So surprised to be written out of my fathers will

Spendless

mrcjevans wrote: »

Wow so many responses, I will try and respond to as much as I can but I? am not the best written individual haha!

My first thought was that it's because when I was younger I was mentally ill, got attacked twice in the space of a month(he didn't know this) any way it put me in a situation where I was doing 'nothing', anyway one day I threw the drugs away and went back to work, this was about 6 years ago. The only thing I can think of is that maybe he thought I was a lazy bum and not worthy back then and this is the only thing being honest that I am can think of.

Me and my three sisters are all from the same mum and dad. Me and two have them have always been close with the third being a bit more hostile towards everyone.

I have not had the best upbringing but I have indeed come through it and am super strong now. As someone pointed out I had some financial issues previously - again when I was young and made a few mistakes on a credit card and a phone bill which originated from when I first got attacked and not from my being lazy. However it has all been cleared and I worked bloody hard to turn my life around. I am very much an open book and have absolutely nothing to hide. Hard work rewarded me though and me and my now wife got a house this year.

I suppose my sister didn't think about it at the time but I have just had to have my wedding and funeral wondering what had I ever done for him to see us so differently.

I won't challenge, I won't speak to my sisters about it. I am just venting on here really because I wouldn't literally do both of those things.

It was my dads house only - me and the three girls were bought up by our mum and step father in her house.

I know I will see them differently if they don't say something to me but please do not assume that this whole scenario is just about money.

I think I will ask for a Larke & Nugus statement from the firm.



It wasn't their home, my dad would never sell his house and I can't believe they are selling it. It was his mothers house that he inherited from her and he loved it so much. He was in a home for a long time towards the end and would keep paying for upkeep and gardening and eveything. He loves that house and I guess part of me is frustrated because I don't know how they can sell it so easily when it holds so many memories.

I am the type of person that gets super frustrated when people aren't how I am, to my detriment sometimes which kind of leads me on to wonder why they have said nothing



I will monitor this thread this afternoon so if there is anything you are curious about just ask as I'm not sure I covered all the queries.

A nursing home? Is it possible that the care home is owed some fees from your Dad's home and that bill has to be paid before any residue is divided between your sisters?

Tabbytabitha

Spendless wrote: »

A nursing home? Is it possible that the care home is owed some fees from your Dad's home and that bill has to be paid before any residue is divided between your sisters?

Given the cost of nursing home fees, the OP could find himself receiving a larger inheritance than his sisters'!

Savvy_Sue

mrcjevans wrote: »

It wasn't their home, my dad would never sell his house and I can't believe they are selling it. It was his mothers house that he inherited from her and he loved it so much. He was in a home for a long time towards the end and would keep paying for upkeep and gardening and eveything. He loves that house and I guess part of me is frustrated because I don't know how they can sell it so easily when it holds so many memories.

But ... what do you think SHOULD happen to the house? Sounds unlikely that you can all live in it together: DAD loved it, but it was his house!

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

If they've been left equal shares of the house, they don't really have a lot of choice but to sell it in order to make that happen. Please don't let that get to you. Its a very normal thing to do when a house is passed down to more than one person.

And this ...

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

But what would you have them do with the house if not sell it - were you expecting that they were going to live in it together, including you if you'd been left a share as well?

And this!

mrcjevans

Spendless wrote: »

A nursing home? Is it possible that the care home is owed some fees from your Dad's home and that bill has to be paid before any residue is divided between your sisters?

Nah already paid for. I do agree I just need to get on and what will be will be. Thank you everyone for the replies and have a good xmas!

moneyistooshorttomention

That's a shame that the "differential" isnt going to be eroded by care home fees then....

So - now you can only ask the sisters to make it fair. Followed by, if they don't (and I wouldnt feel too optimistic - as people can often find an excuse for themselves if they wish to be unfair) - then think "Oh well - I'll save the cost of 3 Christmas cards and 3 birthday cards every year - as I cut off contact with those sisters. Why would I want to know people that treat me that way?"

Marvel1

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

That's a shame that the "differential" isnt going to be eroded by care home fees then....

So - now you can only ask the sisters to make it fair. Followed by, if they don't (and I wouldnt feel too optimistic - as people can often find an excuse for themselves if they wish to be unfair) - then think "Oh well - I'll save the cost of 3 Christmas cards and 3 birthday cards every year - as I cut off contact with those sisters. Why would I want to know people that treat me that way?"

They are respectful to their father's wishes, otherwise what is the point of a will? I wouldn't cut contact.

Pollycat

Cheeky_Monkey wrote: »

If the father had wanted his Estate to be shared equally between all four of them, his Will would've stated that, but it didn't.

This ^^^^ 100%.

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

That's a shame that the "differential" isnt going to be eroded by care home fees then....

So - now you can only ask the sisters to make it fair. Followed by, if they don't (and I wouldnt feel too optimistic - as people can often find an excuse for themselves if they wish to be unfair) - then think "Oh well - I'll save the cost of 3 Christmas cards and 3 birthday cards every year - as I cut off contact with those sisters. Why would I want to know people that treat me that way?"

I don't know if the bit in bold is what you really think or is tongue-in-cheek but if that's your real feelings, I think it's pretty nasty.

Jenniefour

Not the responsibility of the sisters to do anything - father wrote the will, not them. If they offer to do something, great, but if not then probably best left alone - no point in OP spoiling his relationships with them over it.

A will can't be challenged (providing it's written properly and legal) just on the grounds that someone doesn't like the contents.

moneyistooshorttomention

OP wouldnt be the one "spoiling the relationships" - the sisters would.

Imo to say "It wasnt me that wrote that will like that yer honour" is a useful excuse for those that "come out to the good" from an unfair Will. It's perfectly within their powers to amend things after the event and if they've chosen not to do so - then that's down to them and saying that was a useful excuse to use to justify it.

Marvel1

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

OP wouldnt be the one "spoiling the relationships" - the sisters would.

Imo to say "It wasnt me that wrote that will like that yer honour" is a useful excuse for those that "come out to the good" from an unfair Will. It's perfectly within their powers to amend things after the event and if they've chosen not to do so - then that's down to them and saying that was a useful excuse to use to justify it.

What is the point of a will? Save money and not bother.