Wife taking surname

Mojisola

consumers_revenge wrote: »

We have been talking about marriage recently ( weve been together for a long time and also 2 children )

Zandoni wrote: »

More like a sign of a loving relationship.

So they haven't had a loving relationship up to now because they've both used their own surnames?

Zandoni

Mojisola wrote: »

So they haven't had a loving relationship up to now because they've both used their own surnames?

I don’t know them, but I’m sure they have otherwise they wouldn’t be thinking about marriage.
You have to realise that most women are not so interested in the feminist movement. My wife for instance loves the fact that I open doors for her and treat her with respect. Each to their own though and a Merry Christmas to you.

Mojisola

Zandoni wrote: »

I don’t know them, but I’m sure they have otherwise they wouldn’t be thinking about marriage.

So if they have had a loving relationship with two names for all these years, why should the woman change her name now?

Why would it mean their relationship was less loving if she didn't want to?

You have to realise that most women are not so interested in the feminist movement. My wife for instance loves the fact that I open doors for her and treat her with respect.

Each to their own though and a Merry Christmas to you.

I do the same for my husband. Nothing to do with feminism - just normal behaviour.

Zandoni

Mojisola wrote: »

I do the same for my husband. Nothing to do with feminism - just normal behaviour.

I’m glad to hear that, I hope he’s not working too hard over Christmas.

BrassicWoman

Zandoni wrote: »

I don’t know them, but I’m sure they have otherwise they wouldn’t be thinking about marriage.
You have to realise that most women are not so interested in the feminist movement. My wife for instance loves the fact that I open doors for her and treat her with respect. Each to their own though and a Merry Christmas to you.

I don't think you actually understand what feminism is. Treating her with respect is not something you get a medal for. It is the absolute minimum acceptable behaviour between any to people!

Merry Christmas - you cooking dinner?

Zandoni

BrassicWoman wrote: »

I don't think you actually understand what feminism is. Treating her with respect is not something you get a medal for. It is the absolute minimum acceptable behaviour between any to people!

Merry Christmas - you cooking dinner?

I don’t remember asking for a medal. I’m at my sons house and he is cooking dinner. My daughter in law is playing with my two grandsons. We all have the same surname.

consumers_revenge

Zandoni wrote: »

I don’t know them, but I’m sure they have otherwise they wouldn’t be thinking about marriage.
You have to realise that most women are not so interested in the feminist movement. My wife for instance loves the fact that I open doors for her and treat her with respect. Each to their own though and a Merry Christmas to you.

Weve always thought about marriage. ( proposed after 6 weeks of being together but knew each other 3 years before that ) Just the hassle of trying to please everyone else of how the wedding would be etc we didn't bother. Now most of those issues are gone.


And no I'm not cooking dinner as I do it every other week night!!!


( plus its meat and I'm veggie )

Mojisola

Zandoni wrote: »

More like a sign of a loving relationship.

Zandoni wrote: »

I don’t know them, but I’m sure they have otherwise they wouldn’t be thinking about marriage.

So what difference would it make if she didn't change her name on marriage - they've been a happy, loving couple for all these years while they've been using their own names.

Zandoni

Mojisola wrote: »

So what difference would it make if she didn't change her name on marriage - they've been a happy, loving couple for all these years while they've been using their own names.

Who knows, maybe having different names might rip them apart. I certainly hope not but who knows what can happen with all that naming confusion.

BrassicWoman

Zandoni wrote: »

Who knows, maybe having different names might rip them apart. I certainly hope not but who knows what can happen with all that naming confusion.

not a valid reason for divorce in uk law :-) let's not be silly!