Wife taking surname

Gavin83

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I most certainly wouldnt want a man who thought he came first anyway - I would have wanted a "marriage of equals".

Clearly equal when it suits and not equal when it doesn't.

Why does the mother have any more right to apply her surname to her children than the father does? They are both equally the parents of the child and have equal rights/responsibilities.

I don't have an issue with a woman wanting to keep her own surname, that's her choice. Saying that I do think a married couple having different surnames is a little bizarre but each to their own. However surely if this decision is made the only option is to double barrel the surname of any children if both parents wish to share their children's name, which many would.

Zandoni

unholyangel wrote: »

Why?

Would it change the way any of you felt about each other? Would it make you better parents? Would it make your kids more intelligent? Perhaps it would make you more wealthy? Or ensure that you will never ever get divorced? No?

Then I can't see what there is to be horrified about.

Is she going to be equally horrified when your children marry and potentially change their name and her name will no longer be the same as theirs? Or what about her parents/siblings, is she horrified that her name is different from theirs?

Different people have different priorities my wife and I both prefer to have all our family with the same surname. She accepts that her parents have her maiden name still and she is more than happy with that.

consumers_revenge

I decided to brand her instead with a hot iron, that will keep her in check.

unholyangel

Zandoni wrote: »

Different people have different priorities my wife and I both prefer to have all our family with the same surname. She accepts that her parents have her maiden name still and she is more than happy with that.

I know people have different priorities. I was asking why she would be horrified for members of her family to have different names (and also why she's horrified at having a different name from some of them - which may end up being different anyway - and not others)?

arbroath_lass

Zandoni wrote: »

I'm sure you'd struggle to find a man that would marry you on those terms.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

You did check the date before you posted didn't you? It's 2017!

Zandoni

unholyangel wrote: »

I know people have different priorities. I was asking why she would be horrified for members of her family to have different names (and also why she's horrified at having a different name from some of them - which may end up being different anyway - and not others)?

Mainly we both feel that it’s nicer for the children in the immediate family.

Zandoni

arbroath_lass wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

You did check the date before you posted didn't you? It's 2017!

I’ll think you’ll find that the majority still go for the traditional way of the woman taking the mans name. Why bother to marry if you’re not prepared to change your name.

Ames

Zandoni wrote: »

I’ll think you’ll find that the majority still go for the traditional way of the woman taking the mans name. Why bother to marry if you’re not prepared to change your name.

The same reasons you enter into any legal contract - the protections and rights gained.

consumers_revenge

Ames wrote: »

The same reasons you enter into any legal contract - the protections and rights gained.

Spoken like a true romantic......

Zandoni

Ames wrote: »

The same reasons you enter into any legal contract - the protections and rights gained.

Perhaps you should all campaign to get equal rights for living together rather than confuse the marriage traditions.