Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

pollyanna_26

I don't believe Mooloo's son or the girlfriend are in need of being taught parenting skills . If Mooloo had a pound for every time she has tried to talk sense into her son she would have been living in Portugal now and that's not including the huge amount of money she's paid out to bale him out over the years .


They simply have priorities which are about their needs and wants and no idea that parenting is a role which requires caring for the welfare of those you bring into the world . It's hard work but a joy despite the ups and downs .


If Mooloo had time she could have written a book of all the things she has tried to get her son to understand about managing his life . However it would have remained unread .


When I read they were late turning up once more at Mooloos it didn't surprise me . When Mooloo was suddenly expected to sort, pack up , clear and clean the house they recently left at short notice , they hadn't sourced boxes , turned up when she'd done most of the work single handed and he " forgot " to order the van to move everything resulting in the bank of mum paying more rent .


Something that strikes me is the gf insisting she wants the little ones home for Christmas . She's probably picturing one of those scenes from american christmas films . Big glittery tree , lots of presents and all the trimmings .


In reality a baby who is young enough to not have much memory of leaving them will be with the young boy who is returning to a house which is not the one he left to go into care . Though young he's settled with the carers who've looked after him over the months , in a routine and well cared for . Mooloo has wisely stepped back after this weekend and I can't see either parent suddenly following a proper caring routine .


I understand Mooloo did everything she thought necessary to make things right so am not being critical . As I said we all need to get to the lightbulb moment as she did on Wednesday .


Social workers including safeguarding have not seen the true picture over the months regarding the parents making an effort . Each time DS has shouted fire she's gone to his aid either with endless money or sheer physical graft .


I remember she and Biggest degunging the house a few months ago which was wasted effort . So the parents aren't the ones who made a difference but Mooloo and Biggest .


I believe if safeguarding do their job the the lack of parental skills will show .


Take care Mooloo
polly x

whiteguineapig

I hope the reason you haven't posted yet is because you are so busy relaxing with your feet up!
Please try and make time to relax and unwind this week

elisamoose

I must admit I am surprised the children are being returned so soon.I presume they will remain on a child protection plan with clear objectives and regular core group meetings. The social worker will be legally obliged to see them at least every 10 days both arranged and unannounced visits.
In my LA this is how it is ...I assume this is the same everywhere although if this is northants they are in a bit of a pickle .
Have the parents done a parenting course? This is usually a requirement before children are considered for return to parents.

pollyanna_26

whiteguineapig wrote: »

I hope the reason you haven't posted yet is because you are so busy relaxing with your feet up!
Please try and make time to relax and unwind this week

I may have misread but I think both parents and boys are at Mooloo's until tomorrow .


I think there have been parenting classes . Not sure re ds but gf has been mentioned .


The reason behind this supervised contact is for the boys to spend time with their parents . Even shifting their work around to spend the time with them would have shown some understanding of their need to cooperate but Mooloo was ignored once more .


If the boys are returned in a few weeks they should have planned well ahead . One parent working longer hours and one at home makes better sense . Some people do wrap children up warmly to collect the other parent at night others sadly leave them in bed while they do so .


I mentioned here a while ago my middle daughter is an experienced senior safeguarding officer . When the alarm bells began to sound for me I mentioned the situation then . She's not on mse but read through , shook her head and said not a chance in hell . Like elisamoose I too hope ss and safeguarding are able to do their job despite the funding and staff cuts .


polly x

Savvy_sewing

thorsoak wrote: »

They arent that young - DS is 28! Mooloo has done far more than enough to help this pair. And as for a pat on the back - Mooloo deserves a bl**dy halo!

The parents need to put the needs of their children before their own wants.

DS is 25 he will be 26 in January

Savvy_sewing

The boys were collected at 6pm
I am not sure what the Social are thinking, or if it is anything to do with the financial situation that the council win.
I hope my grandchildren's welfare is not going to be at risk because of funding.
My Son did all of the caring and madam went back to bed as soon as I got up, and didn't come down until I was in the bath mid morning.
I gently guided with words, although I cooked dinner I didn't do anything else, I have been in my bedroom for about 5 hours sorting my wardrobe and have cleared two charity sacks out of my wardrobe. Even ironing everything as I went. There is still a bit to do but after 5 hours of standing my back and ankles hurt so I stopped.
DS is about to go home, via collecting gf from work. She chose to go to work today. Personally I am relieved.
I am hoping that I get a decent sleep tonight, I chose not to bring work home this weekend.

pollyanna_26

Sorry got mixed up in my days . I did most things I normally do on a Friday yesterday instead . I've been thinking all day it's Saturday so put tomorrow rather than today (Sat and Sun )


Hope you've managed to ease the aches and sleep tonight .


polly

Savvy_sewing

Here we go, the last 20 days till my holiday.
I can get through that!
Today I am going to just keep plodding through the alterations. I will not think about the rubbish, just take one job, do it to the best of my ability and then do the next.
After work I will concentrate on finishing my bedroom.
That's all I am thinking about today

thorsoak

That's our girl! You go! You rock!

ivyleaf

20 days? You can do that