Hen Night Problem.

NeilCr

bluebear36 wrote: »

I've certainly never heard of burlesque involving men.

From the wam bam club

https://www.instagram.com/p/BHr-9y3BNn2/

When we saw them there were more like this. Very much appreciated by the ladies in our party!

bluebear36

NeilCr wrote: »

From the wam bam club



When we saw them there were more like this. Very much appreciated by the ladies in our party!

I stand corrected :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: I suspect they're a rarity though.

Pollycat

bluebear36 wrote: »

I've certainly never heard of burlesque involving men.

I can't imagine a group of women of varying ages (bride and her MIL to be) going to a 'proper' burlesque show (as in women) with this stuff:

Dasa wrote: »

A you know what shaped cake that squirts cream, you know what shaped everything including straws to drink with.

I think it's more likely to be as described in NeilCr's post - and I wouldn't find that entertaining at all.

NeilCr

Pollycat wrote: »

I can't imagine a group of women of varying ages (bride and her MIL to be) going to a 'proper' burlesque show (as in women) with this stuff:


I think it's more likely to be as described in NeilCr's post - and I wouldn't find that entertaining at all.

I’m inclined to that view myself (not the finding it entertaining bit - but that’s personal preference ). But without knowing the venue it’s impossible to say. I understand the OP’s reticence to tell us more but, to be honest, I’d have thought enough has been disclosed already if there was anyone on here who knew any of the parties involved to realise who was being discussed

The getting permission from the partner/spouse thing I do find odd. I know couples where this happens (mostly man giving his agreement) and it doesn’t sit well with me at all. We tell each other what we are doing but there is absolutely no question that the other one would veto anything (or even think of doing so). The only thing I do have to check is dates as she has a large family and I can lose sight of birthdays etc!

NeilCr

Indout96 wrote: »

Not a matter of trust, more of respect for the others feelings but as you say each to their own.

That’s interesting. I respect her feelings (as she does mine) but that doesn’t mean either of us asks the other one for permission to do something.

Pollycat

NeilCr wrote: »

The getting permission from the partner/spouse thing I do find odd. I know couples where this happens (mostly man giving his agreement) and it doesn’t sit well with me at all. We tell each other what we are doing but there is absolutely no question that the other one would veto anything (or even think of doing so). The only thing I do have to check is dates as she has a large family and I can lose sight of birthdays etc!

I think this is a pretty good explanation of how it possibly went:

Malthusian wrote: »

"Darling, I've been invited to a hen party with male strippers." "Well that sounds like a good laugh to me." "I wouldn't be comfortable ogling naked men, so I'm not going to go." "Well it's your choice, as long as you're not refusing just for my sake."

That's probably how it went and at no point has anyone "asked for permission".

I wouldn't ask permission nor would I expect my OH to.
But it would be discussed - as in 'I've been invited to xx'.

NeilCr

Pollycat wrote: »

I think this is a pretty good explanation of how it possibly went:

I wouldn't ask permission nor would I expect my OH to.
But it would be discussed - as in 'I've been invited to xx'.

Quite possibly. But the actual quote, that led to that post, said “her husband said it was okay to go”, which doesn’t quite fit with that scenario.

We talk about what we are going to be doing and, like you, we’d be saying “I’ve been invited to xx”. We’d discuss it but, unless there was a date clash, neither of us would seek to influence in any way whether or not the other was going to attend.

Dasa

I wouldn't either, but then he hates that sort of thing anyway. Myself, I don't like hen nights. One I went to the singer came up to me, took hold of my hand, looked into my eyes and started singing to me. I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me. Things like that creep me out.

cr1mson

On the permission thing I think it can be a question of language. If either me or my husband are invited to things we will often say will need to check with husband/wife. It is not a question of asking permission more checking in that there is not something else on and that the other is free to look after the children. It is a scheduling rather than permission thing.

LadyDee

Just read through this whilst browsing. Good on the person who is refusing to go. Being a close friend of the bride she should be able to approach her, say that what is being organised is not to her taste, and suggest that perhaps she treat the bride to a meal or something for the two of them.

This might give the bride a hint of the type of evening that is being planned and weigh up what her future MIL might think (is this the person who is marrying my son?!) against a possibility that she will, herself, upset the organiser.

The whole thing could come back to bite her in the behind if inappropriate photos surface - even years later. They surely will.

The whole thing sounds horrendous. Don't people do NICE things any more? It seems that the emphasis nowadays is getting as drunk as possible and getting their photos posted on the internet whilst making themselves look as disgusting as possible.