Parents want to meet boyfriend

Kirstie_

I get what you are saying but I have to live with her wihinging and complaining. It really isn't worth it

I do stay over yes, I'm happy, I have my own key so I can come and go as I please.

hollydays

Sounds like it’s time to move out.
I had a controlling mother, eventually I got the courage to tell her “but that’s just your opinion”. The look on her face was priceless, I don’t think anyone had ever suggested her word wasnt law before.

Money_maker

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I'm happy and feel loved. I tried explaining this to my mum and she says that she will be the judge of my boyfriend being suitable.

Contradict. Tell her you are the judge of who is suitable and how dare she even consider commenting on that. She says these things to you because you let her. Time to move out and grow up.

KxMx

Kirstie_ wrote: »

I get what you are saying but I have to live with her wihinging and complaining. It really isn't worth it

I do stay over yes, I'm happy, I have my own key so I can come and go as I please.

OP I can 100% relate. I'm 30, still at home due to health reasons and have a very nosy mother who can sulk if she doesn't get her way.

I do know though in the long run putting up with that behaviour is not going to make you happy.

I put up with my Mother's behaviour for a quiet life, until I realised how very unhappy I had become.

So you need to either start making a stand or look into moving out.

One thing I found out was the moans/sulks/hurt feelings were temporary and no lasting damage was done. The end result was less intrusion into my life so totally worth it!

hollydays

Agree, however don’t make the mistake of rushing from an intrusive mother to living with someone you don’t know that well.

amistupid

If you are 26 years old and still live with your parents, I can, to a degree, see why they still treat you like a child.

Comms69

Is this what 26 year olds are like nowadays?


I'd been living solo for 8 years and had a pregnant GF at that age.

Tabbytabitha

Comms69 wrote: »

Is this what 26 year olds are like nowadays?


I'd been living solo for 8 years and had a pregnant GF at that age.

Fortunately, not everybody makes the mistakes you did.😉

Comms69

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Fortunately, not everybody makes the mistakes you did.😉

I'm quite happy actually, but thanks.

trailingspouse

Comms69 - Tabbytabitha has an endearing habit of thinking that everyone should run their lives the same way she runs hers.

I had the same thought process as you - by the age of 26 I'd been married for 7 years and had two kids!