Weekly Flylady Thread 20th November 2017

donnajt

pigpen wrote: »

yes.. is that not what everyone does?

Yes normally but I am determined to declutter before xmas, bedroom is finished and looks so big now toybox has been removed, DS almost done - just found a unit online in argos - hoping to pick up tomorrow so will have to shift wardrobe and freecycle his old toy unit bloody problem with decluttering is cans of worms open up everywhere

donnajt

Honey_Bear wrote: »

I've got a house full of half-done jobs! Basically I've spent two years finishing things off and trying really, really hard not to start anything new.

Honey Bear me too - and every other year i decide to decorate my dining room in November lol

Yet to paint stairwell and carpet is coming next month

atypicalblonde

I want to cry. DS behaviour has been off the scale awful. Not listening at all, laughing at me when I tell him off, refusing to do as he's told. Neighbour came to door with parcel they have taken in for us and DS ran to the door and was just shouting his head off at him. Not being rude, just literally shouting over me 'it's raining, it's cold, who are you?' Whilst I'm trying to speak to the poor man. Neighbour looked v awkward, I wanted to run away.

He's 3, 4 in March, never had this behaviour with DD. Feel like the worlds worst mum. DH adamant he has behavioural issues and we need to get him seen by someone. I think he's just a little boy behaving as they do, but who knows. It's exhausting and I'm fed up of feeling like this.

Moan over, feel free to ignore, just needed to offload x

pigpen

ATB.. that sounds pretty normal.. my 6 year old does it too.. I put these in their pjs after the second warning.. third telling off they go to bed.. including Pixie who was 4 in August. I think they just get bored and ready for more stimulation.. Have you tried having him help? Give him a dustpan and brush or a duster or damp cloth and lots of praise for helping.. I have found when they are being rude I excuse myself from the adult I am trying to speak to and turn to the child and tell them I will listen to them in a moent and that they must go inside, I turn them and send them inside then return to my adult conversation. When we are alone again I explain why they must not be rude, it doesn't stop it overnight but they get there in the end.. a speedy run about outside for half an hour each day might help.. a jar and every time he does something helpful put a marble in it and a treat if he gets a certain number each day.. not a week because that is too long when you're 3. I know it is challenging now and you want to sell him to the milkman but this too will pass.. I promise!!

I am currently trying to stop the baby slapping me in the face while she is feeding.. ggrrr

atypicalblonde

Too emotional to reply properly but THANK YOU Piggers. Having a brew then going to attempt sleep. Tomorrow is a new day x

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

atypicalblonde wrote: »

I want to cry. DS behaviour has been off the scale awful. Not listening at all, laughing at me when I tell him off, refusing to do as he's told. Neighbour came to door with parcel they have taken in for us and DS ran to the door and was just shouting his head off at him. Not being rude, just literally shouting over me 'it's raining, it's cold, who are you?' Whilst I'm trying to speak to the poor man. Neighbour looked v awkward, I wanted to run away.

He's 3, 4 in March, never had this behaviour with DD. Feel like the worlds worst mum. DH adamant he has behavioural issues and we need to get him seen by someone. I think he's just a little boy behaving as they do, but who knows. It's exhausting and I'm fed up of feeling like this.

Moan over, feel free to ignore, just needed to offload x

Sounds par for the course with toddlers - I'd be amazed if there was anything wrong, you just had a more compliant kid the first time round/the undivided attention thing - after all, you have two children, so you physically can't parent him exactly the same as when you just had one (not that you should expect exactly the same from any sibling, because they are completely different people). DD2 was far more work in that sense than DD1 ever was. But seeing as DD2 consented to sleep for 6-8 hours a night from the age of six weeks, whereas DD1's eyes would snap open - if they ever closed in the first place - if I so much as breathed too heavily in the next room - for the first 11 years of her life and she spent the majority of her first 6 whining, wailing and crying if you so much as looked at her funny, I have to admit that the youngest being somewhat stubborn, strong willed and frankly, belligerent, at times, was actually easier.

I see it at work, where one (or two or more) show one type of behaviour/temperament, whether good or challenging and then you meet the next one along and they are completely different - we'd had older ones that were wonderfully well behaved (outwardly at least) and then the youngest is an absolute terror, and ones where the youngest/younger ones were easy to teach and interact with, contrasting with their older sibling(s) who will simply not be missed when they go somewhere else; we've had it with twins as well.



