Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

Savvy_sewing

Not looking forward to today, not going to find it easy coping with everyone here.
I am off to work in half an hour, luckily my friend is helping serve in the shop today as her daughter can't do it, so I can get on with the alterations and keep it on track.
Teaching at 2
Home 3.30
Them 4pm

thorsoak

We don't want to increase your stress levels, Mooloo - if you want us to back off - say so, we will understand xx

Eager_Elephant

thorsoak wrote: »

We don't want to increase your stress levels, Mooloo - if you want us to back off - say so, we will understand xx

I think Mooloo means her DS/GF and their children being at her house all weekend rather than us on MSE

pollyanna_26

Good luck Mooloo take it one minute at a time - This too shall pass .


pollyx

Savvy_sewing

Well not a good start.
The Foster Carers have dropped off the boys and are going home to a nice cold bottle of Prosecco and some shortbread. They have brought everything we need for the boys including their advent calendar.
Alas DS did not take any notice of my telling him to change their work schedule around, and they didn't plan well as neither of the parents are here.
It will also mean that at some stage tonight I will be babysitting as he has taken the 12-5 shift and she's doing 7 close. But she doesn't drive!
Obviously if they were at home alone, then they are going to be in trouble because they cannot wake up the boys to go out in the middle of the night to collect her!
Now if they had listened to me, then she should have been dropped off to do the work at 12-5.
Then it would have been feasible to take the boys in the car at 5.00 to collect her. Then home for tea, bath and bed, then DS should have done the evening shift because he's the driver. Will they ever learn?
So I am here with the boys, luckily I got a stair gate yesterday to stop the baby crawling into the kitchen.
We have found the three year olds favourite Paw Patrol on Netflix and that's distracting him along with the toy cars and the play oil cloth that's a road etc.
I will do some Pizza and garlic bread for us, and there is some spaghetti I will chop up for the baby.
My plan was to hibernate in the bedroom with the ironing and sort out my ironing piles, and my winter/summer clothes and stay out of the gfs way. But it's looking like she won't be here much this evening now anyway.phew!

vandanfc

Oh Mooloo, what a pigs ear they have made of it all. I hope you get through the evening okay. x

thorsoak

Doesn't bode well for the future, does it? :-( Enjoy the babies company for now though - it's not their fault that their parents are absolute pillocks - they deserve a far better home than that twosome will ever provide, I'm afraid :-(

JIL

Mooloo, is it because they genuinely don't know how to parent? They are both very young, no excuse I know but being a parent is not easy and they don't come with instruction manual.

It makes me think that the reason they rely on you is that they see you coping with anything, you had four children, two with learning difficulties, then you took on your granddaughter. Maybe they just see you as being able to deal with things so just expect you to.

The move, you ended up sorting them out, the rent arrears, you found them a way out. If they run out of food, you help them. I'm not saying it's wrong while ever we can do something as a parent we will, it's only natural.
But they do need to find their own way, to find a way out they need to be part of the solution. If they really want the children home, then they need to start making some plans.

I would suggest it's easier to do a shift in a pub, than it is to look after two little ones, especially if you need to cook, bath and entertain them and struggle to know what to do, perhaps you could influence your son and gf to start thinking about a routine for the children for when they get home?
Wishing you all the best, for what it's worth I think you deserve a huge pat on the back for all you do.

thorsoak

They arent that young - DS is 28! Mooloo has done far more than enough to help this pair. And as for a pat on the back - Mooloo deserves a bl**dy halo!

The parents need to put the needs of their children before their own wants.

JIL

thorsoak wrote: »

They arent that young - DS is 28! Mooloo has done far more than enough to help this pair. And as for a pat on the back - Mooloo deserves a bl**dy halo!

The parents need to put the needs of their children before their own wants.

I completely agree, I think mooloo has been an absolute star. I shudder to think where they would be without mooloos help.
I did not write my post to be critical, only to give a different perspective.
Maybe the son and girlfriend rely so much on moolòo because they don't know how to do things for themselves.
I thought her son was younger than 28.