So surprised to be written out of my fathers will

moneyistooshorttomention

Barny1979 wrote: »

Which is another reason why the OP needs to get over it and move on, or they will eat themselves up trying to reason why.

If the reason is nothing to do with OP - but is some illogical reason - then it should be quite easy to figure it out. Eureka moment of, for instance, "Oh yes....the relevant parent prefers the opposite sex. Not my fault I'm the sex they like less". That sort of thing is easy to work out.....:cool:

Or OP led a perfectly okay/nothing wrong with it lifestyle - but it's not the one the parent concerned had in mind for them to lead and had decided/assumed they would. Also easy to eat work out:cool:

....and then move on and think "Wrong to base decisions on something illogical. I hope I'm more logical than that".

Pollycat

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

If the reason is nothing to do with OP - but is some illogical reason - then it should be quite easy to figure it out. Eureka moment of, for instance, "Oh yes....the relevant parent prefers the opposite sex. Not my fault I'm the sex they like less". That sort of thing is easy to work out.....:cool:

Or OP led a perfectly okay/nothing wrong with it lifestyle - but it's not the one the parent concerned had in mind for them to lead and had decided/assumed they would. Also easy to eat work out:cool:

....and then move on and think "Wrong to base decisions on something illogical. I hope I'm more logical than that".

Or simply accept that that's what his Father wanted at the time of making the will.

Jenniefour

"Reasonable" is often very subjective. Providing the will has been properly drawn up then whether it's contents are deemed reasonable by any beneficiary (or non-beneficiary) is not relevant to how the estate should be dealt with i.e as per the will.

It's certainly not the responsibility of the sisters to try and explain why father decided not share the estate equally between all the siblings, it wasn't their decision, and it's unlikely they know anyway, as per OP's first post.

One of the points of making a will for some people is to ensure that the laws of intestacy can't be applied after they die.

svain

Pollycat wrote: »

Why are they entitled to seek a reasonable explanation?

It's the written wishes of the deceased.

Because it's a reasonable to want to know. If the sisters can't shed any light then so be it. Believe it or not some family's can have difficult conversations without falling out.

Marvel1

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

The real reason may not be anything to do with OP personally (it could just be down to illogical favouritism or OP being the "wrong sex" or quite a variety of other reasons that arent the fault of OP in any way).

Again what is the point of a will?

Cheeky_Monkey

svain wrote: »

it is small in comparison to his sisters amount



oooh your clever :j

So what? A Will doesn't have to be fair, it's just what the person making the Will wants and that should be the end of the matter.

Besides, it's better than a poke in the eye with a pointed stick

Edit: The thread title is also totally wrong - the OP hasn't been left out of the Will at all. He just isn't getting as much as his sisters!

clairec79

To be honest as you have been left a substanstial amount in the will I don't think you'd be able to contest it (or at least win) - you can't argue he forgot you as he named you in it.

I'm sure I've heard about people being left a tiny amount just to prove they hadn't accidentally left them out - they meant it

mattpaint

mrcjevans wrote: »

Wow so many responses, I will try and respond to as much as I can but I? am not the best written individual haha!

My first thought was that it's because when I was younger I was mentally ill, got attacked twice in the space of a month(he didn't know this) any way it put me in a situation where I was doing 'nothing', anyway one day I threw the drugs away and went back to work, this was about 6 years ago. The only thing I can think of is that maybe he thought I was a lazy bum and not worthy back then and this is the only thing being honest that I am can think of.

Me and my three sisters are all from the same mum and dad. Me and two have them have always been close with the third being a bit more hostile towards everyone.

I have not had the best upbringing but I have indeed come through it and am super strong now. As someone pointed out I had some financial issues previously - again when I was young and made a few mistakes on a credit card and a phone bill which originated from when I first got attacked and not from my being lazy. However it has all been cleared and I worked bloody hard to turn my life around. I am very much an open book and have absolutely nothing to hide. Hard work rewarded me though and me and my now wife got a house this year.

I suppose my sister didn't think about it at the time but I have just had to have my wedding and funeral wondering what had I ever done for him to see us so differently.

I won't challenge, I won't speak to my sisters about it. I am just venting on here really because I wouldn't literally do both of those things.

It was my dads house only - me and the three girls were bought up by our mum and step father in her house.

I know I will see them differently if they don't say something to me but please do not assume that this whole scenario is just about money.

I think I will ask for a Larke & Nugus statement from the firm.



It wasn't their home, my dad would never sell his house and I can't believe they are selling it. It was his mothers house that he inherited from her and he loved it so much. He was in a home for a long time towards the end and would keep paying for upkeep and gardening and eveything. He loves that house and I guess part of me is frustrated because I don't know how they can sell it so easily when it holds so many memories.

I am the type of person that gets super frustrated when people aren't how I am, to my detriment sometimes which kind of leads me on to wonder why they have said nothing



I will monitor this thread this afternoon so if there is anything you are curious about just ask as I'm not sure I covered all the queries.

I think you know exactly why your father decided not to leave you the same as your sisters and you should be very grateful he didn't.

Pollycat

svain wrote: »

Because it's a reasonable to want to know. If the sisters can't shed any light then so be it. Believe it or not some family's can have difficult conversations without falling out.

Why is it reasonable?
The will is as it is.
The OP has his inheritance - that's £10k. The inheritance that his Father chose to leave him.
Why should the sisters have to shed any light on what is sod all to do with the OP?
I have no idea what you mean about families having difficult conversations without falling out.

It doesn't matter whether anyone can shed light on anything.
Believe it or not, some families make wills that beneficiaries aren't happy with.

Spendless

Just another thought, was the will made many years ago?

Is it possible that at the point the will was made, the house was worth less and over the years the house has increased in value and that is why there's a discrepancy in the amounts left?

OP- Did you Dad leave you a stated £10K or did he leave you 'all his money'. If it's the latter, then paying out for care home fees over many years would have reduced this amount.