Wife taking surname

Tiglath

Zandoni wrote: »

Unfortunately my views on extreme feminism have been proved, ignore the mans point of view it just doesn’t matter.

It's not the men who are affected, it's the women who are asked or expected to give up their own name. That's not extreme feminism unless you're a particularly sensitive guy.

Mojisola

martinbuckley wrote: »

If she is happy being the odd one out in your family unit then so be it. My wife took my name before we wed because she didn't want to be the odd one out as our child had my surname from birth.

Some of the youngsters in our family have been given their mother's surname - if that had been the case in your family, would you have changed your name so that you weren't the odd one out?

Pixie5740

Tiglath wrote: »

It's not the men who are affected, it's the women who are asked or expected to give up their own name. That's not extreme feminism unless you're a particularly sensitive guy.

I suspect that poster was aiming at me since I’ve now added him to my ignore list which is nothing to do with the poster being a man and everything to do with the poster being a total ignoramus.

“Never argue with an idiot. They will only bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.”

Zandoni

Pixie5740 wrote: »

I suspect that poster was aiming at me since I’ve now added him to my ignore list which is nothing to do with the poster being a man and everything to do with the poster being a total ignoramus.

“Never argue with an idiot. They will only bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.”

Never starting calling people names, people will think that you are rude.

moneyistooshorttomention

Zandoni wrote: »

Never starting calling people names, people will think that you are rude.

To which one could add "Never carry on and on and on and on.....being determined to have the last word":rotfl::rotfl:

consumers_revenge

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

To which one could add "Never carry on and on and on and on.....being determined to have the last word":rotfl::rotfl:

Irony for the person who did have the last word ( until my post )

Gavin83

I’m assuming those who feel women shouldn’t change their name also feel men and women should be the person proposing equally, rather than an expectation that it’ll be the man who proposes and purchases the ring.

BrassicWoman

Gavin83 wrote: »

I’m assuming those who feel women shouldn’t change their name also feel men and women should be the person proposing equally, rather than an expectation that it’ll be the man who proposes and purchases the ring.

If you think there needs to be a ring, and a proposal rather than a discussion.... then sure, whoever feels like doing it!

michelle09

Gavin83 wrote: »

I’m assuming those who feel women shouldn’t change their name also feel men and women should be the person proposing equally, rather than an expectation that it’ll be the man who proposes and purchases the ring.

Of course. Honestly, I would be worried if any discussion of marriage came from one party with no input of the other. I have an engagement ring because my husband is traditional enough (and worked in a jewellers) to want to buy one. I said multiple times that I was happy without one.

Pixie5740

Gavin83 wrote: »

I’m assuming those who feel women shouldn’t change their name also feel men and women should be the person proposing equally, rather than an expectation that it’ll be the man who proposes and purchases the ring.

Your assumption would be correct.