Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

thorsoak

I do hope that everything has settled down Mooloo and that your plans have not been scuppered.

pollyanna_26

I've been thinking of you all day Mooloo , hope all is well.
pollyx

ivyleaf

Thinking of you too, Mooloo x

Savvy_sewing

Sorry I didn't post last night.
I have a very heavy heart today, but also a slight relieve. I text ( Social Workers preferred method of contact), and said I was concerned about the Kitchen.
He rang me, on his way to see DS and GF. So I asked if he had seen the kitchen when he dropped off the boys, he admitted that it was not ideal. I told him my concerns and did say I would prefer that he didn't mention me, if possible.
After his visit, he contacted his line manager and then rang me. The place was a mess, he agreed with me that it was not good enough, but he dithered about what he was going to do. He agreed that this weekend cannot be a final hand back. He is going back to speak to DS and GF today. Not 10 minutes later the Foster family rang me, and they had had a call from their worker telling them this weekend return is cancelled. I explained to them what I knew, and they me from their end.
So someone is finally listening to me.
I rang Biggest to let her know, but I am not forewarning DS.
I cannot protect them on this one. I had to also tell the Social that I cannot be the fallback for them, that although I can have them occasionally to give relief, I am on my own and run a business, and have DGD, I cannot do it.
So I am very mixed at the moment.
I am without the car, as the exhaust fell off.
I was to visit an old friend who is Terminally ill and has not long left, but I also feel that I have enough on my plate to deal with, so despite their asking me to go, I don't think I can.

My Brother is in the country and we are going to Lunch with Mum today. So something to look forward to!

pollyanna_26

I'm so glad you got your concerns listened to Mooloo . It does sound as though that SW hasn't been monitoring the home situation as he should . Now his line manager is involved too he has to do his job.
I can understand how sad you must feel today but you've done the loving , kind thing for the boys which is a very brave thing to do . I'm sure your friend would understand although you wont want to worry them when they're so ill by letting them know .


I imagine the foster carers are very relieved too . DS and GF have to shape up or give up now without you and Biggest papering over the cracks for them .


Sad day but I hope you,mum and your brother can enjoy lunch and each others company today.


Take care

polly x

Brighton_belle

Mooloo, that was a brave thing to do but also the truly loving kind thing as polly says. It's understandable you feel very sad but everyone else in real life is behind you on this as well as folks on here. You did the right thing.
Those little boys deserve much much better than their parents are able to offer if they are to have a positive chance at life, to be happy and fulfill their potential and not be utterly miserable, dirty, not fed properly or emotionally nurtured and ultimately dragged into living a life of chaos themselves.
Yes you have enough on your plate, keep life as simple as possible to cope.

annandale

An old friend is dying and has asked to see you and you can't go? Surely if you have a decent sum in savings you can get a taxi there?

You might regret it if you don't go. Sorry mooloo. You get a lot of support on here and you have a lot on your plate. But some decisions you make at times look heartless. The way you hire and fire people and don't seem to care.

But that is awful. Someone is dying and has asked to see you and you've said no.

This I won't read or post on here again. That's simply appalling.

pollyanna_26

annandale wrote: »

An old friend is dying and has asked to see you and you can't go? Surely if you have a decent sum in savings you can get a taxi there?

You might regret it if you don't go. Sorry mooloo. You get a lot of support on here and you have a lot on your plate. But some decisions you make at times look heartless. The way you hire and fire people and don't seem to care.

But that is awful. Someone is dying and has asked to see you and you've said no.

This I won't read or post on here again. That's simply appalling.

Not helpful in the present circumstances . However you've done similar posts during the present thread so I'm not surprised . Walk a mile in someone's shoes before calling them heartless .
polly

ognum

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Annandale, this is a quote from you on this thread earlier in the year. Maybe you can reflect on what you wrote then and why it is different now?

dreaming

annandale wrote: »

You might regret it if you don't go. Sorry mooloo. You get a lot of support on here and you have a lot on your plate. But some decisions you make at times look heartless. The way you hire and fire people and don't seem to care.

I don't think it is just the car problem that is making Mooloo think she can't visit the friend, but also her own emotional well-being. With what she has been through recently, as well as the cumulative effect of coping with numerous problems over the last few years, I would say that she is just running on empty at the moment. Sometimes you have to do what is right for you, regardless of what others may think or say. And yes, sometimes you have to live with regrets but that's part of life.
As for being heartless, and hiring and firing people - if you have been reading for some time you would know that in fact she has, in the past, kept staff on in the shop out of loyalty, even though they were less than effective for the business. I believe she even paid them more than she was taking for her own wages. If Mooloo was actually heartless then I don't think she would have done so much for her family (and friends too) over years and years but somethimes the well really does run dry.
Mooloo, I can't imagine how difficult it must feel to have had to speak to social services with your concerns about the boys being returned to DS and GF permanently. It must have taken a great deal of courage and for what it is worth I think you have done the right thing. Whatever happens next should be between DS/GF and social services.