Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

marliepanda

Yeah a vet or at least a cat rescue who would know how to look after kittens and wouldn’t cost a penny. You don’t just let them die and say ‘oh well I’ve done my best’ I wouldn’t be equipped to look after kittens, and I’ve had cats for years, so o don’t doubt they are not in the best place...

annandale

Mooloo does not have it easy and that's clear. But I am sorry. One grand in a pension pot when you've probably given out a six figure sum to your kids over the years really is awful.

They are using her. Irrespective of any difficulties they have. They are using her and she is allowing that.

I really hope you have been paying your class twos towards your state pension.

You are knocking your pan in trying to make a go of your business.

Can't you see you would not be scrimping if for example you weren't paying two lots of rent for your son.

Please consider not doing this. They may have to hit rock bottom so they understand how to manage on their own.

Clearing up after them is not going to help them in the long run.

This is money that could be put towards your home abroad.

mellymoo74

Hopefully today has gone well Moo, I think getting a larger digital presence is a fantastic idea.
Hopefully DS will continue to make the effort to pay I'm guessing that the effort means more than the actual amount to you (it would to me)
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Cairn

Would mean a lot to Me too!

Savvy_sewing

And warm using my electric heat pad, The kittens were abandoned in their shed at birth. They did take them to a vet, and got the kitten milk, special bottles as well. But the chances of surviving was already minimal, they did everything they were told, keeping them fed, washed, making sure they urinated etc. All hands on work every two hours. Hence tiredness.
I was not asking them to stop work but to look at other options than the few shifts they have, and too look for other work nearby their new home.
They must work, never give up trying. It takes hard work to turn things around.
I am doing my best to encourage, show them what to do, and try to get them motivated. The stress of the last 6 months for all of us has been very hard, and is taking its toll. I don't condone nor condemn them at the moment, neither action is helpful.
I pay my NI every year. I will get state pension, but I would like to be able to redirect my money to my Pension or my dreams pot.
I am glad DS returned some money, and it's not the amount, it's the realisation that he knows he needs to make an effort.
I am not sure what the fuss about Biggest is, the wedding was last year, and as their down to one income then finding extra money with a new baby in the house is not likely to be easy. I am unhappy that it's taking longer to pay back, but it's coming back regularly. I can't complain about that. I might occasionally get disgruntled, like when I see a dream place that I cannot yet afford, but I knew it was going to be a while before the debt was paid, but I had originally thought it was going to be paid over 6-10 months, not a few years.
I was kept busy at work and more is coming in every day. I will be doing overtime at least twice a week for a while.
The landlords friend came and sorted out my lights, so I can see again.
I managed without the heater on, but I think I will need it tomorrow.

Didn't manage a NS day as I bought myself a hair dye, and a comb for keeping my hair up now it's so long.
Dinner was sweet and sour chicken, with rice with the help of my AF food.
The WI have had a Treasure Hunt game going on through half term and that has brought a few more people into the shop, and a lot of people talking around the town, but twice today I heard people say they thought I had closed down. That's the shop next door and the Wool Shop is going.
But not me. ( at least until my lease is renewed or not!).

Savvy_sewing

Only 3/4 of a day at work ahead.
I have curtains to do while I have a Saturday girl and my Seamstress is coming in to do 3 hours as she cannot work Monday. I am not sure of exactly what I will do over the weekend, but I am hoping to see DSs house and see Biggest and my Mum. I would like to take Mum out and about for a bit. Hate the fact that I am not getting our Wednesday together much these days, especially when her time in France was cut short.

Time for work.

annandale

Many people live in homes where they are down to one income without expecting family to bail them out.

Weddings don't need to be expensive particularly as you've made clear they had debt.

You are propping up 4 adult kids at any given time. And leaving yourself short to do so. How will you manage financially if you get temp care of your sons children?

Savvy_sewing

I won't have temporary care of the children, except for the holiday booked by the foster family in December, for which I have shop cover. I will only be in the equation if it is a permanent situation.
If that happens then I will have to adjust my tax credits and get help again with childcare. I would be entitled to funding either as a foster mother or as a special guardian. I survived my own 4 children, I will survive them too if necessary.
I have not supported Twin1 other than £20 this year at all.
Apart from the second hand pram, Biggest has not had anything more since the wedding, and is paying off the sect regularly. Twin2 is a little more sporadic, and that still is not every month. She is getting better, but the hiccups when her DLA was stopped and she was moved to Universal Credit, as you can see in the news that is not a very successful transition.
Mind you when my claim changes I may also be a victim of the transition.
I nor Dgd are suffering from lack of anything. We are warm, fed and clothed, we have a holiday every year together, and I have had further holidays when she is with her Mum. I still have a car, although I walk more and more.
Please don't worry about us going without. There will always be food and money for heating etc.

beanielou

Hope you have a happy Sunday

Savvy_sewing

Have spent several hours with my Mum, had lunch etc and then went to see Biggest and stayed there for a Chinese, her husband has gone to work for the first time since baby was born, he will be away all week.
So Dgd and I have just got home.
I don't think I have the energy to do the alterations I brought home. I think I might be taking them back tomorrow undone. Unless I do some in the morning before work.
But I am so tired I just want to put my feet up.