Regifted present from sister in law

Poor_Single_lady

Wholeheartedly agree with Sdc

Deanatoris not sure if you are still reading or if we annoyed you too much.

Your post made me very much want to add you to my Christmas list and send you Christmas presents. Yes I know it wasn't a request but I would love to include you in my present giving.
And given what you have written it is likely in 12 months time I will think of you when I am Shopping and hope things change in 2018 so that you do get some presents at Christmas.

moneyistooshorttomention

dawyldthing wrote: »

For the last few years I got my friend a racing ticket using some points, so while it didn't 'cost' me it did as I could have used it myself on another date. This year I didn't even get a birthday card so she's bit her nose off as I told her to get her own.

That sounds like assuming the worst - ie a deliberate decision not to get you a card. I'd be more likely to assume she'd just forgotten.

I know I'm terrible for remembering about birthday cards - and have even forgotten my best friends birthday card sometimes. I'm working hard on remembering - by putting a list of birthdays in my diary and trying to remember to look up at the beginning of each month to see if it's anyones.

She doesnt bother herself - when, days later, I've remembered and apologised. I still get cards from her on all possible occasions.

paul2louise

Sorry this is like one of dilemma where the op doesn't explain it properly.
My SIL wanted something off EBay but it wouldn't be delivered in time so he gave her enough to cover it. She bought him a bottle of bombay sapphire gin and my son a telescope. Both substantial presents. My Oh gave the 3 grown up girls a litre of vodka each and a few nik naks. The 15 year old boy had £20 game voucher.
We have a joint account but I only work a few hours part time so he is the main earner in the family so I don't really contribute to the family income.

I showed him the items yesterday. We have had visitors staying until then and it's been quite busy. He didn't really say much at the time and the doorbell went while I was talking to him so we got interrupted. He hasn't mentioned it since. I think he likes things to just go away. I spoke to my mum about it. She said I should email message her and say the hat doesn't fit and the collar isn't suitable and offer to pass it back to her for the girls who might like it instead.

LilElvis

paul2louise wrote: »

Sorry this is like one of dilemma where the op doesn't explain it properly.
My SIL wanted something off EBay but it wouldn't be delivered in time so he gave her enough to cover it. She bought him a bottle of bombay sapphire gin and my son a telescope. Both substantial presents. My Oh gave the 3 grown up girls a litre of vodka each and a few nik naks. The 15 year old boy had £20 game voucher.
We have a joint account but I only work a few hours part time so he is the main earner in the family so I don't really contribute to the family income.

I showed him the items yesterday. We have had visitors staying until then and it's been quite busy. He didn't really say much at the time and the doorbell went while I was talking to him so we got interrupted. He hasn't mentioned it since. I think he likes things to just go away. I spoke to my mum about it. She said I should email message her and say the hat doesn't fit and the collar isn't suitable and offer to pass it back to her for the girls who might like it instead.

Sorry, but that is a really rude and childish response. Very few people get gifts they really want - hence the saying that it's the thought that counts - so most will just smile and say "thank you" and accept the gift with good grace.

Pollycat

paul2louise wrote: »

Sorry this is like one of dilemma where the op doesn't explain it properly.
My SIL wanted something off EBay but it wouldn't be delivered in time so he gave her enough to cover it. She bought him a bottle of bombay sapphire gin and my son a telescope. Both substantial presents. My Oh gave the 3 grown up girls a litre of vodka each and a few nik naks. The 15 year old boy had £20 game voucher.
We have a joint account but I'm not sure only work a few hours part time so he is the main earner in the family so I don't really contribute to the family income.

I showed him the items yesterday. We have had visitors staying until then and it's been quite busy. He didn't really say much at the time and the doorbell went while I was talking to him so we got interrupted. He hasn't mentioned it since. I think he likes things to just go away. I spoke to my mum about it. She said I should email message her and say the hat doesn't fit and the collar isn't suitable and offer to pass it back to her for the girls who might like it instead.

I really wouldn't tell the gifter that.

LilElvis wrote: »

Sorry, but that is a really rude and childish response. Very few people get gifts they really want - hence the saying that it's the thought that counts - so most will just smile and say "thank you" and accept the gift with good grace.

I'm one of the few!
The very few people who buy me gifts know exactly what I will appreciate.
And that's from someone who has a lot of 'stuff'.

itzmee

paul2louise wrote: »

I spoke to my mum about it. She said I should email message her and say the hat doesn't fit and the collar isn't suitable and offer to pass it back to her for the girls who might like it instead.

I'd be tempted to ask for the receipt so that you could exchange it as it is too small, and wait for the reaction!

scd3scd4

Sorry, but that is a really rude and childish response. Very few people get gifts they really want - hence the saying that it's the thought that counts - so most will just smile and say "thank you" and accept the gift with good grace.

There is no thought is there if you give second hand crap or peanuts to someone with an allergy.

Saying thank you just encourages the lack of respect. I suppose some of us just value ourselves more.

GlasweJen

I’m sorry but as a fellow nut allergy sufferer those chocolates wouldn’t have made it through my front door, is the stupid idiot trying to kill you?

I would make a point of saying “oh we are just giving to the children next year as I almost ended up in hospital last year after someone sent a gift that contained nuts and the children opened them without us realising”.

I only buy for a very select list now and it’s taken a lot of stress out of Christmas.

suki1964

Mum gave me a paperweight from a charity shop this year and for Christmas I got of all things one of those jml gadgets for chopping garlic and DH got a cocktail set, both from the charity shop

We thanked her kindly and just put them in the box of stuff for the charity shop, we will just drop them off in another town

Over the years I’ve been given a roll of dustbin bags, used rolls of cling film, a roast tin that belonged to my granny, set of saucepans she was discarding, and a set of crockery she had been using in a holiday home she owned. All wrapped and gifted for either Christmas or birthday

I do wonder what goes on in her head but hey ho, she’s me Mum and as they say , it’s the thought that counts, I just wish she would think on a bit longer lol

Nelski

suki1964 wrote: »

Mum gave me a paperweight from a charity shop this year and for Christmas I got of all things one of those jml gadgets for chopping garlic and DH got a cocktail set, both from the charity shop

We thanked her kindly and just put them in the box of stuff for the charity shop, we will just drop them off in another town

Over the years I’ve been given a roll of dustbin bags, used rolls of cling film, a roast tin that belonged to my granny, set of saucepans she was discarding, and a set of crockery she had been using in a holiday home she owned. All wrapped and gifted for either Christmas or birthday

I do wonder what goes on in her head but hey ho, she’s me Mum and as they say , it’s the thought that counts, I just wish she would think on a bit longer lol

:rotfl::rotfl: @ dustbin bags and cling film.

I thought I had done bad for a pair of tights on my 30th birthday from my mum and dad but you win