Himself has already texted for a sub until he gets paid. I took full advantage of the overseas banking person asking 'would you like to add a reference to the transaction?'.

Oh yes, I would like to add a reference to the transaction. It's T - W - A - T. Vaguely heard a spluttering noise from the other end of the office where somebody was making coffee at the time, but it was pathetically satisfying to hear the poor man repeat it back to me with absolutely no comprehension of the significance.



Strangely, the kitchen at home is still clean and there were cups, plates and cutlery available for drinking tea, cooking food and eating said food. I have run out of washing up liquid, though.

Natty68

Please can all Christmas card people keep an eye out through tomorrow, an amended card list will be coming through PM's. I will be staggering it through the day so they don't get lost in cyber space somewhere.

Flying wise I decluttered by therapy session, which was hard very hard today, and I was also the main driver for three of my friends to our new therapy building. For some reason I was the only one confident enough to get there by car..lol

Came home and decluttered myself to bed as I've got the sickness lurgy going around.. But I did wash up the breakfast things and do a quick 5 minutes tidy up downstairs before going to bed.

ionafan

Hope things went OK yesterday, LW.

pigpen, you have your children sussed, as usual! :T
(((Hugs))),atb. Has your DS started nursery this year? Children take time to understand that what they see others doing is not necessarily acceptable in their own family.

I lost yesterday afternoon to a tummy upset _pale_ - but I did actually start checking dates and adding quotes to my essay notes yesterday evening (to take my mind off being hungry!), and I slept through the night and am feeling better this morning, so hopefully I will do better today.

After I thought he had forgotten about a fasting blood test at our local treatment centre this morning, DH informed me that the early start will be on Saturday. He will be out all day today from 07:45 - 17:00 and again all day tomorrow but is still planning to go to War Games Club this evening, which will give me time to work uninterrupted except for Rosie's walks.

So my plan for today is:
- eat breakfast, shower and dress
- clean the bathroom, ensuite and workmen's loo
- tidy the LR
- S&S the kitchen
- WMx1 (postponed from yesterday because there wasn't quite enough for a full load)
- onwards and upwards with the essay
- 2 walks for Rosie: if I can get as far as the little wood, rather than going all the way up to the top fields, she can run round happily chasing squirrels on her own for 10 minutes.
- hope to do the town centre shopping that I couldn't do yesterday (it can wait again until tomorrow, if necessary, but in that case I shall have to go and buy some gold-plated bananas from the local shop)
- zzz[STRIKE] if[/STRIKE] when I need to :shhh: and get myself fit again
Fortunately there is no choir practice this evening

See you later x

pigpen

Iona.. I've had a wee bit of practice I don't always get it right and I too have days where I want to bury them all in the garden, sell to the gypsies and stuff them in the bin.. haha!!! The knack is not doing it I've found! I turned into that crazy mum who yells in the street on the way home yesterday.. I told Dot to stop at the road and she ran straight across, in the pth of a reversing van which I had already seen.. this was 2 minutes after she was messing as we crossed a road and she fell over.. I lost my cool and yelled at her, in the street, I am taking backpack with the dog lead on as a deterent when I pick her up from school.. She has been warned that if she will not listen when I am trying to keep her safe then I will force it upon her and put her on the lead.. she said she can undo it.. so I am taking the one which fastens at the back! I win!

ATB ... how's your morning been? I hope your little man has been a bit more compliant and you are calmer.. I think sometimes it is our hormones makes it less tolerable, I know there are a few days of the month when I find the challenging behaviour more irritating and try to make allwances knowing it is me and not them. If it is a behavioural issue they are like it for everyone and everywhereusually

Folded 15 tonnes of washing!

Honey_Bear

(((Hugs))) ATB. I'm not a parent but I admire anyone who takes on the responsibility of bringing up children. However badly you think it's going, you're doing an amazing job. Hang on in there and blow off steam on here when you need to.

Oooooh Ionafan, a clear run at it! Excellent news - and I know your OH will enjoy his days out and Rosie her playful walks.

Kelpie's stomach is exactly 50% better because he only had me out and around the block once during the night, so thanks for the kind wishes for him. Devil Cat likes rabbit. Good.

I'm about half way through the minutes, I have one pillowcase to put on one bed, the carpets to suck in the rooms because I did other scruffy bits yesterday and then I can get back to the filing cabinet. Excellent day, yesterday, let's hope today is just as fulfilling.