help re baby sleep (merged)

baron777red

thanks very much for your advice and comments

she is at nursery mon, tue, wed, so we will have to try and get them to have her afternoon nap early, and when she is not at nursery we are going to try and give her a nap at about 2, but it all depends on if she's tired

the putting her to bed later seems like a good idea, i think we'll try for about 8.30

cheers

colin

Stewboy1978

Our daughter is coming up for 7 months and is a really good sleeper - 19:00 to 07:00! However due to her teething sometimes she just won't take her bottle then won't sleep as she is crying.

We give here Ashton&Parsons powders then let he suck on her dummy for 10 mins then she is fine.

Not saying this is the problem but it may help?

pukkamum

i would ensure you follow the exact same routine every night, using the same phrases such as "ready for bed now" saying "night night" to everyone, sitting in the same place for maybe ten mins before going to bed. I do all this and it means that if my lo wakes in the night, i can repeat the process (sitting for 10 mins in same spot and saying all the goodnights, even when its just her and me!!!) That way everything you are doing is pointing her towards sleep. I would also try and stop her from using the bottle to fall asleep with as when she wakes in the night she will be wanting it to help her sleep. as for the crying it out sometimes you just have to grit your teeth and bear it although harsh it does work quickly and efficeintly. Obviously you should only do it if you know there is nothing physically wrong with her. Good luck x x x Feel free to p.m me if need any help i was a nanny for 15 yrs and am now a mum of 2 so there isn't much i haven't been through myself!!!

polkadot

My DS is 19 months old now and we still struggle some nights. But mostly he's okay. We all eat at the table together and then dad lets him out his booster with the words "bath time". He heads straight for te bath and there starts wind down. He also goes to bed at about 21.30 and with a bottle. But we pin a dummy on his p.j's and once he had learned to find it on its own by using the small piece of ribbon, he started self soothing.

primrosey

Hi Colin I can definately recommend Gina Fords book "the complete sleep guide for contented babies and toddlers" you do need to stick to the routine but it helps you to know exactly how much sleep your baby should be having at each stage. I stuck to this for my baby who is nearly 2.
Heres a quick guide from my book for 12-24 month olds-

7am awake having milk and breakfast
9.30am nap 15/30 mins eliminated by 18 months
noon lunch
12.30/1 nap no more than 2 hours
5pm tea
5.45 bath
7/7.30 bed

may take a few days but I guarantee it will work if u stick to the sleep times.
Most babies that dont go to sleep at bed times or who keep waking are actually probably over tired!

Woby_Tide

primrosey wrote: »

7am awake having milk and breakfast
9.30am nap 15/30 mins eliminated by 18 months
noon lunch
12.30/1 nap no more than 2 hours
5pm tea
5.45 bath
7/7.30 bed

don't use books but that matches our 6 month olds pattern(though she has bath probably between 61.5/6.30 then bottle then bed as she's normally tired

she dropped a small sleep about 4.30/5 a few weeks back and that coincided with her sleeping through

mrcow

Not trying to be funny, but if it's the same time each night, are you sure that something isn't waking her up? Like someone pulling up in a car outside, or someone coming in from next door, or the tv going on? Just an idea?

She could be waking up when she's just fallen asleep due to a disturbance and you know how rotten that is (if you're a mum you do anway!).

LilMissEmmylou

its prob just routine which is often hard to break. Id say put her to bed later though incase perhaps she just isnt ready for bed at that time. My DD is 13 months and we put her to bed between 8 and 9:30 depending on when she is ready for bed herself. She still wakes around 3am though (regardless of what time we put her to bed). Shes getting quicker at going back to sleep but she still wants u to get up give her her dummy and tuck her in again lol. Just remember we WILL get our full nights sleep back someday

liney

At 11 months old, i think baby still needs 14 - 16 hours of sleep per day, so i wouldn't advise putting her to bed later. Instead i would bring nap time forward to 12.30/1pm so that she is awake for a good 4 hours before bed time and will be ready to go to sleep.

However, it could be a habit formed by her because she knows she will get a big fuss while you try and get her to drop off again. Instead of of 'crying it out' i would leave her in the cot, pat her back, shush her, hand on tummy etc, but no talking. When she calms, leave the room before she is asleep, and return with the same shushing/patting each time she calls you. She eventually learn to put herself to sleep, and trust you will always come when she wants you. This is the Babywhisperer method, and worked for me and my son.

Good luck

jolenejolene

I agree with the above poster - you beat me to it! I put my little one (now 2 ) to bed about 12.30 after his lunch at 12.00 until 2.45pm at the latest. I did the same with my daughter too. (Actually I got this from Gina Fords book) and never had any real problems with their sleep. I believe they need 4 hours plus awake before they are supposed to get naturally tired about 7pm. My son did have a spell of waking up which started when he had a cold. I went in, cuddled him etc and he got to like it . It got so he started waking up several times a night. After a couple of weeks I decided to get tough!! I went in and checked he was OK, then he would cry and shout 'Mummy, Mummy' constantly! I would say 'no, time for bye byes, night night' and close his door. After about 4 nights he realised it wasn't going to work and it soon stopped completely. Back to normal now! Hope that helps? Good luck.