Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

Savvy_sewing

Very good day considering.
But I am tired. Going to get a nap before baby's next feed.
It's all the getting everyone in and out of the car that's tiring.

Savvy_sewing

The 3 year old has been fine. Ate his dinner, bath and bed with story. Slept till around 5, when I was putting baby back in the cot he woke but went back to sleep and until 7.15 when I woke him.
Baby was much more hit and miss.
He went down around 8 but woke around 11-12 and again around 2 lost his dummy, but woke for another feed at 4-5 time.
So not a massive amount of sleep for me. But I have had worse nights.
School run was a little more difficult but Dgd was there 3-4 minutes late. 3 year old was still there on time though.
I had to put a note on the Shop door for one customer who I didn't have a contact number from. Hopefully she will understand and rebook. I left my Mobile number.
I have the 1st Washing load on. The meat out for dinner. But that's all so far.

Savvy_sewing

I have survived a second disturbed night, and am tired, but coping so far.
The baby is happy and giggling and smiling most of the time. He doesn't appear to have any problems that I can see. He's at that stage of teething a back tooth and chewing his fingers etc and burbling away. He can definitely hear well enough and engages fine. I have no idea how his aunts could have decided he had "locked in syndromes " just because she had him for a few hours the other week and he was quiet, etc.
He's delightful. If heavy for my arm.
The 3 year old has been engaging and happy, and eating well. We got the paddling pool out yesterday afternoon and although it was rather chilly he did play in and around it for a while. The conversation is clearer as I learn to tune in to him, and he strikes me as quite clever. The only issue is that he won't use a potty or the loo. So is still in nappies. It's not a battle for me to start as he is going to be moved soon.
The baby woke up around 12.30 and again at just after 5am
I was hoping that I could get back to sleep but the lad is up now so that's it for today.
The carnival is on today, and the parade usually passes by my house so that's something to take them too.

Eager_Elephant

You sound like you are having a good time and its nice to have them for a few days until they move on.

I think the reason most children are not diagnosed with much so early in life is because they can change from one moment to another.

Maybe engagement and talking is all that was needed for both of them to bring them out of their shells a bit. I remember just talking to my children when they were babies as I went about life so just like giving them a running commentary of everything.

Hope you have a good weekend.

Savvy_sewing

We've been to the carnival! Wow that was hard work as my daughters husband came with the other 3 year old and his 8 year old daughter. They came as she was in the parade and dancing in the arena.
I spent a small fortune. Somehow I went through £70 and he went through £50.
The rides were a couple of pounds each but the food and drink came to £40 for a hotdog and a drink each!!!
Next year I will take a picnic if any of us go.
But the weather was hot and glorious considering the forecast was cloudy all day.
We all cooled off in the paddling pool afterwards.
I am tired as I have been up since just after 5am
I certainly couldn't run a business and have kids all day.
Dgd is putting the pressure on me to keep the boys. I have said we will have to let them go to the Carers, but I will follow the case and if they cannot return to Mum and Dad then I will look at selling the business or closing etc.
But I am hoping DS gets his finger out and sorts the mess of a life he has out.
I am sorely tempted to hang on to them, my heart strings are at full stretch at the moment. But my head is still arguing the negative things all the time.
I think that it's worse as I have got so close to them this last month.

pollyanna_26

Mooloo I understand how sad and torn you feel . It really is a case of listening to your head rather than your heart right now . You've had the little ones for a few days , try to imagine doing the same every day .


If you gave up the business things would be even tougher than at present . Your aim was to wait until the lease ended which makes better sense financially . Having clients come to the house would mean you couldn't focus as much setting up a routine for the young ones , supporting your DGD and helping mum .


I hope you find some peace in your heart and the delayed money hit your account .
Try to look after you too .
polly x

Savvy_sewing

I think Dgd begging me to keep them and not let any more of her cousins go into the system is the hardest pull.

I wonder if I can talk to Social and ask them about the reality of them being returned to their parents if perhaps I offered to support them and have the children more often at weekends when they tend to work more?

charlie3090

Mooloo wrote: »

I think Dgd begging me to keep them and not let any more of her cousins go into the system is the hardest pull.

I wonder if I can talk to Social and ask them about the reality of them being returned to their parents if perhaps I offered to support them and have the children more often at weekends when they tend to work more?

Moo,
I rarely post but please just think about this, you are already up against it, you barely have time to do your own stuff and here you are thinking of putting more on your already overwhelming schedule.
Your weekends are already full and whilst dgd is tugging on your heartstrings the novelty of having to share you will soon wear off.

You have the biggest heart and your kindness and empathy is truly amazing,but who is going to look after you when you have run yourself into the ground?.

Please give yourself time to think about this,ss will always take the easiest and cheapest way out for them and you know deep down that you will end up having to do more and more if the kids go back to their parents.

Im sorry if this sounds like a lecture but it saddens me to see you struggling when you have come so far.

Charlie x

marliepanda

Social services should not be returning children to an unsuitable home solely on the basis of other people supporting them. If they are considering removal so soon they cannot have seen sufficient improvement in the family home.

I think a foster home/adoption is the best option for the boys.

Plus how would you explain to your other child why you chose to keep those boys and not the other children who went into care?

beanielou

Oh dear, oh dear