Regifted present from sister in law

General_Grant

UKTigerlily wrote: »

... & as for the rest, i'll probably have to throw away which is a shame

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At least consider dropping them off at a charity shop.

paul2louise

I would love to stop gifting the adults but how do i do that when we have been doing it for a while. Her 4 kids are grown up and my husband has been buying for them for years. My son is 6. The other gifts are either in a cupboard or loft. My sis in law says she is skint a lot of the time but seems to have managed to afford a £350 new puppy this year for the family. I dont judge how people spend their money and would be so much happier if i got £2.99 bottle of wine from lidl, or some choc. Just a gesture of a gift would be fine. My husband asked her what she wanted and gave her £50 cash and £20 cash and gift cards to each of the 4 kids.

pearl123

paul2louise wrote: »

At christmas i usually get christmas presents from sister in law that are not things that i would choose. I usually just let it ride. This year i was surprised to open my present from her. A hat that is too small and a fur collar. They both look like they have been worn. They smell scented and musty like they have been in a drawer. Its not about the money but we spent quite a bit of time and money getting what she and her kids wanted for christmas. I know regifting quite acceptable nowadays but surely not things that are obviously used. How can approach this without upsetting my husband and his family.

I had an old aunt who'd buy me complete crap. It was so bad we'd open it before Xmas so that we could get it out of the way!
A dolly toilet holder in pink, a cardboard box which had contained Chanel products (no contents). A necklace full of fluff and dust clearly from her own jewelry box. A cup and saucer with still the melted sugar in the bottom! She's now dead any I miss unwrapping her lousy Xmas presents, as she was a lovely woman!

onlyroz

kingfisherblue wrote: »

I'd just ignore it. My SiL gives me small alcohol gifts, despite knowing me for over thirty years and knowing that I have always been teetotal. This year she excelled herself and gave me liqueur chocolates with hazlenuts - I have a severe nut allergy and carry Epipens. I don't think it's malicious, just thoughtless. Instead of making a fuss, I just ignore it. There are far more important things in my life to concentrate on.

To be honest if I didn't drink and had a nut allergy I would be pee-d off if relatives repeatedly bought me nutty alcoholic chocolates - surely they *must* know that this isn't in any way an appropriate gift?

74jax

paul2louise wrote: »

I would love to stop gifting the adults but how do i do that when we have been doing it for a while. Her 4 kids are grown up and my husband has been buying for them for years. My son is 6. The other gifts are either in a cupboard or loft. My sis in law says she is skint a lot of the time but seems to have managed to afford a £350 new puppy this year for the family. I dont judge how people spend their money and would be so much happier if i got £2.99 bottle of wine from lidl, or some choc. Just a gesture of a gift would be fine. My husband asked her what she wanted and gave her £50 cash and £20 cash and gift cards to each of the 4 kids.

I'd just get your husband to say you are cutting down and not buying for over 18s. I don't think it's a big thing, just mention it next time you talk and ask of they had a nice Christmas. As the kids are adults, I'd call them direct, ask if they enjoyed Christmas and got their gifts. Everyone should say thank you!

They may have been strapped if hardly any money and got a dog. I would put it down to experience and let hubby talk with his sister.

If he's happy to keep buying for her, then ship be it. Some years my brother has spent 3 times what I did on him, but it's never an issue.

pearl123 wrote: »

I had an old aunt who'd buy me complete crap. It was so bad we'd open it before Xmas so that we could get it out of the way!
A dolly toilet holder in pink, a cardboard box which had contained Chanel products (no contents). A necklace full of fluff and dust clearly from her own jewelry box. A cup and saucer with still the melted sugar in the bottom! She's now dead any I miss unwrapping her lousy Xmas presents, as she was a lovely woman!

My dad used to give me a tin of mushy peas, tinned carrots and mushroom soup...... hated all 3. This Christmas is the 2nd year I didn't have them to unwrap and id have given anything to have a tin of blooming mushy peas under the tree and dads words of 'they may come in handy'........

Jackmydad

UKTigerlily wrote: »

It must be something with SIL's

It must be. Some of them anyway. I've got one that's perfectly OK, and one that's extremely weird.
Similar story All in the past now though.
A decent present bought for nephews and nieces every Christmas, as well as smaller presents for adults. No thanks whatsoever, either from adults for children.
I asked one year if the kids had liked their presents.
"They have so much" sort of reply.
Absolute rubbish as presents to us from the one side. Better from the other, but very little thought.
So kids were getting older. (We don't have any)
I suggested we stopped the present giving thing.
I'm a bad person.
I don't care.

74jax

Jackmydad wrote: »

I suggested we stopped the present giving thing.
I'm a bad person.
I don't care.

I don't see anything wrong with this.

I must be worse than a bad person.

I definitely don't care.

paul2louise

Thanks for the replies. I know it must happen to lots of people and familes are complicated.

Jackmydad

74jax wrote: »

I don't see anything wrong with this.

I must be worse than a bad person.

I definitely don't care.

I don't really think I'm a bad person.
SIL seemed to think I was though.
She's one of those people who thinks the world revolves around her. With very, very little justification.
In any sense.
And like you I definitely don't care.

Pixie5740

Is this better, worse or the same as the re-gifted, out-of-date chocolate orange that there's a thread about? I would be disappointed to receive a fusty, used hat too, nothing would have been better.

I'm another one where we've decided only to buy presents for the children. It makes life much easier.