Mooloo’s Managing it in 2018

Chrystal

Mooloo, with regards to paying the rent on the first house, which isn't getting sorted to hand over. Wouldn't it be cheaper in the long run for them just to hand the house back as it is and be charged for the Council to do the cleaning?
It would also be charged to them, not you, and to be honest they need to learn to get their priorities right... they don't need to worry about paying 2 rents do they? While your letting them get away with doing nothing to put it right they will, unfortunately, continue on this road. The girlfriend may be asking him to sort out/decorate the new house, but it's HIM who is actually doing it instead of sorting out the old one first. New one can be sorted whilst they're living in it, AND PAYING THEIR OWN RENT!
I think it's really time to pull on your big girl pants and tell them you've well and truly finished paying for anything.
If they can afford to decorate they can afford to put petrol in the car..or realise that they have to do without one of those things as they can't afford both. They have to learn how to prioritise and they're never going to do it if they don't have to. Get your card back and make them make their own decisions as to where they spend THEIR money. It's the only way they'll ever grow up.
I really wish you well and hope that your Lightbulb moment comes soon, before you break under the strain. X

Savvy_sewing

The housing have provided the paint. Once upon a time they painted before people moved in, then they gave them vouchers, now they have a deal with Crown, who delivered the paint. The wallpaper was already purchased for the old house. But I am still annoyed at them for doing it, before leaving the old house.

Contact has been changed late this evening to here again tomorrow as GFs mum cancelled. So Dgd and I are at the 10am showing of Christopher Robin at the cinema and then back here for the boys. Have had to cancel Mum.

I have a trolley full of work to do. Before Thursday morning, but I am taking this evening off.
Feet up. Now dinner is done.

I have discussed the money, and will follow through again tomorrow when they are a captive audience.

pollyanna_26

Wise to get the feet up this evening Mooloo . I hope you and dgd enjoy the film tomorrow and get a break from the problems .
Sleep well

polly x

beanielou

Hope all goes well tomorrow.

Chrystal

Love the thought of them being 'a captive audience' Hope they take it on board. X

annandale

Why can't they move in and then decorate. Like loads of people do. I didn't get vouchers or paint when I got my flat. You move in and you do it a bit at a time

You are paying both rents. That is a liberty.

They'll move in. Get into arrears. And you'll be clearing them no doubt.

Cairn

The problem is the complete disregard for you and your finances (except when cash is needed) and a lack of priority.

Am I right in saying everyday that they don’t sort the old house they are costing you money? Any child should be grateful for that help and get it sorted ASAP, but no... they’ve moved on from that while leaving a trail of destruction.

When your kids call to borrow money your stock response should be: ‘oh, I was just about to call you for that £30 back as I’m skint and really need it.’

Job done.

Savvy_sewing

I have cancelled the DD for the old house, so it cannot go out of my account with out my knowledge.

I found out last night that it was the Social workers demand to get the new house ready to tick all the boxes on his not suitable list, although he is insisting they fence off the front garden, and that is not going to happen as they nor I can afford it, and I have said that as the back is securely fenced there is no reason the children need to be playing out the front. ( personally I think he is being overly picky. If the housing association think that it is suitable for a family they would be putting a family there that wasn't under social the garden would be adequate. My front is not closed off? Yet they are able to come here.
But I am still annoyed. Can't seem to shift that rankled feeling.
Mum was ok about cancelling my visit today, but it has annoyed me, as Dgd and I were looking forward to seeing her and having Lunch with her.
Now I need to tidy away my sewing so the boys don't play with pins, and get it out again this evening. It's going to be a long evening sewing. I had expected to start sewing around 4pm but apparently the boys are here until 6pm! So I will be feeding them too. That means I won't start sewing until after our evening meal now.
Oh well!

marliepanda

They probably want a secure front garden as the child was found wandering in the street before they were removed.

The security of the gardens is the least of their worries.

-taff

Did you speak to the social worker or see a letter from them?