoy your kids , cats, dogs, hubby and family... they're more important than any bricks and mortar!

(clicks send before she changes her mind about what she's written

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Skint_Catt · 16 October 2007 at 4:49PM

Thanks mags, that makes me feel better. I guess when moving in with boyf I had the idea of being a perfect Stepford wife with a perfect Stepford house, but it's not like that!

Blairweech · 16 October 2007 at 8:38PM

I have this problem too

I am a complete OS fraud

The things I really try and keep on top of are the washing up and the ironing - theres nothing worse than doing loads of ironing, only to find theres still a kingsize duvet cover at the bottom of the basket! So, I do my ironing as soon as the washing is dried now.

Tip for washing up: get yourself an excellent dish drainer (I recommend this one from Lakeland. You can just leave the dishes to dry by themselves. Before, I used to fill the drainer up, then have to stop and dry/put away dishes, then re-fill the sink cos the water was cold, then start washing up again and the whole thing took about 3/4 of an hour! :eek: Now I just wash and leave it all to dry, then put it straight away

Angelraesunshine · 16 October 2007 at 8:50PM

Thanks Mags that made me feel a bit better.

Well i did finish the bathroom and did dinner early so we could all go to parents evening and i managed to hoover the front room and dust ( not that it looks like it now as kids did popcorn as there reports were good.

Lets see what tomorrow holds

Liberty9515 · 16 October 2007 at 10:40PM

Hiya Folks!

My Name is Liberty and I am a complete House !!!!!!!!!!!

pigpen · 16 October 2007 at 11:07PM

I can come and find you if you want!! lol

Our very own flylady thread rocks!!

Honestly.. that 'official' flylady site is the devils work I swear.. mind boggling stuff..

On here we listen to what everyone needs and try to fit in bits of other stuff.. a bit of 'me time' and other mad bits.. I even invited everyone out for a beer at the weekend. Sometimes these are the bits we need most to give us the motivation to do other things... you need to look after yourself so you have the energy to look after everything else!! I have 8 children a hubby mad cats loony bunnies and a house that looks like a bear pit.. and sometimes smells worse.. lol.. We don't care if you do it all or not but everyone is REALLY supportive and lovely... you know where to find us if you want to!

rev229 · 17 October 2007 at 12:23AM

I really don't think if matters what you home is like as long as your happy some people are content to have odds and sods everywhere. I drive myself insane beacuse I like everything to be perferct clean and tidy. I can't bear the kids having their toys everywhere and have to grit my teeth when my husband comes home and dumps his stuff in the study. But the kids are really good and do tidy up and to be honest my husband is fairly tidy (just not to my standards) I have the worlds best friend whoes home is a little disorganised (to say the least) She works has 3 kids and to be honest I sometime wish I could let my house be like hers!! Some of us are just made that way and some are not.

sammy_kaye18 · 17 October 2007 at 9:08AM

My name is Sam and Im lacking the clean gene too. Ok, so my flat is not show room worthy but it is tidy and I try my hardest - i went form living wiht a cleanaholic mother to getting my own place at 9 months pregnant and having the bf live there too. Bf is the type to whinge at me cos im home most of the week (bar the 11 horus i work) but most of that i have my 3 year old except for 2 hours a day when he is in school and i have shoppign to do, bills to pay, etc etc. Even if i spend all day cleaning , bf coems in and leaves plates everywhere, bowls everywhere, rubbish everywhere, clothes everywhere - and the best bit is - he'll put a bowl down on the table next to his chair, then get up and go into the kitchen and get himself a drink but the blody bowl is still on the !!!!!!! table!!! Ill never get that. Ive been askign him for months ot build a fence in the garden so that we can let the dog outside unsupervised (we are ground floor and dog is a jack russell) because he seems to live in the hallway - no idea why but hes claimed that as his room we think - so the hallway smells of dog and thats the first room people come into when they enter out flat!!! Anyway Im trying to do one room at a time. Im pretty good in the sense that i cna get the bathroom, toilet and kitchen done in say half hour then i jsut tidy round the bedrooms as i hate them being really messy, my problem is though i seem to have clothes drying everwhere and then they pile up ready to be put away and i can never be bothered to do it.