Regifted present from sister in law

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Jenniefour wrote: »

Do what you normally do with presents she gives you which you don't like anyway? Charity shop? I can't see a reason for not just letting it ride, as you normally do.

That would annoy the heck out of me - and partly because of the collar being fur as well:eek:. So, in this instance, I would quite deliberately give those things to the most prominent local charity shop I could - and hope they would be displayed in the window:cool:.

It's different with a present that is just unwanted/not your taste and I'm keeping the (brand new and not "morally dubious") present I've had for Christmas from one friend to deliberately give to a charity shop in a town I know she doesn't go to (as I don't want her spotting it in this instance).

For future years - best to agree you won't exchange presents any longer. At the least - she couldnt give a darn about making an effort to try and get you something she thinks you'll like - so what's the point?

eamon

Gift giving has become an arms race and is many instances the only outcome is MAD.

takman

paul2louise wrote: »

At christmas i usually get christmas presents from sister in law that are not things that i would choose. I usually just let it ride. This year i was surprised to open my present from her. A hat that is too small and a fur collar. They both look like they have been worn. They smell scented and musty like they have been in a drawer. Its not about the money but we spent quite a bit of time and money getting what she and her kids wanted for christmas. I know regifting quite acceptable nowadays but surely not things that are obviously used. How can approach this without upsetting my husband and his family.

The biggest problem seems to be that you expect to get a good present from her just because you give something good to her. Also it's abit childish to complain about getting presents you don't like.

As an adult I never expect to receive anything genuinely good from anyone and I don't mind if someone doesn't give me a present at all, which means good presents are always a nice surprise. But then I only buy presents for a few people who I actually want to buy for and make the effort to be there when they open it. Excluding children, if your buying presents for people when you know you won't be there when they open it then you really need to question why your doing it.

seashore22

Mojisola wrote: »

Suggest that you all stop buying presents for the adults in the family.

That's exactly what I was going to say.

Nelski

Seems pretty childish that adults are writing "santa" lists to each other then moaning when they dont get what they want ....grow up and buy it yourself then nobody is disappointed...sorry rant over

[Deleted User]

You know what. I am a single parent with two kids. Bit isolated because of aspergers, and bit short of money. Both my kids are aspergic too. I'd have loved 'bad choice' presents. My kids (even though one of them is 21) aren't capable of buying presents even if I give the older one the money. Stresses him out making choices.

I spent all my money on the kids obviously, even though I couldn't get much. I'd have loved anything from anyone in the world whether I liked it or not. Just to know someone was able and cared enough to get something for me. That would be my idea of a miracle (lol, please don't take this as a request lol, I am fine).

We had a lovely Christmas, dinner was good etc. But I must admit I am self centred enough to wonder what it would be like to get a gift myself.

But I remembered all the homeless people who are cold and didn't have enough to eat. Saw the photo of homeless people on the streets of LA (looked like a third world country) this Christmas and realised how lucky I actually am to have family who love each other in a mundane every day way.., and a home, warmth and a safe place to sleep (been homeless myself).

suki1964

I don't understand the " how do I approach it " comment

Why do you need to approach anything ? It's an unwanted gift, stick it in the charity shop or bin

scd3scd4

I gave all that crap up years ago..................we buy for my children 14/26, wife, each other and my mum.


I swap a nice present with a friend at work and a £20 for a special nephew I have.


Perfect. I ask that the rest of my family don't spend on me and I on them......but wish them all a happy xmas.

dawyldthing

For the last few years I got my friend a racing ticket using some points, so while it didn't 'cost' me it did as I could have used it myself on another date. This year I didn't even get a birthday card so she's bit her nose off as I told her to get her own.

I think the present culture we have now is crazy. Mostly about gifting chocolates and Linx or the like toiletries sets and odd times other bits. It's got a bit silly

scd3scd4

Ohh come on............getting a gift you may not like is one thing. But giving some old second hand crap is another.


All the best to people who see no harm and think its ok for their family to make a mug of them. I value myself a little more.